To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

It's only water, so unless you have some kind of flooring that's likely to be damaged by water (not a great idea in a kitchen) I wouldn't really care as long as they cleaned it up afterwards. It's quite a sweetly childish game to be honest - I was worried they were going to be looking at inappropriate stuff on the internet or making prank calls or something......

I also think you really embarrassed your daughter, and knowing how mean kids that age can be, potentially damaged her friendships. Not something I would ever do to my child.

Even if I was really cross with her about sleepover behaviour, unless it was actively dangerous or destructive I would wait and properly have it out with her after the friends left.....

To me, you owe her an apology, OP. But clearly your relationship with your daughter is very different from mine with mine.

(My daughter is a well behaved respectful girl who is open and honest with me. I believe because I show her respect and tolerance in return).

Not ideal but definitely an overreaction on your part. I think she will have been really embarrassed and her friends will probably tell other friends (but only from their side obviously and not the fact that they were eye rolling / being rude)
Will your DD want them to come over again? That could be tricky (or maybe you won’t want them there - but she probably will)

She’s at the age where she / her friends are morphing into pre teens so I would learn to expect some boundary pushing.
DD is 18 now and DS 15. I have never seen anything like that from DS’s friends but I have with the odd friend of DDs when she was younger (they are all absolutely lovely and polite / respectful now) .

I would have very firmly told them to stop and let the friends know I had seen their eye rolling which would have embarrassed them and your DD. But I wouldn’t have sent anyone home.

I am not saying what they did was ok - at all… but I do think that this was a knee jerk over the top reaction on your part.

Weird replies. I think that’s a disgusting game to play in the kitchen and they were lucky you didn’t send them outside. That’s an outside game. If it’s too cold tough.

This.
I feel so sorry for your daughter, this is going to be all round school by now, no wonder she's not speaking to you, she'll be mortified, and very upset. Hope it was worth it?

As an aside, how on earth are you going to cope when they're teenagers and start off and at your house having "pre's" before heading out ...now that does get a bit messy lively! And I loved it, a kitchen full of teenagers having a laugh was just brilliant!
Actually, don't worry about it, nobody is going to want to come anywhere near you, your dd will just go out all the time and you'll have absolutely no idea what she's doing then....

I’m a clean freak but I wouldn’t have sent them home.

I would have handed them towels and told
them to enjoy but I wanted it cleaned up after.

I'm not surprised they rolled their eyes.

Huge overreaction! I think you need to work on reparing your relationship with your daughter asap. Otherwise you risk her not wanting to come to you when something is wrong in fear of your reaction.

I'd have laughed and said clear it up when you've finished playing. Boys are far worse. Water (and worse)on the floor pretty much daily just from being a boy! 🤣🤣🤣

You need to chill out.

I get teaching responsibility and respect for your house, but she's a kid. Let her be one.

No I would t ha e sent them home, just make them clear it up, it's only water!

They're 11 year old kids having a laugh.

Why couldn't OP just let them get on with it and tell them "make sure you clean up after yourselves please"?

Honestly. Stop taking life so seriously, you might enjoy it more.

They were not really doing any harm and you have really embarrassed your daughter. Yes preteen/teen girls can be awful. It is a phase. You should not have sent them home. Perhaps the parents had planned a night out if they didn’t have their child. They could have already been out.

So? Does that somehow mean it's toxic or impossible to clean up? 🙄

So? Does that somehow mean it's toxic or impossible to clean up? 🙄

Eye rolling in response to a ridiculous overreaction is completely normal behaviour.

Well this is a bit of an eye opener for me. How is it just a bit of fun spitting water all over the floor in someone else's house, not stopping and clearing it up when asked to then being rude and disrespectful to the person whose home it is? They're 11 so old enough to have a bit more sense than that. No wonder so many children behave in such an entitled way and do whatever they want.

OP asked them to stop and clear up. They not only ignored her but rolled their eyes behind her back when she asked a second time.

Oh God yes, I forgot about the boyfriends.

She'll be far too nervous of her mum's behaviour to bring any of those home either.

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The eye rolling, at that age too. I’m against the majority here and would have sent them home for their rudeness in an adult’s home, not for the mess.

"As an aside, this game sounds very fun and I'm going to ask DH and DD to play it with me this evening. 😅"

10/10 can recommend. We've used Insta vids or funny filters 😂

It’s some water on an easily cleaned floor. I wouldn’t have been bothered at all.

You could have at least driven them home, no wonder the parents were pissed off. I’d only expect to go out to collect mine in an emergency.

I mean kids have behaved badly at my house before and I don’t invite them back but I certainly wouldn’t have cancelled the whole thing in those circumstances.

I’d have made them clear up but not send them home. I would then tell dd they wouldn’t be allowed to stay again for a long time.

So you wouldn't have told these 11 year old children off?

You would've jumped straight to 'get out of my house' instead?

Blimey, North Korea has nothing on some of the posters here.

Oh no op. I think you've made a mistake here.
I agree with pp thar shutting the game down, getting them to clear it up and move them on to something else would have been a better option.
I probably wouldn't have had them back either because they were rude and disrespectful, but you over reacted.

Oof, that's going to be hard for your daughter to recover from.

I think you were way too harsh. To me, I'd be weighing up embarrassing my daughter and possibly causing friendship issues versus letting them make a mess with a bit of water and clean it up when they're done.

If my child was sent home from a sleep over for something that's really rather innocuous, I wouldn't be letting her go back to your house ever again and I'd be hesitant to encourage the friendship going forward because I honestly couldn't be arsed with the drama. I hope it was worth it for having some water spat on your floor.