To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

Good that she apologised but she isn't going to want to come back to your house soon and your daughter may well get bullied for it.
I really hope she didn't get into massive shit with her parents over a non event.

I'm glad one of them apologised at least. Was it the parents DD who was apologetic themselves?

Of course she did

She was probably told to by her parents who probably think everyone's behaviour was far worse than it actually was, for you to boot them out of the sleepover.

If one of my children got sent home from a sleepover for something as silly as that, I’d think twice before letting them go round there again.

They were sent home for not stopping & cleaning up when asked.

If I was one of the friends there's no way I wouldn't have stopped & cleaned up when at someone else's house.

We were always allowed to push back at home but not at other people's.

I’d imagine there is age differences between parents who think their children’s friends should be respectful in someone else’s house, and those that don’t mind the eye rolling, ignoring requests and spitting into someone else’s crockery.

I’m of an older generation. I believe the game should have been played over a sink in the bathroom and then cleaned up by the kids when asked.

Either way I would only send a child home if they were causing actual danger.

Why couldn’t they have done it outside?

I agree that was a huge overreaction to send them home, it’s just a bit of water, I’d have let them continue the game and mop up afterwards.

If one of my children got sent home from a sleepover for something as silly as that, I’d think twice before letting them go round there again.

My 15-year-old came home from school yesterday, saying, “We played the ‘try not to laugh’ challenge’. My top is wet!”

It’s just a bit of childish fun, and you were so unreasonable. If you’d asked them to clean up when they were done and left them to it, they probably would have done.

Of all the things they could have done🙈 . YABU and very over dramatic to of sent them home for this.

It’s not the game that bothers me or even the mess but I don’t think the eye rolling and ignoring instructions is acceptable. I would be mortified if my child went to visit a friend and was so rude as to eye roll at their parents and ignore their instructions. I would have no problem if they decided to send them home.

No it isn't. It's not accepting poor behaviour on multiple occasions.

I'd be embarrassed if my child was sent home from a sleepover due to such rude behaviour.

No thats not part of it. The eye rolling is what can happen when 11 year olds think someone's mum has been a bit weird though.

And the not stopping when asked once to do so is what can happen when someone is 11 and just pushing boundaries a bit. Fairly normal, unless I suppose the kid is absolutely shit scared of their parent.

OMFG are you serious..not only at 11 would I not be talking to you I'd want to go with live with my Aunt or grandparents..what the hell is up with you..grown adults play this GAME..its a GAME..where people have FUN..you know laugh enjoy time together..what you should have said there is,when you lot are finished mucking about make sure you clean all that water up cause ill be checking,hope you're all enjoying yourselves,do you need snacks or drinks ?? Soft drinks of course before you have a shit fit..

Like other posters, I would have let them carry on with their game because being silly is a big part of sleepovers at this age. I would have stayed in the room to 'supervise' the cleaning up once they were done and I would have told them that I had seen the eye rolling, wasn't impressed with it, and would be telling their parents about it. No way would I have sent them home.

You told them twice to stop and clean up and they simply ignored you. Did they think you were just going to ignore them spitting over the floor? When you remonstrated with them their response was eye rolling and trying not to snigger. I just can't imagine showing this level of disrespect to one of my friends' mothers at a similar age and I wasn't an outlier for my time. I'd be horribly embarrassed if my child behaved like that when they were a guest in somebody's house. If your daughter didn't want to be embarrassed she should have stopped the game when told to and started to clean up. I just don't get the idea that parents have to constantly remonstrate and reason with young children about their behaviour - my mother certainly didn't think she needed to do so.

Yup. We want them to be child like, to ‘not grow up too fast’. Then punish for being that child.

very OTT

She will have learnt something, but likely not what OP hoped.

I don't think you'll have to worry about sleepovers again, OP. Or too many of her friends over at your house in general.

How embarrassing for your child.

Does the trend also involve not stopping & cleaning up when asked & eye rolling?

You do realise you've possibly ruined your child's social life? Nobody will want to come for a sleepover now and she will be left out of theirs too.

Absolutely ridiculous over some bloody water on the floor.

As for the pulling faces behind your back, were you never an 11 year old girl? I think as a minimum you owe your daughter an apology for your outrageous overreaction.

Not accepting 11 year olds ignoring you and then rolling their eyes at you doesn't make you hot headed?

Correct.

What makes you hot-headed is to decide on a whim that you can't actually handle this behaviour from three 11 year old girls - one of whom is your own daughter.

So you need to ring the other parents and tell them the whole thing's now off and to come and pick them up.

That's hot-headed.

I'm a strict parent but I think you over reacted.

Why not let them finish being daft then they could clean up.
Rolling eyes doesnt warrant being sent home.

Kids make mess, though, it's part of childhood.

As long as they clean it up, why is it an issue? It's just water.

Oh, right. So they were holding bowls to spit the water into and sometimes missed, not spraying her entire set of crockery with water.

Yep in the OP … they were spitting the water into her soup bowls.

The girls were holding soup bowls and spitting the water into them, except they were obviously missing the bowls and there was spat-out water on my kitchen floor. I asked them to stop and to clean up the mess they made.

If it had been buckets in the bathroom then I’d be less bothered about the game as long as they cleaned up after