To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

If they doing it with soup you might have had a point. I would have told they all to clean up the mess and ask not to do it again…

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Like what? My mind is boggling over what terrible things eleven year olds might be up to!

It’s water? I think you overreacted.

I wouldn’t have sent them home for that. A bit stupid, but it was just harmless fun.

I think this is the crux of it, don’t humiliate your own child in front of their friends. This really is the take away for OP for the future. In awkward situations or ones that I’ve not been happy with regarding kids I have always run it by my child first (as in, do you want them to stay, do you want me to say something). The answer has invariably been no, they don’t want me to say or do anything, so I don’t.

They were rude and disrespectful. I wouldn't have sent them home, as thir parents may have made plans such as date night etc. However, I would have spoken to DD the next day to let her know this is not acceptable behaviour and they won't be welcome for another sleepover anytime soon.

I’d have let them play their game and ensured they tidied up st the end of the game.

dont be surprised when your dd friends don’t want to come to your house or socialise with your dd due to your overreaction.

Honestly, at 11 they could be doing so much worse than playing a silly game. I think you were a bit harsh there OP.

Having to ask them more than once, then them eye rolling was really rude and disrespectful - and I would have done the same thing!
Its not about the water - it's blatantly doing something the person hosting you has asked you to stop, then being rude about it when asked for a second time. How is that acceptable?

Can't believe the amount of people on here saying to just let them get on with it. No wonder there's so many rude and entitled little shits about. They learn it's fine to act like this!

We had great hands off fun as children.
My favourite friendly mum would allow us make a mud rocks in the back garden, she would fill buckets of water and let us play in the mud for hours.

I’d have sent them to the walk in shower 😂

The eyerolling is not cool, but you were being lame. Lots of parents would have been fine with this game. There are much worse things 11 year olds can be doing!

My mum would have went mad if I done this with my friends at 11.

My parents were the type to say children should be seen and not heard. Even talking and laughing at the dinner table was seen as ‘messing around’.

However I remember how that felt and children only get one childhood. Therefore this wouldn’t have bothered me at all!

They could absolutely have been doing worse things than this silly trend.

There's a world of difference between spitting water into a bowl as part of a game and spitting in someone's house like you're implying. Yes, some of the water got on the floor during the game but they were mucking around, not spitting in anger or insolence.

Lol at this. Have you seen how outraged people are on this thread that OP wouldn't let children spit on her floor? Can you imagine the fallout if she actually disciplined them?!!

My house, my rules, your kid, your problem.

Tell them they have to clean the mess before going to bed, yes. Sending them home? Poor daughter, nobody will ever come over now, you didn’t need to be such a spoiler-dragon. What would you rather - they’re on phones all night?

She did tell them to stop playing and to tidy up, and they completely ignored her and carried on as they were......

The OP didn't deal with the problem on her own in her house. This to me is very wrong. Yes they were her house, her rules but that means its also her responsibility to deal with the issues that arise and not go immediately telling tales. It makes her sound incompetent. If I was the other parents I'd think OP can't manage children at all.

At 11? I honestly don't know. For all we know her daughter also rolled her eyes and said ignore her. Or they were about to stop. Or they meant to but just got a bit silly and so didn't stop immediately. They're children.

Id have done the same op and if you rang me and told me my child was spitting in your house and then rolling their eyes at you, id be so embarrassed and dc would be in a lot of trouble. You dont go to other people's houses and behave that way.

Maybe, but as a guest in her house you would stop the game & clean up wouldn't you?

Sending them home is OTT, and I’m not one to tolerate bad behaviour or disrespect.

You would be rolling your eyes at a narky mother totally overreacting to what you see as a bit of fun.

I think people are being very unreasonable about a bunch of 11 year olds at a sleepover. There's absolutely no room for normal childhood silliness on here at times and that's fucking sad. Maybe treating children like human beings instead of either lords of the manor OR little robots who do what you say simply because you say would go a longer way to fixing all the social ills that people seem to think are embodied in a few silly girls having fun.

Why would you be rolling your eyes about being asked to clean up water that you had spilt/spat?