To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

'It's just water' - they were spitting it out! Revolting & unhygienic

Well I meant in the context of having your kids school friends over for a sleepover, not in the context of extreme brutality or seriously delinquent behaviour that might need police involvement.

If youre going to act batshit, eye rolls are the consequence 🤷🏼‍♀️

I feel so sorry for your child

wow that’s an overreaction, it was just water! My brothers did this on a regular basis growing up 🙄

They should have stopped when you said and cleared up but I would have just stepped in and taken the bowls away and handed them cloths, then sent them away to do something else.

It's like listening into a conversation you weren't involved in

It wasn't intended to be seen
I'm rolling my eyes reading the OP 🤷

You can't imagine what an 11 year old might be doing that's worse than playing a silly game?

• Finding the alcohol stash
• Viewing inappropriate things online
• Murdering small animals
• Painting all over the house
• Setting small fires

Massive overreaction. It’s some water and they’re just having some fun. By all means make them clear up the water but sending them home?!?
Really selfish of you given the potential knock on effect this might have on your DD too.

Good she caught them then!!

It's still just as disrespectful.

I had a flour fight at a sleepover as a teen 🙈

They rolled their eyes behind the OP's back, they didn't expect to be seen and didn't do it to be seen

So for future refernce:
The first time you need to correct/explain/offer an alternative:
"How about we play this in the bathroom as I'd rather not have spit in the kitchen?"
"Can we stop using the soup bowls and use this washing up bowl/sick bowl/bigger bowl instead?"
"How about we clean this mess up and then pick a film and I'll make hot chocolate and popcorn?"

Then stay and make sure they tidy up

If they start playing it again:
"We said we'd stop playing this now. Tidy up and come out of the kitchen"

The eyeroll just needed a "I can see you and I don't appreciate that attitude"

Your reaction (and some of those on here!) was akin to them spitting in your face and calling you a c*nt tbh

And i would sure as hell not have a child at that age roll her eyes at me,rude little madam

I would definitely have sent them home. They showed little or no respect for you . Well done you !

Garden's different, though. And presumably you were polite enough as a child not to roll your eyes at your friends' mums?

I’d have said, girls go and play that in the bathroom please and shoo’d them out the kitchen. Then I would have just let them get on with it upstairs.

My mum was really weird about having friends over so it was really important to me that I had an open house policy for my own children’s friends. That ddn’t mean it was anything goes but I had a very flexible approach. They didn’t have to eat formally at the table with me, they could play without me micro managing them but if they didn’t work out as a pleasant guest they didn’t get re-invited.

I am a former educator and I’d usually be the first to agree behaviour has declined and yes it’s at least partly due to how they’re being raised.

I also wouldn’t have rolled my eyes at a friends parents at age 11 and I do feel that is possibly a sign of the times.

But equally, I feel OPs response was disproportionate and what’s wrong with modern society .

People have become so prickly and can’t deal with any inconvenience.

As a 90s kid most parents would have just had a stern word with their own kid and told them to make sure they fall in line OR warned the other kids directly. I don’t think they would be calling the parents to collect them at 9pm unless there was an emergency.

Basically they would’ve been robust enough to handle a slightly gross game and some eye rolling.

Good lord OP! They were messing with water, not setting fire to your house whilst dancing naked round the garden shed!

Yes…you overreacted…massively!

I think you did the right thing OP. There's a bit of a trend at the moment to allow really poor behaviour from children, and you're right - even aside from the disgusting game, eye-rolling is so disrespectful.

Perhaps if more parents had better expectations for their children, behaviour in schools wouldn't be as dreadful as it currently is.

They’re kids! I’d never embarrass my daughter in front of her friends. I’d deal with it after the sleepover. Obviously unless it was something life and death related!

Came on here expecting to agree with you, but ended up voting YNBU.
as a form of youth club leader I often used to play name that gargled tune icebreaker. Everyone took turns to gargle a well-known tune using water from a non-shared glass and spitting it into a communal bowel afterwards. Sorry I can imagine this is really grossing you out.
As for your situation- my take is They were children, it is Friday evening, they are having fun and unwinding. And yes, when they visit each other’s houses, they will go slightly mad. But, consider, if you think this is bad, how will you cope if teenage hormones result in behaviour manifested you don’t approve? Perhaps for your own sake manage your expectations. Yes, children do push against boundaries but if they think they are too restrictive, you may find they tear them down completely.

Being silly is what childhood is especially at that age. The friends felt comfortable in your home and felt able to mess around as they do when they are overly excited for the sleep over. Sorry OP but think it was an over reaction on your part. I also would be thinking about the parents of the friends who finally have a night off and may have made plans.