To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

Massive over reaction from you. I wouldn’t have sent them home as I wouldn’t want my daughter to be talk of the class and embarrassed because of me. When I read the title I thought it was going to be something really bad. They were playing with water ffs.

Do you not remember what it was like to be a child? Peer pressure is awful. Her daughter could have very well wanted to stop and obey her mum but her friends could have pressured her into ignoring her mum. She could have been completely torn but, not wanting to lose face, chose to go with her mates rather than face potential backlash from her friends (mums are generally more forgiving, she could apologise in the morning).

By showing her up in front of her friends, OP has created a situation which could make school on Monday very difficult for her daughter. Kids can be cruel. If the friends tell other kids about OP's, outburst her poor daughter won't live it down. Granted those are not the kind of friends you really want your daughter to have, but you tactfully try to steer her away behind closed doors, after the event. Kicking off in front of them was not cool at all. A mortifying situation for a child.

OP was fully entitled to be annoyed at the game and especially at the rudeness but, for her daughter's sake, she should have risen above it at the time and disciplined her daughter in private the next day. She went from "stop doing that and clear it up" to "right, you're going home" in what sounds like a matter of minutes. Even threatening to send them home if they carried on ignoring her would have been a bit embarrassing for her daughter but at least it would have given the kids time to reflect on their behaviour and make the right choice, hopefully even apologise. OP did not do that, she went straight to the point of no return and caused a hugely embarrassing situation over something which really just needed a quick apology and move on. The other kids probably would have forgotten about their mate's mum having a bit of a moan after enjoying the rest of their evening/night. They're definitely not going to forget being sent home at 9pm. This will be very hard to move on from for OP's daughter. The ultimate humiliation over what was really just kids being giddy (albeit a bit rude) kids.

On the floor. Are you keeping your floor to hospital sterile standards and regularly licking it?

Is it worse than the toe jam, shed skin, sock sweat that no doubt lives there often?

To me it’s a good excuse to give it a quick clean up afterwards.

In that case, may I suggest you watch it. And read it.

The brittleness, the authoritarianism, the ridiculousness, it's all there!

Just saw this update - kudos to you Op for recognising you got it wrong on this occasion, hopefully you can do something to smooth things over.

Yeah massively OTT there Op. make them clean it up, but didn’t need sending home. They’re only 11, they’ll be even more stupid things you have to deal with in the future!

I'm team OP, it's fucking disgusting and disrespectful. I would have done the same, fuck them. My DD would get an absolute bollocking too.

Never watched it, but if Miss Trunchbull believed that if an adult asked a child to do something, they should do it without being rude and disrespectful, then yes, probably. As a poster upthread pointed out, if OP was posting about an older child behaving like this she’d have been told she should have nipped it in the bud at an earlier age - uncorrected rude and entitled children make rude and entitled adults.

I wouldn’t be surprised to see you on here in 6 months time complaining that your daughter is feeling pushed out the friend group and questioning why. You’ve massively embarrassed your daughter and kids are so fickle (and mean) at that age. Your poor child!

You forgot the eye rolling.

They should teach their kids how to behave in other people’s homes, then.

So OP was acting like an arse because she told them to stop and clean up ? Righty ho.

It was fine to get them to stop playing the game and clean up. It was really not fine to send them home, your poor DD.

What a ridiculous non-sequitur.

One more time for the cheap seats at the back:

They were playing a game! They were having fun! They were happy! They were being 11! The "mess", i.e. a few mouthfuls of water, was the point!

No harm, no foul.

Well, except pretty big harm and fairly major foul now following the OP's lamentable freak out.

OP said she may have been a bit over the top, but the fact remains that they were rude and disrespectful and were punished for it. OP was clear on the reason, so to apologise for that now would be counter productive and confusing.

Excellent way to alienate your child. Laugh and tell them to clean up and do it in the garden.

I'm going to go against the grain. Its not just a bit of fun and a bit of water, its a group of girls continuing to spit all over your kitchen after they have been told to stop.

I might have made it clear I was going to send them home if they hadn't stopped, before actually sending them home, but I think you have every right to be pissed off.

Agree that the eye roll was rude and you should have called them out for that, but I’d have told them to aim better or sent them outside to continue and got them to clear up afterwards. Just be thankful they weren’t making slime with your expensive conditioner, or making some other weird inappropriate concoction in the microwave - although my daughter was at primary when this happened.
When they start wanting parties when they are older be prepared to find food/drink all over the floor, being called in to clean up vomit - inside and outside, broken glass, bottles in places bottles don’t live (cupboards not trips to A&E places!), the inability of any of them to put their empties in the recycling boxes you leave out, and hundreds of half drunk cans, making sure the really drunk ones eat the baguettes to soak up the alcohol and hopefully prevent them throwing up, being emotional support for the emotional, crying child.
You shouldn’t have sent them home, I hope your daughter doesn’t suffer at school because of this!

It's nice to be daft.. at least they were laughing!! 😁

Agree. If OP wrote a post about a 16/17 year old that she asked twice to clear up some mess they had made in the kitchen and they hadn’t done it and rolled their eyes then a lot of the posters would
be smugly saying ‘you should have nipped this in the bud years ago.’ And telling her you reap what you sow. Basically she is doing now what hopefully will benefit her further down the line. I wouldn’t have done this, but I kind of wish I had.

Blimey. Miss trunchbull indeed. Lighten up, it was a silly game, they were having fun and some water on the floor. It the op hadn’t been acting like an arse they’d not have rolled their eyes.

Ok, Miss Trunchbull!

Nope. Nothing to do with being fragile, uptight or houseproud. Nothing to do with the nature of the game either. But everything to do with expecting your young child and her guests to do as they were told when asked, not have to be told multiple times, and then react in such a rude and disrespectful way. The fact that you are attributing that expectation to some sort of mental health condition is laughable.

When my 14 year old son had a sleepover they played this and asked me to join in!
It was great fun to be fair.

If I was a kid who had been kicked out for being disrespectful I would have still gone back for sleepovers if I liked my friend. After all it is not unusual for kids to complain how awful and unreasonable their not awful parents are 😁 I’d have been more aware of behaving myself next time and my mum would have given me a telling off too (this was the days where you got told off by a teacher or parent then got told off again by your own parents).