To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

It is appalling that a child has offered you an apology in a situation where the fault is entirely yours.

The child was asked to do something & didn't.

That's not on the Op.

Your poor DD - why, oh why would you do this to her??

Because she’s the parent and DD is the child. They were asked to stop and clean up. They didn’t. And OP caught them being disrespectful after she’d asked them again. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes, and maybe at the next sleepover they’ll be better behaved.

Wow. I would be mortified if my child deliberately and knowingly did something after they had been specifically asked to stop by the host.

It's a privilege to be invited into someone else's home, and that privilege can be revoked at any point.

They were rude little madams for rolling their eyes and you would be well within your rights to inform your DD the next day that she's not having them back for another sleepover after that behaviour. However, you created a hugely embarrassing situation for you DD by sending them home at 9pm and I understand the other mum being a bit annoyed at being called out at that time of night for something which wasn't an urgent unavoidable situation, such as their child falling ill or having an accident. They might have been settled in their jammies by then, or might not have been able to drive if they'd had a drink. Sending them home was a massive overreaction. The situation could have been dealt with in the morning. You were very unreasonable and I feel for your poor daughter who must be mortified.

Not everyone thinks that OP. I bet they’re better behaved for you going forwards! Sometimes they just need to see you being strict once or twice to gain a little more respect.

The attitudes on display on this thread are a handy explainer for why UK kids are the unhappiest in the OECD...

"Cheeky little shits", "rude", "disrespectful".

They were off their screens, having a giggle together! Behaving in a 100% age appropriate manner. What is it that you people want, dull little Debrett's-programmed robots?

OP, I genuinely pray that your kid's friendships are not affected by your behaviour. It is appalling that a child has offered you an apology in a situation where the fault is entirely yours.

Perhaps try to give some thought to why you have such poor self-control and such an instinct for knee-jerk authoritarianism? Have you been under pressure recently or struggling in some way?

I think you were harsh OP, but your house, your rules.

I would have given them a cut off time, got all the stuff ready for them to clean up, told them they could then settle in front of a film/dvd with snacks which I bought them. Then I would say, “And Missy, that eye roll, that was rubbish. I’ll teach you all how to eyeroll like a pro, if this room isn’t as I left it, by the time I said.” Then I’d leave them to it. I’d have used my teacher voice for that.

You need to loosen up a bit, great to have boundaries and of course they’re necessary , but kids will be kids, and the next few years will hit you hard if you don’t pick your battles.

Urgh, my dad did something like this when I was about 13. The girls all stopped being my friend and then bullied me until the end of school, genuinely ruined my life because of the bullying. I've never really forgiven him as my self esteem and confidence was shattered from it.

Your reaction seems very ott.

Calling children “cheeky little shits.” Wow!

Try not to laugh challenge it was called when my dc were younger and sounded similar. I think it’s easy to want to parent but we are adults they are kids. It’s best to step back and let them have fun. As long as they tell you what they are doing no harm done. Plus they clear up the mess. I wouldn’t have sent them home but each to your own.

And a good thing too she apologised. Not sure if you think she shouldn’t have? If you are a guest in someone’s home you treat your host with respect. The fact they are 11 doesn’t mean they are too young to grasp that concept.

You gave them a second chance, they made it clear that they had no respect for your boundaries in your own house. You're the adult - they don't make the rules in your house.

"An uncomfortable situation for your daughter"

oh give over!! She's 11!

Your poor dd. How embarrassing for her. No wonder she's pissed off at you.

It's a funny challenge game. It's all over tiktok and Instagram. Sometimes they use a wrap to slap the other around the face to try make them laugh.

You have literally chucked kids out because they were trying to make each other laugh. They weren't smashing things or setting fire to your curtains. And a few mouthfuls of water isn't exactly going to flood your kitchen, is it?

At least you won't ever have to worry about any children having fun in your house again. And your dd will probably have the piss taken out of her at school.

The eye rolling was disrespectful.
The not doing what you reasonably asked was disrespectful.
Yes, send them home, then they might listen to what you say next time. And you nipped it in the bud.

I don't think you were being harsh, OP. I am really stunned you're getting such flack for doing basic parenting. The poor judgement involved in starting the 'game' is one thing, but disobeying your instruction to stop and rolling their eyes is another. It's rude and disrespectful. I would have sent them home too. And they wouldn't be invited back.

The eyerolling was behind your back had it been to your face it would have been rude, but it wasn't. They didnt know you were peeking in the mirror.
Your poor DD - why, oh why would you do this to her??

Exactly what I would have done!
OP, it was a bit of harmless fun. It was minimum inconvenience to you and you have now created an uncomfortable situation for your daughter. Well done!

That's very rude and for them to do his in your own home and not have been apologetic and tried to make amends is poor behaviour. Bad influence on your daughter too.

You’d let kids spit on your floor for fun? Jesus.

DD is 9 and her friends don’t act like that, absolutely disgusting behaviour. As for the eye rolling- cheeky, little shits. No wonder kids these days are the way they are.

My son would never talk to me again if I embarrassed him like that!
All absolutely fine to ask them to stop and clean up but if I'm honest, I probably would have put a big towel on the floor and told them if they wanted to carry on, then they needed to do it where the towel was.
You need to pick your battles with pre-teens and I think this one was a massive over reaction.
I wouldn't have been off with you as a parent but I would have thought it was a bizarre response to some water and eye rolling.
I hope the girls don't give your daughter grief for it.

And the eye rolling ? Rude and disrespectful to their hosts’ parent and likely to lead DD down that road. I’d have sent them home too.

You were not BU, you were setting your standards. You could offer another sleepover soon and I think you'll find that they will behave better. Stick to your guns.