To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

I wouldn’t have sent them home but I would have had stern words with my child the next day and told her no more sleepovers if she felt this lack of respect was considered acceptable. I’d have found the spitting the water into my crockery very off putting.

I wouldn’t have dreamt of behaving like that at a friend’s house in my day.

@FrangipaniBlue 😮

It’s illuminating to see who on here has proudly “raised” the kind of children who would spit all over the floor of a house they are a guest in. And then be rude when asked twice to stop.

I too think it’s an over reaction.
I would not have cancelled the sleep over for that.

FFS, it was only a bit of water. They could have been asked to put a towel down, and tidy up when they were finished.

I’d roll my eyes at someone being to uptight and unreasonable. And then sending them home? How mortifying for an 11 year old to have people at school talking about what a knob their mum is.

Best to have left them to it, or possibly joined them for a round rather than your bloody tantrum with a group of kids who weren’t hurting anyone, and were having harmless fun.

No I wouldn’t have sent them home. I just wouldn’t have them again. It must have been really embarrassing for your dd.

"I’m by no means uptight"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This is the hill you want to die on?

I dread to think how will you react in a couple of years when there are serious issues to contend with.

No - she told them once, they ignored her, and when she told them again, they rolled their eyes at her and she sent them home.

I don’t think it was an overreaction - they were asked to stop playing a game that was making a lot of mess (I wouldn’t have been allowed to play this kind of game as a kid) and ignored a reasonable request from the adult in charge. The only thing I might have done differently is on the 2nd time playing the game I would have warned them that if they didn’t stop immediately they would be going home if they didn’t stop the game and failed to follow the house rules and my instructions. Then 3rd strike … call the parents.

You told them to stop, they didn't.
You told them to stop again, you got eye rolls.

If you don't behave or friends can't behave, you don't have sleepovers.

YANBU.

I mean, that's what cleaning supplies are for.

They were rude but I would not have sent them home. Your poor daughter. She must be mortified.

Yes sorry OP - you overreacted!

I have seen this many times online with adults and children.
I probably would have put some old towels down and had a go myself.
You have embarrassed your daughter big time and totally overreacted.
I wouldn't send my child back to yours in a hurry.

You are a fun sponge.
It is the try not to laugh challenge.
yabvu and a bit embarrassing.
I would have suggested they play the game on the patio

The only problem with the game was the mess on the floor but as long as it was an easy to clean floor and they did clean it up then no harm done.
I think you overreacted.

I'd be so pissed off too but I know I'm really uptight! I manage it by taking a deep breath and thinking about what sort of household I want to be.

DC is an only and I want her to grow up having loads of friends over, having a few parties etc so as long as they aren't actually damaging anything I try to take a deep breath amd remember that that's the goal and decide whether to pick the battle.

It's hard but I try to remember home is a feeling and there's not much that can't be rectified. Water can be cleaned.

YANBU, I wish I was more like this. You asked them to stop and they didn’t and so there was a consequence. IMO your own child should have been more conscious that the behaviour isn’t what you would be happy with and told them to stop.

I mean, she told them multiple times and they ignored her and continued

Torn on this OP although I completely understand your reaction. Your DD needs a serious word in private and definitely needs new friends. They sound ghastly, but I'd be very concerned that your DD is that kind of girl too.

Oh well, let’s just accept other people’s bodily fluids on our kitchen floor because they’re non-toxic and can be cleaned up. 🤮

They sound rude & brattish - I would have done differently, but you weren't unreasonable. Sleepovers aren't a human right. The replies on here are terrible - no wonder there are major behavioural issues in schools with constant low-level disruption.

We have children around our house regularly. My children are 11 and 8 and their friends are a decent bunch but obviously there have been moments.

If they’re doing something I don’t like I’ll ask them, if they’re don’t stop it I’ll pull my own child aside and tell them to sort it out. I have never had to go further than that.

This wouldn’t have bothered me. I’d probably have asked them to do it on a towel so it could go straight in the washing machine.

I am fairly chilled out though. I’m not trying to be a ‘cool mum’ and I try and stay out of the way but I want my kids and their friends to be welcome here as they get older and if they think they’ll be sent home/ told off that won’t happen.

and those saying “it’s just water!” No, it’s also spit/bodily fluid. IN A KITCHEN.

When you spray water when you laugh it is not contained in a neat little puddle, the spray droplets will potentially have been over surfaces where food is prepared.

Theres a reason spitting at someone is classed as assault in the uk.

I’m by no means uptight but even I the line at spit all over my kitchen.