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CheekyTealFawn · 09/01/2026 23:17

I’m livid, wondering whether to bring it up or just leave it if I’m overreacting.

DD is 2 yrs 9 month old, and just started nursery today. She’ll go 2 days per week, 7.30am-6.30pm.

I work two jobs (one evening and one Saturday per week), as I am studying 30 hours per week for my BA in English, which I do on my childcare days, in nap times, and every free evening I have. So, I could really use every minute of help I can get.

I dropped DD off at 8.30am no problems. When I go to pick her up, I get there at 6.20pm. I see I have two missed calls from the nursery. I ask why they called, worried, and the manager laughed and said “because we want to go home.” I was confused, and said “oh, I’m so sorry, I thought pick up was before 6.30?” And she pulled a face and said “yes, but it’s Friday and your daughter is the last one here, and she has been waiting and asking for you and wondering why she is the only one”

All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived. DD was also sat by the door with her hat and coat on looking out the window waiting for me. it’s made me feel like the worst mum, and extremely embarrassed as I felt like the staff were all looking at and judging me. My daughter loved her first day, seems very happy there, but I don’t know whether to say something to the manager about it?

I understand it’s Friday and of course the staff want to go home, but I didn’t initially want Fridays, but they made me pick that day since it was quieter and we’re only part time, to make room for more full time children on the other days .

i don’t know what I’d say, and I don’t know if mum guilt at leaving my daughter there last is making me more sensitive, but now I’m anxious to leave her there until 6.20, even though I could really use it since I’m constantly playing catch up with my university work because I’m forever lagging behind due to not being able to afford enough childcare.

am I being sensitive? Should I say something? If so, what?

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Northerngirl821 · 09/01/2026 23:32

Eleven hours is a LONG day for her in childcare though, especially if she’s the only one there at the end of the day.

Pliro · 09/01/2026 23:30

I kept reading, waiting for anything approaching a snarky comment.

Sometimeswinning · 09/01/2026 23:30

I think they view you as someone they can manipulate easily. They pushed you to choose a day and they’ve intimidated you. It’s your choice where you go from here.

Next time they call. Pull over and pick up. Have a chat. I’d be seeking revenge whilst looking for a better nursery.

PleaseStopEatingMyStuff · 09/01/2026 23:29

So they wanted an early dart & basically gave up on your daughter and had her sat awkwardly waiting at the window, on her first day, because the other kids left early!? Totally unreasonable. I'd be very worried about the attitudes of the staff and level of care this setting is providing.

TwoSaturdays · 09/01/2026 23:29

If address it as @LayaM suggests. You will make your point but not be confrontational.

CheekyTealFawn · 09/01/2026 23:29

LayaM · 09/01/2026 23:25

I think it's worth a conversation but the line id take initially would be: just to let you know, I work long hours on a Friday so I will need childcare until 6:30pm every week, warning you in advance - type wording. Then see what they say.

Okay good idea, they can’t argue with that. And if they do, maybe I can get them to let me switch from a Friday to a Thursday like I’d initially asked for 😅

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CheekyTealFawn · 09/01/2026 23:28

Letsgocamping67 · 09/01/2026 23:25

I’d ask if their hours have changed because they are taking the piss

😂😂 I felt like saying that at the time hahaha

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CheekyTealFawn · 09/01/2026 23:27

TwoSaturdays · 09/01/2026 23:23

No, you agreed to Friday, understood it’s till 6.30 and have paid accordingly. They’re out of order. Speak to the manager or owner.

How do you think I should address it?

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LayaM · 09/01/2026 23:25

I think it's worth a conversation but the line id take initially would be: just to let you know, I work long hours on a Friday so I will need childcare until 6:30pm every week, warning you in advance - type wording. Then see what they say.

Letsgocamping67 · 09/01/2026 23:25

I’d ask if their hours have changed because they are taking the piss

TwoSaturdays · 09/01/2026 23:23

No, you agreed to Friday, understood it’s till 6.30 and have paid accordingly. They’re out of order. Speak to the manager or owner.

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