Nursery teachers snarky comment

Gosh.

children are just mistreated right left and center. Of course you should be upset, they are playing on your relationship with her to be paid without the work and cause hurt to your daughter for it.

just find another place.

Oh yes!

My daughter went to nursery from 8am to 6pm five days a week from 5 months old, and she thrived on it. Oh and I might also say that there was always a terrible rush to get there for 6 ... I wasn't the only parent who would have grabbed the extra half hour if it had been offered.

You're not doing anything wrong, and you have every right to expect the nursery to make good on the hours they have sold you.

In areas of high employment, high-cost housing and where wealthy people live, almost all nurseries offer these hours, and they are well utilised. OP, I wish I'd taken an OU degree when my children were younger. I hope the poorly educated SAHM on this thread have spurred you on in your studies x

Well said.

Please go away.

plenty of parents need this level of childcare.

kids are fine.

Did you read @JJWT lovely supportive post before you posted this?

I agree - the judgmental pile on in this thread is awful. Women just don’t always support women. I know a few posts have been removed - but more should be.

Its quite unusual for very little ones to be left at nursery till 6.30pm, and its crap for the child being left there as the last one to be collected week in week out, 30-60mins after all the others.

In my experience nurseries offer long days (e.g. 7.30 - 6 30) as a bit of a funding swizz. They don't actually expect many parents to use that and know most won't, because its logistically really difficult to have a very young child in nursery for an 11 hour day, it doesn't leave enough time to dress/bathe/feed etc and ensure they get enough sleep. But it means the nursery can have a model where they can require you to use your funded hours against a much longer session with a high rate for those extra hours, which cross subsidises government funded hours.

This thread is an excellent example of how toxic this platform is. Those in charge should be absolutely ashamed of themselves for allowing this bizarre pile-on to this young mum about her childcare. Totally unacceptable. One b is one too many. Other posters are doing a better job of policing it than the platform hosts. Good grief, when I was Head of Faculty in a High School many moons ago, my 5 month old baby had to have 60 hours of childcare per week. She recently graduated with a 2:1 and is living a lovely life. OP, I take my hat off to you for all your commitments and juggling. Well done. Definitely complain to the nursery owners. Maybe mention their funding claim and ask for clarification of exactly when the taxpayer funded hours are, as a "subtle" reminder, and ask what level of learning through play was occuring when they had her sat by the window in her coat. Good luck with your education.

It's not your fault she was the last one- trying to make you think your daughter is upset is very manipulative- if pick up is until 6.30, 6.20 is fine.
As others have said though 11 hours is a long day in childcare for any child , especially one under 3.

As a nursery manager I would definitely put in an official complaint. I would still expect my staff to be playing with her and would not be impressed with coats on! She could have been sat like that for half hour! It is really nice just having one at the end of the day as they get loads of attention and have some fun. We dance to music etc check your contract

Probably by about 5 or 10 minutes.

Also not all staff meed to still be there. That's the nursery's choice.

@CheekyTealFawn you are entitled to use the service for the hours you have paid for.

And @CheekyTealFawnit’s definitely out of order. Please speak to the manager. My kids were sometimes the last - it’s just how it was with work and traffic.

None of this matters. Shes paid for X amount of hours and her daughter should be cared for those hours - they should not be making her feel guilty. If they want to go home early they need to change their hours and charge less.

please don’t judge a mum doing her best to study and work.

in response to your question - yanb you have a nursery place until 6.39 and presumably the staff are paid until 6.30
si why shouldn’t they work until then regardless if the day of the week. No problem with all tidying up
dine etc but surely none member of staff could have read to or done drawing with your dad.
secondly S for those questioning your need to put daughter in child care for that duration of day, take no notice - you do you and well done for working and studying so hard to build a better more secure future for you and your child. Presume you are doing this alone (if not then that’s a whole other post) so well done and good luck to you xx

I think the OP is asking for advice on the pick up time situation…not opinions on how many hours she’s putting her daughter in for childcare.

OP, I’m sorry they were so rude to you. I would definitely send an email, keep everything in writing, as I’m not sure that they are legally allowed to do that when you are paid up to 6.30.

And for all the other mums who have been quite judgy with their comments - shame on you.

This poor mum is trying to juggle work, university, a young child and manage childcare routines to better her life for her family. Should she just sit at home all day and claim off the state? That would be wrong in your eyes too. Whatever people do is wrong these days, it absolutely will not harm her daughter being in childcare for long days, it’s only twice a week - gives mum chance to get everything done for uni and work etc, her daughter will likely thrive in a social setting ready for when she starts school. Stop fucking picking at people.

Hi op you should not feel any guilt for trying to improve your future. Nurseries need the kids to attend to earn a wage. I would send an email asking if you can clarify Friday closing time as you need until 6.30 due to your studying and when you seen you had 2 missed calls so close together you thought something was wrong with dc. Mention you felt guilty for leaving her there because the staff couldn’t wait to get rid of her due to no other kids being around. If all kids had left by 1 are you expected to get there early to take dc home? Also mention you appreciate everyone likes to leave work earlier on Friday but staff sh not to expect if there is a child still in there care it should be acceptable that they cannot leave until dc is picked up and you don’t need non emergency calls scaring you. Good luck ignore the haters not everyone if fortunate to not need childcare.

It's a nice bonus for them if all the kids get collected early on a Friday and they can leave early... but they shouldn't expect it, nor make you feel guilty for arriving 10 mins before closing time.

Bet they're regretting encouraging you to use the Friday now... see if you can switch to another day that would be better for you.

And to the clowns saying OU degrees aren't worth it, mine has never been received anything other than positively by employers (also an OU English degree). It's seen as a mark of motivation to fit a degree in around work and the general demands of adult life. Good for you, OP, and wish you the best of luck with it.

This thread is bizarre. Someone has to be the last child there. Why does it matter? She might even be happy being there alone if the staff were sat with her one on one giving her undivided attention. Shes only little. Being the last doesn’t need to be a bad thing unless the staff make the feel unwelcome or like her mum is late when she’s not.

If it makes you feel better about these comments OP, we had one SAHP for the first three years so no paid childcare at all, and people constantly made comments about how DS wasn’t going to be socialised enough (even though we did daily groups, stay and plays etc). Endless comments about how he will be too clingy, not independent etc.

Once he turned 3 we put him in childcare for his free 15 hours and within the first week people were asking when the SAHP would get a job and insisting we should both be working full time unless we wanted DS to be unable to cope with school.

Its actually quite amusing to read a thread full of comments complaining about the opposite - I feel like there’s no winning.

You are doing a great job OP and you’re not being unreasonable at all. I’d be very pissed off about the calls as if I saw that 11 minutes before pick up I would assume something was very wrong.

Maybe it’s that I’ve never had a “leave early on Friday” kind of job but I’m truly baffled by the people who think it’s unfair of you to use the hours you already paid for because it’s a Friday as if obviously you should give away free money to staff if the day they forced you to choose is Friday.

There is indeed 😂

they should let your kid do colouring or play dough until you arrive, not put his coat on and make him anxious til mum arrives! Imagine if you put your coat on and told your paying customer that you wanted to go home early as it was Saturday 😅