Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be shocked at kids party prices

159 replies

4babiesforever · 10/01/2026 14:17

almost 4 year old has been getting invited to birthdays parties at nursery and from a club he goes to over the past year and a bit and has now asked for a birthday party of his own this this year.
AIBU to be shocked how much it seems to plan a birthday party for kids or should I have expected this?!

  • will be inviting up to 30 kids (nursery class, some pals from club, and lots of cousins lol). cant fit that in our house and I thought th cheapest option would be to hire a community hall as DS would like a bouncy castle. he would like a theme and I’m thinking I could make a lot of the decorations from cardboard, a friend has offered to dress up lol, but even so adding up the cost of hall hire, bouncy castle, and food it all adds up. I’ve been trying to think of an activity that could double up as party favour to take home for example painting themed plaster cast models (I’ve seen kits that have several peices), and making themed cookies to take home (or price of the cake) or books from works etc but still adds up (and I’m planning in a way do I don’t even have to spend on an actual ‘gift bag’) I will provide food for adults as my family would have to travel. everyone I try and cost everything up it comes up to £300/400 - is this normal?
    or does anyone have any good tips? AIBU to be so clueless about this all or to ask for advice please oh ps - theme is ocean animals Tia x
OP posts:
redskydelight · 10/01/2026 14:25

Cheapest take home craft is to buy small paper bags (party bag sized) and provide stickers, foam shapes etc for them to stick on. (you can get these from Poundland, The Works etc and relatively inexpensive).

Buy rich tea biscuits, make up icing and provide a selection of small sweets for them to decorate.

Put them on a paper plate that they have decorated round the edge using felt tips.

I'd personally avoid doing crafts if you have a bouncy castle though. Particularly for that number of children.

Traditional party games will be fine at this age and again pretty cheap.

So your main cost is food and hall hire.

AmusedGreen · 10/01/2026 14:25

In the 80s my mum invited about six kids to my house for sarnies, cake and pass the parcel.

Ask yourself if you really want 30 new toys coming into the house, too.

APatternGrammar · 10/01/2026 14:25

Find out whether anyone at nursery has a birthday around the same time and do a joint party

Needmorelego · 10/01/2026 14:24

We did half a dozen friends at home (small flat) with food from Iceland (they loved the popcorn chicken), few traditional party games and party bags.
If you're hiring a place for 30 kids - it's going to be expensive.

TartanMammy · 10/01/2026 14:22

Parties are expensive.

Do you have a local leisure centre with a small soft play, I've always found hiring one of those to be the cheapest way to do it when they are little. Then a lunch box for food and simple party bags. Sometimes I may add tattoos, which are cheaper and easier than a face painter. I'm not talking about the big soft play venues that charge £20+ per child, I mean the smaller council run leisure places.

At £300 for 30 kids that's only £10 a head which is really pretty cheap. I've never invited that many kid as we couldn't afford it!

Overthebow · 10/01/2026 14:22

Yes I’d say that was normal, all my 5 year old dds parties have cost around that so far and we’re about to start parties for our younger DC too. The only way to make it cheaper really is if you either do everything yourself which means not hiring a bouncy castle, or limiting invites to say 10 friends and doing a small activity instead.

abitgutted · 10/01/2026 14:21

Sounds reasonable to me. You're hiring a hall and bouncy castle, and catering for 30 kids plus adults.

Steamedcarrot · 10/01/2026 14:21

I never did a class party. Ever.

Instead actual friends…. Between 6-10 and did something really good. Go ape, animal encounters (brilliant!) trampling and then pizza express, Climbing.

Probably less than what you’ll pay and the kids really enjoyed and SO much less stress

Acommonreader · 10/01/2026 14:21

Normal for a full class party with an activity I’m afraid! My dc are now teens but I remember their class parties being £300-400 a few years ago. Village hall, party bags , entertainment and food all add up.