Help with social services and CFA.

A CFA is a consent based assessment. This should have been explained to you and you should have signed a consent form for the SW to talk to the school, GP and any other professional.

The assessment itself will look at what support can be offered to your daughter. From what you have said it is likely the outcome will be universal services support and no further intervention from CSC. It’s a useful assessment if you wish to access services in the future. You mentioned you had a child with SEN, they may also be entitled to support through short breaks.

Absolutely, my daughter was in my ex-husband’s care when she presented at hospital and she couldn’t answer what was actually wrong with her other than to say that it was all my fault
We never did find out what actually the issue was but of course ex-husband was very keen to continue that narrative and I played into his hands by going bloody bananas at him.
Not the child
So then, of course social Services wanted to speak to her when she was discharged back into my care - voluntarily, but with an undertone of if you don’t do this, they’ll be trouble. And that’s where I went wrong. I should’ve just said no because it escalated.
And that then met the threshold when we got to court to discuss Residency for them to instructor section 7 report.
I listened to all of the advice from Mumsnet and everywhere else about how if you’ve got nothing to hide you’ve got nothing to fear
It’s not true if they can’t find anything to put in the report they will literally make shit up
Or make stupid ridiculous comments like your bathroom is too small
The other thing they commented on was mother turned up to the meeting wearing gym wear and carrying a green protein shake. We must monitor the children’s weight going forward.
This was from a social worker who literally must’ve been a size 24. She couldn’t even bend down to get on and off my sofa without doing a forward role. She was so fat.
Naturally, I didn’t dare mention that at any stage of proceedings, You’d like to think the judge has a pair of eyes and could work it out for themselves
No such luck

It’s the same as having a disabled child. Our child was classed as Child in Need, only due to disability- not our parenting. However, for all those years, social services also kept an eye on the siblings to make sure they weren’t negatively affected.

I know it’s easy to say, but try not to worry. Just concentrate on supporting your daughter. How awful for her.

This. I appreciate it’s unsettling but it is necessary as part of their safeguarding checks, they would far rather assess 100 families and find 100 totally happy and safe families than reduce the checks and miss 1 who really needed support and intervention. If all is fine you have nothing to worry about x

I pretty much said the same when I read that on my section 7 report

What on earth is the op supposed to do if her bloody bathroom is too small ? Hardly helpful unless of course ss have the budget to build an extension with a couple of ensuits...

As a victim, they need to assess her home life and check there aren't any further safeguarding risks. If they did not do this they could be missing large chunks of what her life is like.
Many kids are living in less than suitable situations so they need to protect the vulnerable.
You've done nothing wrong so no need to worry.

It’s standard practice OP. They need to assess risk to you daughter and to the other children. It’s not a criticism of you. They need to ascertain if needs are being met and if any additional support is needed, you don’t need to worry.

Because your child was sexually abused… they’re assessing to make sure she is now safe and has the resources and help and a happy home to avoid it happening again and ensure her life isn’t destroyed by it.

You think that children who are sexually abused shouldn’t have interventions?

I agree with accessing as much support for your daughter as possible. I should say that.
Because as the other post, I mentioned you have to be extremely careful that social services aren’t gathering information that the defence Solicitor can use against her
They wouldn’t do that on purpose, but it has been done. Chaotic background mental instability implied.
They can always withdraw the comment, but the trouble is the jury never unhears it

Of course you can what they will do is imply to you that if you don’t voluntarily allow this they will go and get a warrant so to speak to forcibly do it if they are so inclined - That’s the worst case scenario.
If they meet the threshold to get a warrant, that’s not what it’s called, but that’s what it means
Then there really is a serious problem and you do need to cooperate
But the chances are are there is no serious reason otherwise they would’ve flagged it by now and you would know about it
I would never let them through the front door ever again after what they put us through
As I say findings included that the rental property had a bathroom that was too small
What the fuck they thought I could do about that I don’t know
But it was just silly little comments that they felt they had to make because they had to say something to fill up the paper and make themselves look useful

I would strongly complain to the college if she's been told she can't go back but the boy in question can. He should be banned and she should be able to go back or at worst both should be allowed back or both banned.

How come your DD needs to stop her education?

Ask the SW for support to get DD on a course elsewhere if her choosing. She’s the victim here.

He is - of course by law - innocent until proven guilty but plans to keep her safe shouldn’t include removing her from education or a supportive friendship group.

Support should be about helping her navigate life as she would have prior to assault withe the same outcomes she would have had prior to the assault and support to reach this.

You have a SW so I would use them to ask them “how are you going to support DD to …..”. Put the ball firmly in their court to provide help rather than make some report to stop a defense lawyer ripping her to shreds in court.

That’s not true at all.
I probably would’ve refused their intervention, especially as she’s over 16 there’s not a lot they could do.
What’s happened Is somebody has flagged a potential issue ie too many children and you are now on their radar and will be given extremely helpful advice. Like your bathroom is too small etc

How is the OP's "pregnancy and other kids" relevant to her eldest DD being sexually assaulted at college? Why is it relevant to anything that DD was staying over at a relative's house? Would posters saying its ok expect that the male suspect's family home be investigated, his siblings' schools etc be contacted and his parents subjected to a CFA assessment?

There's something off here OP, have you asked for an explanation from social services? I'd want to know who asked for this assessment and why. Did they just contact you out of the blue and you let it happen without challenge? It might be completely innocent or normal for this to happen, but you need to get proactive. Sorry you and your family are going through this after what happened to your DD.

It's not fair at all OP, but they would do the same checks if she was living just you and her.
They might visit (probably not, might just ring you) to check all the family, including you are ok, coping ok, especially with your pregnancy and other kids.
Did the assault happen at her nans house?

It's quite normal to open all the children in a household if they're doing an assessment on another. Good practice actually.