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CheekyTealFawn · 09/01/2026 23:17

I’m livid, wondering whether to bring it up or just leave it if I’m overreacting.

DD is 2 yrs 9 month old, and just started nursery today. She’ll go 2 days per week, 7.30am-6.30pm.

I work two jobs (one evening and one Saturday per week), as I am studying 30 hours per week for my BA in English, which I do on my childcare days, in nap times, and every free evening I have. So, I could really use every minute of help I can get.

I dropped DD off at 8.30am no problems. When I go to pick her up, I get there at 6.20pm. I see I have two missed calls from the nursery. I ask why they called, worried, and the manager laughed and said “because we want to go home.” I was confused, and said “oh, I’m so sorry, I thought pick up was before 6.30?” And she pulled a face and said “yes, but it’s Friday and your daughter is the last one here, and she has been waiting and asking for you and wondering why she is the only one”

All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived. DD was also sat by the door with her hat and coat on looking out the window waiting for me. it’s made me feel like the worst mum, and extremely embarrassed as I felt like the staff were all looking at and judging me. My daughter loved her first day, seems very happy there, but I don’t know whether to say something to the manager about it?

I understand it’s Friday and of course the staff want to go home, but I didn’t initially want Fridays, but they made me pick that day since it was quieter and we’re only part time, to make room for more full time children on the other days .

i don’t know what I’d say, and I don’t know if mum guilt at leaving my daughter there last is making me more sensitive, but now I’m anxious to leave her there until 6.20, even though I could really use it since I’m constantly playing catch up with my university work because I’m forever lagging behind due to not being able to afford enough childcare.

am I being sensitive? Should I say something? If so, what?

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berightorbehappy · 11/01/2026 05:19

Differentforgirls · 10/01/2026 14:05

The nursery closes at 6.30pm.

Ok ..6.20 - the point remains the same

Stucknstoopit · 11/01/2026 02:21

My after school club used to do this crap. They were open until six or six thirty and I always got there before time and they made it look like ‘mummy’s late’ so I’d be picking up anxious little ones

CheekyTealFawn · 11/01/2026 01:04

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You’re absolutely right, I’m done now as it’s been fruitless trying to stick up for myself and getting nasty back is never the answer, so I won’t do it anymore . Thank you ☺️

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CheekyTealFawn · 11/01/2026 00:50

You seem very angry, considering you are still, 24 hours later, making digs. This thing you keep bringing up is like a broken record. For the last time, it was in response to someone questioning why I and others would have children if we have to put them in childcare. That is an absolutely hideously cruel thing to say. I’d think as a fellow mum, you would be outraged. However, you seemed to take no issue with? I still stand by the fact that anyone who says or truly thinks like that is likely a very unhappy person and they’d be better speaking to someone about it rather than being cruel and attacking others on the internet.

And again.

CheekyTealFawn · 11/01/2026 00:51

Differentforgirls · 11/01/2026 00:46

Reported again.

okay??😂😂

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CheekyTealFawn · 11/01/2026 00:50

You seem very angry, considering you are still, 24 hours later, making digs. This thing you keep bringing up is like a broken record. For the last time, it was in response to someone questioning why I and others would have children if we have to put them in childcare. That is an absolutely hideously cruel thing to say. I’d think as a fellow mum, you would be outraged. However, you seemed to take no issue with? I still stand by the fact that anyone who says or truly thinks like that is likely a very unhappy person and they’d be better speaking to someone about it rather than being cruel and attacking others on the internet.

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Differentforgirls · 11/01/2026 00:47

GotStrands · 11/01/2026 00:25

Are you happy in life? What makes you want to make nasty little digs at another mother?

Very, thanks for asking.

Differentforgirls · 11/01/2026 00:46

CheekyTealFawn · 11/01/2026 00:09

Honestly it’s just constant digs throughout the thread 😂 like I had some time very late last night in bed and this morning on my commute, and again in bed, to post. What I do with my entire day, both free time and otherwise, is clearly a very big problem for this person

Reported again.

Differentforgirls · 11/01/2026 00:43

CheekyTealFawn · 11/01/2026 00:02

Why do you seem so angry with me personally? I’ve already shared on here that I’d studied and worked 12 hours yesterday, was mentally checked out but struggling to sleep so I made the post when I was in bed. Today, I responded to comments on the train to work, the train back from work, and this evening once my daughter was in bed, I’d finished draft 1 of my essay. How I spend my little free time is also a problem for you for some reason. You seem very angry and it seems targeted at me in a personal way?

I’m not in the least angry which is why I haven’t made remarks on other posters mental health the way you have. I suggest you look within.

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Are you happy in life? What makes you want to make nasty little digs at another mother?

CheekyTealFawn · 11/01/2026 00:09

NewHere83 · 10/01/2026 23:30

What on earth happened to you to make you like this??

Honestly it’s just constant digs throughout the thread 😂 like I had some time very late last night in bed and this morning on my commute, and again in bed, to post. What I do with my entire day, both free time and otherwise, is clearly a very big problem for this person

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SunshineStreamingThrough · 11/01/2026 00:09

As someone who actually works in a nursery the whole situation surprises me. Yes of course we want to go home after a long day like everyone else but if you’re booked until a certain time there’s no way we would say something about you arriving 10 minutes before the end of your booked time!
We close at 6pm and it’s only if it gets to that time and a child is still there we will take them into reception and wait there and will call to check on the parent, but beforehand absolutely not.
If I were you I’d potentially keep an eye out for any other nurseries nearby which might have something open up which works for you- maybe somewhere that will let you book sessions which are more suited to you for a start.
Definitely raise it with the nursery too, you can just send an email.

CheekyTealFawn · 11/01/2026 00:02

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Why do you seem so angry with me personally? I’ve already shared on here that I’d studied and worked 12 hours yesterday, was mentally checked out but struggling to sleep so I made the post when I was in bed. Today, I responded to comments on the train to work, the train back from work, and this evening once my daughter was in bed, I’d finished draft 1 of my essay. How I spend my little free time is also a problem for you for some reason. You seem very angry and it seems targeted at me in a personal way?

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Glindaa · 11/01/2026 00:02

@JJWT I don’t think it’s fair to expect MN to read every post. They will review if someone reports it. But I agree OP is doing nothing wrong and the nursery are being unprofessional , but people will have their opinions.

Northernlights19 · 10/01/2026 23:51

Staff may have been there since 7am and have families too and want a swift pick up, not the child hunting for socks! they ought to work in a different job with different hours then. I have young children and work 13hr shifts in a care home...I don't just abandon my residents or do the bare minimum "because I've been there since 7 and have a family too". I chose the job knowing the hours as did they, they should do it to the best of their ability for the time they are there.

Differentforgirls · 10/01/2026 23:42

echt · 10/01/2026 23:41

Nice try.

Thanks.

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Nice try.

NotThisShitAgain121 · 10/01/2026 23:40

You need to read the post again..

Differentforgirls · 10/01/2026 23:31

NewHere83 · 10/01/2026 23:30

What on earth happened to you to make you like this??

Nothing. Why do you ask? Because I have an opinion?

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What on earth happened to you to make you like this??

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TJk86 · 10/01/2026 23:18

C8H10N4O2 · 10/01/2026 23:01

Longing to know what this job is where you can take of endless time for a sniffle and your employer is just fine with it. HMRC customer support or single sign on tester possibly? It models a great work attitude for the children as well.

You would be very surprised I think. What attitude? That if you’re ill and contagious you take time to
recover and don’t go around spreading it. Nothing wrong with that.

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