To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

You were harsh to send home and ruin other parents plans - what if they had gone out for a meal etc

you should have made them clear it up but kept the sleepover

We played this game with our kids on NYE. It’s really fun. Seems a shame to send them home over this.

She didn't parent well by jumping straight to extreme reactions

Better parenting would have been to explain why the game was inappropriate/suggest alternative ways to play that made it appropriate, helped tidy up or at least stayed around to make sure it was done and diverted to another activity

Sending home for the minor crime of... eyerolling behind OP's back gives very little in the way of escalating consequences for actually bad behaviour

Are you always this uptight?

Some parents appear to have been raised in straight jackets and don't know the simple pleasure of innocent fun.

DD won't understand. They were playing messily I agree. Better than being glued to phones or tv.
With respect your boundaries are very rigid.

Well done OP, your child could be getting up to stuff that turns your hair white, but you ruined her perfectly innocent fun.

To send them home probably was mortifying for your DD. However It's no wonder kids are acting the way they are going by these replies.

Massive overreaction. This is just kids being kids. I would have been relieved my daughter's sleepover was going well and they were having fun. I maybe would have taken her to one side and told her that she was responsible for cleaning up once the game was done but I wouldn't have told the other girls off. Your daughter is unlikely to forget this incident.

You might need to prepare yourself for the teen years OP, the eye rolling is constant!

YABVU

I would have distracted and diverted if the activity was bothering me. Settled them in front of a film with some snacks or something and then mopped up myself.

It's quicker and easier to whisk the bowls off them and be bright, breezy and brisk with your disapproval and then move the whole thing on to something else.

You've made an absolute mountain out for a molehill.

I didn't want to wind you up but only a couple of months ago we had 15 yr olds here for a sleepover after a party elsewhere and they vomited in my kitchen after being collected by dh......you will honestly look back on this and realise these were the easy days.

Sleepovers weren't a thing when I was their age but DD has had a few here and at friends' houses. I listened to what DD said about the host parents when she came home and that's how I learned not to be a party pooper but to have boundaries.

In that situation I'd have brought the mop & bucket in for them & then joined in - even adults can have silly moments.

They should have stopped when you said.

But it’s not a battle I’d have had.

Sleepovers are for fun, noise and a bit of mess.

Starting to explain why things are sensible or safe at the age of eleven?? Thats about ten years late.

I’d have joined in. Then made sure that they all help clearing up. Some of my best memories as a child were playing silly games with my parents. We all turned out fine and with well defined boundaries. You can be a strict parent that knows how to play.

Thats part of the problem, children are way to fixated on their peirs because the attachment to their parents/adults is not strong enough. (Google G. Neufeld for more detailed explanation.)

There isnt anything to be embarrassed about being sent home after what they did - I mean the eyerolling and attitude. Sad that people find that acceptable.

I disagree with the pol.

They were rude. I think you were right to send them home.

The girls didn't have the right boundaries, well done for parenting them. I hope your DD appreciates what happened. If she doesn't explain it to her. YANBU.

Sounds like you were triggered into reacting. Often when a parent reacts to their perception of disrespect then it's more to do with them than the child\ children.

Gosh kids can't get it right these days can they? If they play and make a mess then they are in trouble. If they vegetative in front of a screen their brains rot.

it's just water. Shame to have been harshly punished for innocent play.

Disgusting but maybe wouldn’t have sent them home

And just to add.. this is a huge trend on social media. People holding water in mouth and trying not to laugh… when they do water gets spat over each other.. it is horrible but it’s a trend celebrities and all-sorts of people are doing, kids are bound to copy!

You’re very mean.

You need to unclench.

They were over excited and being silly.

They got a little bit of water the floor - the horror!

You massively overreacted.

Well done OP, boundaries are a good thing.

Your reaction was OTT.
Sleepovers are supposed to be fun and the game was innocent.
I'd have left them to get bored and then asked them to mop the floor.

Oh God! I have a teenage daughter, I’d have asked them to be careful and told them any mess they make will be their job to clear away! And that’s the rule I’d have enforced..
I wouldn’t have sent them home or told them stop because I’d have worried it was social suicide for my daughter. They will now be saying what a killjoy @VictorBaucherOrSomething is and your poor DD will probably get laughed at in school tomorrow for having an uptight mum…
Id have been humiliated if my mum did this to me,

Highlight the behaviour and have a conversation about respect for other people's homes, but send them home?

They are 9, they are learning. Your own daughter whose lead they were taking because it was her home, was fully involved?

Fixable though, with apologies to the girls and another invitation. We all react. :)