To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

No, I wouldn't have sent them home. I would have insisted again that they stopped and cleaned it up, and hung around to make sure they did. Then perhaps told them to go and play in a different room.

A hundred million times this!

Also, I'll bet my house on the fact there is not one single person on this thread, who didn't eye-roll behind an adult's back when they were growing up.

Only difference here is that they were caught out by a mirror.

"Errrrm Felicity, I did SEE that eye-roll you know. Don't be so rude!"

That's how you deal with it.

Not "Right, get out of my house you two, the sleepover is cancelled and I'm phoning your parents".

Have any of you read OP? She told them to stop it and clean up. They didn't and were disrespectful. They had to take the consequences and if they have another sleepover they'll know that OP means what she says. It's no surprise that some children turn into such badly behaved teenagers when so many on here say OP is BU.

Gosh did you never have sleepovers as a kid OP? I remember getting shouts at a fair few times 😆 rather than jumping to chucking them out you should have just told them off? At least you probably won’t have this problem again…

I'd be more annoyed with my child for not doing as they were told in some one else's house.

Doesn't matter what the game was, they were asked to stop & clean up.

I dont think you overreacted. You told them to stop a few times. The eye rolling was disrespectful. I could never imagine doing that to a friends mother at that age. Not on.

They're just 11 year olds being silly and having a great time. I feel really sorry for your dd that you went in so hard.

To me, being sent home is pretty serious. Some kids may get into serious trouble by their parents for that, so for that reason alone, it would need to be super bad for me to pull the rip cord.

Your house, your rules.

Carrying on, after being told to stop and clean up, justifies being sent home to me.

Sleepovers can just be really exciting and fun and kids act unusually silly during them.

Over-reaction 100 fold. You could have just supervised the clean-up. They were kids being a bit silly, but not hurting anything. Well done for making your child's friends hate being at your house - how to help your kids be unpopular 101!

I’m not surprised that parent was snippy, I’d be fucking livid if you demanded I come and collect my child at 9pm because you threw a tantrum over some spilt water, were slow to obey and shock horror rolled their sodding eyes! OP, you should be mortified at your behaviour….

Let's be clear that they were a bit overexcited and got carried away. The did not eye roll dirty at op, they didn't behind their back. I was raised with standards too and once recall getting a smacked bottom and being sent to bed for being caught poking my tongue out at my Mum because she had told me off. They are 11 and immature and highly likely to dislike being told off for doing something they were enjoying, especially if its something that might have been acceptable to play in their own home. Even the nicest teenagers get carried away and more brazen when with their friends. The sending home was a total overreaction.

If for no other reason than that friends' parents can't actually plan their night on the assumption that it will actually be a sleepover.

Wow loosen up OP, it’s a sleepover and it was water - water dries! So they rolled their eyes, big deal! They’re 11! Where is the crime? Your poor DD is going to be vilified by her friends now and you’ve just potentially made her life miserable at school for a few days next week.

Something similar happened when I was a child and we still talk about it every now and again in our thirties!

Like anyone's going to feel comfortable leaving their child in the OP's care, and as if the DD is going to risk being a laughing stock again 😳

I think we can safely say sleepovers are a thing of the past for the OP's child.

Blimey, what an overreaction. I thought you were going to say they'd raided your booze cabinet or downloaded porn or something.

Literally had this exact situation at a sleepover with my boys. I gave them some towels, let them crack on and just told them I expected to find the kitchen the way it was when they started after they were done. All was tidied. I can absolutely understand some 11 years olds thinking a cheeky eye roll (not realising they could be seen) was OK too. I think you massively overreacted to 11 year olds being a bit silly.

You asked them to stop. They carried on.
You asked them to.clean up. They didn't. Pretty poor behaviour when a guest in someone's home.
Your daughter should be grounded and no more sleepovers until the behaviour improves

Huge over reaction. Like, crazy OTT. I think it should be you apologising.

".as a teacher this lack of respect for other people and their boundaries/rules is something that makes me despair every day"

If you expect children to always do as they are told first time, every time, then, respectfully, teaching probably wasnt the best career choice.

Just to be clear im not suggesting kids should be allowed to run feral, but it is a very, very normal part of development for children to disobey and be dicks sometimes. Id have thought a teacher would appreciate that, as frustrating as it must be.

I would have left them to it whilst thinking to myself it would have been nicer if it was summer and they could play it outside. But would have made them clean up after. Girls between the age of 10-15/16 are complete pains in the arse - this and a bit of eye rolling is very mild

At least own of them seems to be reasonable, is she the daughter of the parent who was mortified? I'm assuming the one who hasn't apologized is the daughter of the parent who was miffed which says a lot.