Nursery teachers snarky comment

Also - for what its worth I absolutely admire you combining a lot of time with your young child (4 full days a week is much more that most kids at this age have with their primary caregiver), a part-time job and university. Well done! You are both working to give your daughter a great future AND giving her a great role model.

@youknowthedance

i would go in and just buy as much as i can in the time before they close. Why wouldn’t I?

I'd message the manager saying "I was surprised to get two missed calls and be told that the nursery staff expected me to pick up comfortably before 6.30pm on a Friday - and a bit saddened to see my child sitting in the corner not doing anything with their coat and hat on at pick-up. I do need for the days she is in to pick up at 6.20/6.25 so if this doesn't work for a Friday would it be better to move her second day to a Thursday".

I think people need to remember the OP wasn't asking AIBU to leave my daughter in nursery for a certain length of time'

I doubt the would be doing it unless they really had too. No need to make the OP feel shitty. Their doing what they can to better themselves

Is there another nursery you can try? They should have at least read to her while she was waiting for you. They sound terrible.

Idk the nursery my 3yo goes shuts at 6, I’d never pick him up any later than 5:30.

Aldi is open until 10pm I wouldn’t go in at 9:50 to do my shopping

@Differentforgirls

why have you reported that? Like seriously what do you think mumsnet are gonna do??

As someone else doing an OU degree whilst working, with 2 kids, I just wanna say you are doing amazing. That sh*t is tough. Don't feel guilty, my eldest was a totally mummies boy and I put him in 3 days when he turned 2, just because it's good for them and it would make the transition to school less difficult than if we had been attached at the hip for 4 solid years...he is now 8 and a half and still a total mummas boy who has to be coaxed into school on the daily, but also confident and outgoing once he is in.

This!!
Usually on nursery post, I always feel the parent is being a bit sensitive. Mum guilt, emotional time, precious first born etc ...but not this time!
I can't believe they would give a child the impression that mum had dropped them off for the first time and not come back for them, talk about way to give a child separation anxiety.
I would definitely complain with this one

Same. This rings alarm bells.

Poor mum and poor child. What an unpleasant experience.

Especially threads that involve mothers daring to send their child to nursery.

They're like it on other threads I think. Best to ignore.

Why is everyone commenting on op's decision to do OU, time it takes, how they did it with no work, and ops life choices. Not sure that is relevant to query or anyone's business....

The fact is she's paying for a service ftom 8 - 6.30 that she needs/wants/is paying for so that should therefore be available.

I would message, and say if it's a problem on a Friday, you'd be happy to switch days to your preferred day (when other kids might be staying later too). Understandably staff will want to go home early if they can, but if still a child there they cant...

You are not being unreasonable. Please don’t explain or justify to anyone. You make the decision about what works for you, your children and your family. Sometimes that can mean longer hours of childcare as an investment in you and your family’s future. It has been this way for decades. Making your daughter feel alone and longing for you to arrive was their bad behaviour, not yours.

She was there on time she had plenty of time to ask how her child's day has been. Not her fault the staff were more focused on getting off work early rather than doing the job they're paid to do

11 hour days are fine. It’s nursery, not the coal mine.

they eat meals, sleep, play. All the same things they would do at home

Id also consider raising that i think its not nice for them to say pick up in by 6.30 but they have have your daughter in her coat and shoes excepting you for how long? You showed up at 6.20 and she was ready for you and you could have been another 10minutes. So who knows how long she was dressed and expecting you and you werent there - not through any fault of yours. I think unless its 6.25 (or they see your car pulling in or youve text etc) they shouldnt be telling her mummy's coming because she shouldnt feel like you left her waiting that isnt OK for her

they were rude and unprofessional but i would not dwell on it. You’re right, they’re wrong but I would not let it bother me

All the comments about the length of the day! Have people considered that not everyone works a 9-5, that some people (like OP) may not have any other option. My partner and I work full time and start work at 6.30 and 7.30, family support 3 days a week, our DD goes to nursery the other 2 and is also there from opening until around 4-4.30. Im sure OP feels guilty enough for the full day from reading her replies but she needs the time to study and work, enabling her to gain her qualifications and provide for her child - all of which I think shows a good work ethic, drive and determination and positive role modelling for her child! Give her a break!

You are wasting your time reporting comments like this. If you can’t handle being challenged, then this is not the place for you. You have not addressed the main issue in the OP, but are choosing to be unpleasant to a hard working mother who is educating herself. Maybe have a think why this is and why you resent a mother studying for a degree and aiming high.

That’s incredibly rude and unprofessional of the staff. If you have her booked in until 6:30 they should be actively engaging her until 6:30 not say by the window in her coat waiting for you.