To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

also, they could play the game outside if they want to spit everywhere

Surely the only boundaries that should stop play are: (1) This is a risk to safety or (2) this risks permanently damaging property. Water in a kitchen is none of those things - I would have just laughed and asked DD to please lay down a towel and then made it a game, fastest mopper upperer gets all the ice cream, or something like that. I can’t imagine sending girls home from a sleep over for something so minor 😭😭

I dont see any evidence to support your comment on this thread.

I know my DC would have stopped when asked. I also would have just let my DC and their pals enjoy the game for a bit if it was a sleepover. Sleepovers are for a bit of silliness imo as long as they didnt go on for ages and cleaned it up themselves.

Im not generally uptight about daft things though tbf. Life's too short to live with a rod up my arse. I save that for my job where I have to be serious (unfortunately) 😔

To have continued after you had told them to stop and clean up was very wrong of them.
Perhaps taking your own dear child into another room and explaining that you were serious so that she went and told them to help her clean up might have been better.

Is this level of hyperbole really necessary?

Truly, you really, honestly think that the entire education system is in a state because some parents wouldn't end a sleepover and send children home for a silly game and a bit of eye-rolling? Do you usually have such extreme views on things?

Sounds like harmless fun to me. I might have made them wipe up after but wouldn’t have sent them home. Your DD must be so upset and embarrassed.

Nice of OP to return to the thread...

Yabu.

it just sounds like a silly, fun game. I’d have just told them to clean up when the game was finished. I’d have told them not to eye roll as it’s rude but they probably wouldn’t have done it if you hadn’t overreacted.

It was just a bit of water! The eye rolling was rude but you were being very heavy handed over a game.

I feel mortified for your DD. Kids can be brutal and she may well bear the brunt of your OTT kicking them out at school next week.

Seriously though when I was a kid you just would not have disrespected the parents in whose home you were in. You just didn’t. I’ve already said I wouldn’t have sent them home but we would have been handed mops and told to clean up and play the game over the sink in the bathroom, and not spit into their soup bowls.

This was such an innocent game! Yes it made a mess, and id expect them to clean it up, but jeez they could be getting up to much worse than this! The girls rolling their eyes is just a bit of pre-teen sass, and they didnt disrespect you to your face. Definitely an overreaction.

It's absolutely no wonder schools are in the utter state they are in with this proportion of parents defending this behaviour

ewwww no! Who wants spitty water all over their kitchen??!

yanbu, op @VictorBaucherOrSomething

it’s gross

The posts from people acting as though kids eye-rolling and spilling water are akin to war crimes are actually insane!

Is it ideal? Of course not. But sometimes we have to pick our battles and on balance, this was a minor issue that could result in very uncomfortable consequences for OP's daughter at an age when friendship dynamics are already tricky.

People need to really take a step back and use a bit of sensible thinking here. Miss Manners wouldn't have approved of that behaviour but the punishment absolutely doesn't fit the crime and now OP's daughter is sad, embarrassed and will possibly have to navigate some tricky social situations because a grown woman threw a tantrum over some pre-teen eye-rolling and innocent behaviour.

YABU to of sent your dd friends home bit of an over reaction...they're kids having fun..the second time I would of just told them to leave clean up the floor handed them kitchen roll and hushed them out the kitchen in a nice way but thats me... wouldn't embarrass my kids by sending their friends home 🤷‍♀️

It's a cold-hearted person who would see 3 children upset about the sleepover coming to an abrupt end, over something like this, rather than actually putting a stop to it and the eye-rolling.

The OP sounds very hot-headed.

Probably another reason why none of her daughter's friends will ever be allowed to stay at her house.

Senior school is different to primary in that most parents don't do pick up/drop off, so don't get to actually know their DC's friend's parents.

They'll often only hear what others have to say about them.

My bad - I forgot MN was full of adults who always behaved perfectly as 11 year olds

Dear god you will forever be that parent now
Don't think other kids and parents won't hear about this you might not care but what if it cause teasing or breakdown of your dds friendships with these girls
Over a bit of water which doesn't sound like you have them a chance to deal with
Not surprised your daughter is not speaking to you.

Your dd is probably dying from embarrassment, nobody will want to sleepover at yours again. It was only water. Keep a eye on her as she might get bullied for this.

Well as ever on Mumsnet it just goes to show that there are huge polarities in terms of parenting. I am with the majority - not because it was ideal behaviour but as plenty of posters with older teens are thinking longer term and how comfortable your DD is going to be as she gets older inviting friends over or sharing less than ideal situations with you if this is the reaction she gets from water on the floor and some eye rolling.

Not in someone else’s house. In my day you were extremely polite to the parents of your friend.

I would expect my kid at least to have stopped if I asked however...I would never have asked them to stop playing a game like that. Unless they were hanging their heads over something that could be damaged with water I can't see why they couldn't carry on. I don't mean to make a big deal but you've definitely made sure that your DD will remember the night for a long time. And not in a good way.

Haven’t RTFT but this is a well known ‘trend’ that they were clearly copying. I think it was really OTT to send the kids home and I’m not surprised one of the parents was pissed off with you, you probably ruined their plans. Your dd must have been mortified too. It’s a bit of water, it would have mopped up. I probably would have been unimpressed but I wouldn’t have ruined my kids evening over it.

Did you never follow stupid trends as a child?

This is a popular social media game, it's not something they've just made up to be disgusting.