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Daughter invited to holiday abroad

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Itshouldntbethisway · 10/01/2026 12:41

My daughter has been invited to go on holiday abroad with her best friend from school. Apart from sleepovers she's never been away from home and never been on holiday with another family. She's 11 years old, and too young in my view. Her friend is lovely but I don't know the family well, it's been a term at her new secondary school and parents don't meet up often. Once she's older and more confident I wouldn't mind. Am I being unreasonable? Your thoughts/advice would be welcome.

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 10/01/2026 12:49

I'd be helping her plan what to pack within ten minutes of the invitation.

It's a wonderful offer and she'll have a lovely time.

Peoplemakemedespair · 10/01/2026 12:47

If she wants to go I’d let her

Peridot1 · 10/01/2026 12:46

I think 11 is a bit young especially as they haven’t known each other that long.

We took a friend of DS at age 13 which worked well. But I wouldn’t have taken a younger child.

olympicsrock · 10/01/2026 12:46

It would be a no from me. You don’t know the family , too young , too far if any issues.

It’s a kind offer. Maybe get to know them as a family so that if they offer again in a year’s time you might feel differently. Is there daughter an only child?

We are letting our 14 year old holiday with friend but after 16 months of kids friendship we know them well.

DaisyChain505 · 10/01/2026 12:44

11 is a bit young. I think 14/15 is considered it and even then I would prefer it to be with someone she’s been friends with for a long time and I knew the parents.

She may think she’d like to go but the reality once she’s in a different country with a new friend etc may hit differently.

Octavia64 · 10/01/2026 12:43

You need to judge for yourself whether your daughter could handle it.

some 11 year olds could some couldn’t.

mrsstewpot · 10/01/2026 12:43

It would be a no from me.