To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

Well if the kids had had any manners they would have done as they were asked & could have continued with the sleepover.

It’s a bit of water? Your poor daughter is probably so embarrassed. I’d be rolling my eyes too.

Exactly. These things need to be dealt with in private. Friendships change over the years and can often be steered by parents of you drip feed carefully enough. If you kick off in front of the bratty child, letting them and their parents know you think their behaviour is awful, the one who ultimately suffers is your own child who is embarrassed and could face backlash at school.

Of course manners are important, but I would never humiliate my own child in front of their friends to make that point. You address it in private, as a family, that you found the behaviour rude and were really disappointed in them (then hope and pray they make some nicer friends).

It was water...

I teach kids this age and we have played it in class, i joined in (part of their end of term fun day). Its a challenge type thing on tiktok. Its also water, not acid 🙄
I rolled my eyes reading your post tbh so can see why they did too. As long as they cleaned up the mess I cannot see the issue at all. Even if they didnt clean it.... Water dries!!!

This is what I did to a kid who was here who had no respect for my son’s possessions or the house in general. I waved him and his mum off in the morning (when she picked him up), said nothing to either of them, but he never stepped foot in the house again.

You are never too young to learn or be taught manners. Obviously that’s not something a lot of parents care about so it’s not surprising they think manners and having fun are mutually exclusive.

If your daughter lives to 100 she will remember the embarrassment of last night. How I handle these things is to only give out to my child. I would have asked to her to come with me for a second - told her off for not listening to me. The eye roller would never be over my door again. There was a woman I know who kicked off about behaviour after her kids 6th birthday. She committed social sucide. If they are shits I wave them off say little and NEVER have them back.

I had a kid break my tv!!! Yes I was annoyed. Yes I told the mum. But the girl bless her was trying to help. She tried to clean it. So I get why she did it

like I said. Kids sometimes don’t mean to do that.

Yup.

this.

Well you taught your guests a lesson most likely at the expense of your daughter. I’ll never forget a mum explaining to my daughter that her behaviour had not been great but she did it in a very kind, supportive, forgiving way which I was very appreciative of.
I think you were harsh and I suspect your daughter will pay the price.

It's going to be lovely for her daughter at school on Monday when it gets round.

Water on the kitchen floor?

wouldn’t of bothered me at all. My kids play tha game. In the summer they do it outside. They were trying to keep it in the bowl but humans aren’t infallible. They make mistakes from time to time even when they’re not trying too hard

it’s only a little water.

theyre only 11……they were trying too hard the didn’t do it to harm anyone. They didn’t hurt anyone. Nothing got damaged.

people make mistakes. We’re human.

I played lots of silly games at sleepovers. It’s just one of those things!
I’d like to think when mine are that age it will make me smile and remind me of childhood sleepovers and be glad they have friends to have fun with.
I think you need to apologise to your daughter and maybe have a quick chat with the mums and say you were overly stressed about other things and realised you over reacted and invite their daughters back. And then be much more lighthearted with them.

Why can’t she manage that herself ? They all know what they did was wrong and the friends know why they were sent home. Any minimising of that, or worse still an apology will negate the punishment.

What do you mean "they all know what they did was wrong"? There is absolutely zero consensus on this, even among adults, as the poll above clearly shows.

Your daughter must have been mortified!!
I really feel sorry for her and what her friends will say at school.
Yes a bit of water on the kitchen floor is annoying and I agree, I would have made them clean it up too after the game, BUT sending them home was a complete over reaction IMO

I’d have had stern words to make sure they knew I was serious. I wouldn’t have left the room until it was cleaned up then I would have sent them to get ready for bed and put a film or something on when they’d done that.

Sleepovers are silly and 11 year olds aren’t great with impulse control when they’re with their mates and they’re excited. They’ll need adult intervention to de-escalate things at times, more than they would on their own at home.

It’s not funny because you’re an adult (although I’ve seen this being done on social media and it did make me laugh),but as a teenager it would be funny.
I get you having an internal WTF moment but I’d have let them be, it was only water after all. I’d have told them to clear up when they’re done and left them to it.

Because kids at that age, especially girls, can be vicious. So if I were OP, I'd want to help my DD prepare for any negative reaction. And I think they should be minimising! It was a massive overreaction on OP's part to demand that the parents come and get them. I'd have been really hacked off if I were one of those mums and dads.

It’s not funny because you’re an adult (although I’ve seen this being done on social media and it made me laugh),but as a teenager of course it would be funny. Sleepovers are supposed to be a bit of fun.

I get you having an internal WTF moment but I’d have let them be, it was only water after all. I’d have told them to clear up when they’re done and left them to it.

It sounds like you wanted to send at least one of them home anyway and this gave you a good excuse.

I think I would have laughed and told them if they want to spit water everywhere they have to play outside in the freezing cold.
With the eye rolling, this is fairly normal when kids are caught out and don't know what to do with their embarrassment.
I would have taken dd aside and had a serious word about making a mess and responding appropriately, and hopefully everyone would be a bit more thoughtful or she wouldn't be having any more sleepovers.

They where having fun they wasn't hurting anyone and now you have put your daughter in a really crappy situation.

No thanks, l’m happy with the way l am - don’t need to compare myself with a figment of some authors’ imagination which you’ve picked out of the air to fit your narrative.

Crikey. I’m sorry but you overreacted. I would have been firm and asked them to clear up the water but I wouldn’t have cancelled the sleepover!