Nursery teachers snarky comment

I initially sent my DC to a nursery that did this regularly as well. There was quickly other issues as well so I moved them to another nursery where it was never an issue and a lot of children were still there at 6.30. See what happens next time and raise it.

I’m so sorry they made you feel this way.

I work in a school and sometimes do After School Club, we finish at 5.30 and no matter how few children (often only 1) are still there at that time we are still playing games/reading/doing Arts and Crafts etc right up until the minute their parent arrives. Even if they are running late.
I couldn’t imagine making a child or parent feel rubbish because they need to use child care that we offer.

You need to confirm their hours.

You say pick up time is BEFORE 6:30 and you weren’t there by 6:20.

It sounds like they close at 6:30 but if that’s the case they need to say pick up by 6:20 or something.

How long did it take you to get there after they rang?
Were you planning on getting there 6:30 on the dot?

Agreed. And an unpleasant start for a new child. You have nothing to feel guilty for OP. These workers were rude and unkind to both you and your DD.

You don’t need to justify anything. They’re in the wrong and I’d be complaining.

My daughter is always the last one, but we can’t get there any earlier - and it’s within their opening hours! I’ve never had an issue thankfully, I’d have felt the same as you. I work two jobs as well and any childcare is precious. She only does 2 days a week, we split the rest between my mum, my and DH. It’s fucking hard work. So if my day off falls on a nursery day I take it!

Don't feel the need to explain yourself to people like this! You're doing a full time degree and anyone who knows anything about university study knows that it is more or less the equivalent of a full time job (taught hours +self study).

I feel really sorry for your daughter. They clearly suggested to her you were late and being sat there all ready for you on her own would have made her sad and worried and is just totally out of line. I'd be really cross.

There was one member of staff at DD’s nursery that was like this, made a big drama that DD was usually last. It was a very small setting and we moved her there at 4 years old for her last year at nursery (we moved house-were at a much better setting before but had to
leave and this new one was in the school grounds of the primary she was going to so it made sense to stick it out).

If we’d had more time there I’d have made a fuss but I just ignored it. DD was perfectly happy with it, she knew what time she was picked up and didn’t mind being last. But they always had her coat on and made such a “thing” of it all. They advertised 7.45-17.30 all year but really seemed to think no-one should be there more than 9-3 term time. Frequently in holidays they implied they were doing us such a huge favour by being open. Utter knobhead really that couldn’t run a business if their life depended on it.

The care itself was absolutely fine, DD was happy there. But it was a bit of a car crash of a place in some respects.

I’d have your eye on an alternative setting at @CheekyTealFawn just in case this one won’t work out. I couldn’t have stuck this one out for more than the 9 months we needed.

No need for posters coming on and judging length of time your child is in nursery. Ignore those comments. You are clearly not doing it for the fun of it or to stay home and lay on the sofa.
It’s a shame people are not more understanding of the commitments some women have to undertake.

OP is doing the best they can in situation and sounds like their child is loved and cared for

As for the nursery I would speak to the manager as it’s out of order. Unless there was no mention that she’d be there until 6.30. That’s their closing times so they need to work those times

Completely agree and it probably made her dd feel worried.

I would say something. That was very rude. I work in childcare until the evening. Right up to the last children to leave, we are polite and friendly with the parents. We would not answer the door in our coats. We would probably have the child ready in their coat if we are literally a couple of minutes to closing, but I think this is reasonable as the child is clearly about to be collected at that point.

I’ve found one though!

I think it’s really shitty that they were all in their coats waiting by the door when you arrived. No wonder your daughter was asking for you, they made her feel like they were leaving, and that you hadn’t come to get her when you should. Had they all carried on playing with her or whatever they were doing earlier she would have been fine. What jobsworths to be so desperate to get out that they can’t wait another ten minutes before putting their coat on, for the sake of the child still within their care.

I agree, op you don’t need to justify your dd being in nursery two days a week ffs.

OP they are completely out of order. What were they expecting to say on the call?! If I were you I’d honestly change nurseries (if you can). Is a child minder an option?

I think they were very unprofessional and basically mean to do that with your child. They were more interested in getting off early rather than your child's feelings. I'd go ballistic! I hope you can find better childcare, that's no way a criticism of you OP, you're doing your very best for you and your child's future

You’re doing great, OP. It takes a great deal of discipline to do an OU degree so well done!

It was v rude , she’s paid till 6:30 and should expect that service and not get hassled to pick up earlier

Just ignore them. They are open until 6.30, don’t feel guilty, they were extremely rude.
I don’t think I’d bother saying anything about it to them, if there is anything else going wrong I’d move your child. 💐