To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

Still didn't warrant such a bad tempered OTT reaction from the OP though.

Sorry quoted you incorrectly, we are in agreement! :)

Once or twice, it doesn't matter. they had their chance.

You're a guest in someone's home making a mess and she tells you to stop and clean up yet they continue, she doesn't owe them another warning but I guess you will play that pandering game where she has to tell them 5 times and beg them right?

It's a lesson for her daughter, if you want to be trusted to have your friends over you need to ensure you're all playing by the rules or you lose that privilege.

I would be mortified if I was told that my daughter was doing that and after being told to stop rolled her eyes and continued.

The harm was, they were asked to stop, but didnt.
Its OPs house 🤷‍♀️

Kids are going to be silly. Let them get on with it and make them clear up when they get sick of making themselves snort. Maybe require them to do it in the bathroom or somewhere where they’re not getting in the way.

They wanted to have fun. Sending them home was a bit OTT.

The rudeness of the eye-rolling is irritating - call them out on that. it’s astonishing how effective a non-parental grown up can be on the behaviour of a pre-teen.

If it wasn’t a harmless game what is the actual harm? Who or what would have been harmed?

I always think this is a cop out (not just in this case) way to avoid actually justifying reactions.

Between this and the people who are taking about respect and social media tends etc rather than helping their child have fun with friends I do wonder if people on here care more about their lino than their kids

Sounds like some awful trend from tik tok 🙄 glad i keep my DD away from all this sh*te.
Id have been less than impressed either after theyd been asked to stop, no respect whatsoever.
Id be absolutely mortified if any of my children didnt listen to another parent whilst in their care....clearly shows the calibre of parenting....shocked so many mumsnetters think its nothing and a harmless game....plenty of other ways to have fun and even if you wouldn't mind it in your own house if another fanily doesnt like it and asks you to stop you should....
....as a teacher this lack of respect for other people and their boundaries/rules is something that makes me despair every day

It was a harmless game. I'd have left them to it and made them clear up after. Sending them home was a massive overreaction.

Yes tbf now I think on it i think id assume something far, far worse must have happened for DC to be kicked out of a friend's home at 11 y/o and maybe the friends mum is downplaying it

They were having fun with water!!! It’s water! What harm could this possibly do.
I hope this doesn’t result in friendship issues for your daughter. I feel sorry for her.

I genuinely would think as a parent that much worse went down, for a parent to lose it and send them all home.

So yes, she could well have got into more trouble than deserved.

well one of them has apologised so that's good.

I had very firm rules when we had sleepovers. Due to the range of activities and fun on offer here - despite my absolute rules on one or two things - we had kids staying over most weekends for years.

Oh I didn't think of that, and that maybe the parents think something far worse must have happened. yes could be the girl was in huge trouble over this 😔

I think In that circumstance I would exit the kitchen,.enjoy hearing my girl laughing with her friends and tell them to make sure all the water is cleaned up.

Despite their behaviour being annoying, I'd have said your peace, found an alternative space for them to play this game (even outside if needs be, until they grew bored). That way, setting boundaries but also letting your child continue with the sleepover. And maybe waiting awhile until the next one (or never). We are pretty strict, but I'd say you have over-reacted given it was a sleepover and children generally lots more excitable.

Young kids are usually alright op. They are silly, daft, cocky, and disrespectful at times but thats part of growing up and learning.

Obviously there may be some that are absolutely perfect and always do as they're told but IRL that will be a minority (or as i say they are just scared of their parents).

Glad one of them apologised but do still bear in mind there could still be a bit of reluctance to be at your house again, which may or may not bother you but it will bother your DD. She'll be so embarassed about the whole thing.

I wonder if its worth apologising for reacting the way you did and asking DD how you can all help make amends with each other?

I suspect she only apologised because her parents evening was ruined when you rang them to collect her!

trust Me, they won’t want to come to that house again.

Not surprised your child isn't talking to you. They were just having some fun. The eye rolling would have annoyed me but pretty sure we were all kids once.

There are kids friends in my house causing some kind of low-level chaos all the time. I prefer my kids have lots of good memories with their friends when they were growing up rather than memories of a mum who couldn't relax from time to time.

The only thing you can do now is apologise to your child and explain why you did it.

Same.

I wouldn’t have thought to behave in such a manner in someone else’s home because such behaviour wasn’t acceptable or allowed no matter the age and 11 is old enough to know better.

This is possibly true. My mother wouldn't have allowed it and as such, mine wasn't really a hang-out house.

I swore I would never have my children thinking I was doing them a favour by allowing them to have a social life in their own home. Sometimes that means wincing a bit at things that aren't idea, but also aren't harmful.

Sometimes, I thought their friends were a bit much but I consoled myself with knowing that they weren't my problem and I could deal with it for a couple of sleepovers if it meant my kids were happy.

I would rather let them do their silly TikTok trend and clean up after themselves than make them stand outside in mid-January or worse, send them home for the heinous crime of thinking I was a fun sponge and being caught rolling their eyes in a mirror.

People will scoff at how unimportant it is being "that mum". But I can tell you right now it causes undue embarrassment and stress at already difficult ages for kids. And it's just not necessary to do that, IMO.

Probably forced to by her parent, due to your extreme reacrion. I think you should aapologise to your daughter,

I would have told them to clear it up too.

But. I wouldn't have sent them home, i would have got rid of them asap today, though.

Due to the eye rolling i wouldn't agree to them coming again, but i wouldn't be explicit about that with my DD, just say "no" if she asked again.

Your poor kid, what was rhe harm in some water on the floor. It was hardly flooded. Why spoil their fun and try to stop it. Then go ott and send them home. How horrible of you.