To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

I would be more concerned at your child and friends copying Scott Mills.
If you don't nip this in the bud, pretty soon they will be self obsessed and interviewing each other whilst only talking about themselves.
And pretending that they are still 11 when they are 45...

Oh dear. My 11year old daughter had a friend over Friday night - they made a huge mess making hot chcolate then an even bigger mess dressing up in hilarious outfits from whatever they could find. They laughed and laughed until they cried I wish I could have joined in! They made a paltry effort to tidy up, so it was largely left to me, but 11yr olds happy having fun! I’ll take that over pre-teen angst which you have likely caused.

@VictorBaucherOrSomething i wouldnt be surprised if the gossip spread at how unwrlcoming a mother you are. When your kids are teens you want to be the party house, better at your house than away. It doesnt mean you dont have rules and consequences, but this was innocent. Wait till they start drinking

What a needlessly smug reply.

So you sent 11 year-olds home from a sleepover because they spit water on your kitchenfloor and rolled their eyes? Seriously?

OMG. Seriously???? Tidying up is for after the game, or when the pals leave the next day. Thats the deal with my kids. That game is hilarious we ve played it a lot

Kids get really excited at sleepovers and rolling their eyes when they thought you couldn’t see them isn’t really a terrible offence.

Would you send an adult friend home if they were at a party at your house and you accidentally saw them roll their eyes when you told everyone to quieten down?

I’m not surprised your daughter isn’t speaking to you this is really embarrassing for her. You could have just told them again they need to stop or they’d have to go home rather than send them straight home. I doubt they’ll want to ever come round again.

Hi @VictorBaucherOrSomething

this age is so tricky. For me it was a time of transition from more "laying down the law" to explaining in more detail why things are safe or sensible to do and hoping that you're listened to by your tween into teen
I have said this on here before many times, but I'm a firm believer that as a parent you're listened to when you have a good bond or when they think generally you're fair.
This type of activity, where they're having fun, they've been sensible and moved to the kitchen to not damage carpets , is a time to show an interest, laugh with them, say it will need cleaning when they've finished, help them clean up later, ask questions about the game. Bonding a bit with your daughter's friends also helps in the future.
By the time it may get to sneaking a drink, going out, boys, being in on time - when you draw a very firm line on something, they will listen and also turn to you for advice because they trust you and understand you and what you think is really important.
They won't see you as the "grumpy irritated never allows any fun" one! I'm not saying this is you now - but fun sleep overs with laughter are a really good time to get to know friends and gain trust too.

Your daughter is going to suffer for this at school.

Yes gross behaviour but I think they may have got the idea from something viral
online. I saw Zoe Sugg playing this game in a YouTube vlog with grandparents and the 3/4 year old child.

I have mixed feelings. It wasn't necessarily messy as such (as it was only water) BUT they didn't clear up when asked and they were quite disrespectful, albeit behind OP's back.

I remember having a party as a child (I was maybe 9 or 10) and a couple of the kids kept throwing our sofa cushions at each other, despite having been asked not to do so. They then climbed all over the armchairs and sofas. My dad told them to get their stuff and took them home. And when he did so he told the other parents why.
I don't remember being particularly embarrassed, other than by the behaviour of those kids when they were in my house.

I am of two minds because obviously at this age I would have stopped being asked to as a guest BUT…
you kinda pushed YOUR DD in front of the bus and she will be talked about this at school now which I don’t envy her because instead of « we had great fun »…it will be « I got sent out ».

About the other parent…I would be miffed too as you jumped at this and ruined her plan for no major reason :/

Breathe or have someone else watch the sleepover if you want your daughter to have friends at school!

Your poor poor daughter. No wonder she was embarrassed.
You will be the centre of unwelcome attention at school. She won't dare invite anyone for a sleepover,even assuming they would want to come. They eye rolled you behind your back. They didn't intend you to see it. It was only water. Don't know how you would react having boys shooting water pistols all over the place.
I actually think it is cute they are still playing games rather than using makeup and trying to be grown up. You sound very uptight. Chill out!

A total overreaction I think. You could have warned them. Clean up or sleepover is over but you didn’t give them the opportunity. If you can’t tolerate some carry on during a sleepover don’t have them.

I think for the eye rolling then yes. You did the right thing.

For DD’s sake, you should apologize and take them out for ice cream. Tell them you were having a bad day and overreacted. It’s okay to admit you made a mistake.

I’m in my 20s - and this water thing is just a try not to laugh challenge, they were probably filming it for socials. It’s dumb but I also think you need to give them some freedom to do dumb things. I had sleepovers doing gross things like the cinnamon challenge or eating spicy noodles or those gross jelly beans.
I don’t really think this manky water incident is that weird or unusual in comparison

You absolutely did the right thing. It’s no wonder kids have no respect for anything if parents turn a blind eye to kids who disrespect other people’s (especially the adult/parent/teacher/home owner etc) requests.

I mean if it was me I’d have made them clean it up and then said if you want to carry on you can get your coats on and head outside. Maybe a light scolding of “come on that’s gross I have to cook food in here I don’t want you spraying backwash about”. I definitely wouldn’t send them home over it.

Wow , aren’t you a bundle of joys?! You do realise there’s a thousand worse things they could have been doing ( online/ in secret etc) but they were actively and innocently being ridiculous. You could have asked them to clean up. Now you’ve embarrassed your DC, made sleepovers less likely both at your house and elsewhere , and encouraged them to think of other far more risky ways they could have fun. I wouldn’t like my kitchen being messed with but, seriously, get a grip.

No I would have let them do that. Sending home would have to be something really bad. In years to come it’s a memory for them, no biggie for me.

My sympathies lie with OP. The girls were told to stop and to clean up. They didn't. Unacceptable behaviour straight away.
Then they roll their eyes because they're told off again?! Good you sent them home.

DD should be embarrassed that she behaves so poorly and disrespectfully towards her mother!

Good on you, OP. I would have done exactly the same.

If their behaviour was annoying you that much, I would have said look find something else to do i need to do x in the kitchen.

Total overreaction on your part @VictorBaucherOrSomething