Nursery teachers snarky comment

This was clearly as a response to them making me feel guilty for her being there last, as obviously when I initially went to pick her up I had no idea she would be the last child. I had no idea until they told me “she’s the last one here”. Of course, after they made me feel guilty, I felt incredibly guilty. Then I later became livid, as this happened hours ago, but I was unsure whether I had a leg to stand on or if I was just looking for someone to blame as I was feeling sensitive, hence why I came to mumsnet. I do not at all feel guilty about university or its timing.

It’s not at all that I felt guilty about university. It was about them making me feel like the worst mum and their comments, and I was wondering if I was being overly sensitive at their behaviour or if I was right in being furious about it

I was thinking about speaking with our last childminder and seeing what she thinks about it! She lives round the corner and we bump into each other often. It’s a good idea to bring it up to other nurseries, as if this happens again I can’t see us lasting long here

You sound like a very sad, unhappy person TJk. I’m wondering if you maybe need to talk to someone professionally trained to deal with it, rather than projecting onto mums net? Thinking of you ❤️🤗

Twaddle is a perfect word for that. I’m not sure why some are trying so hard to make me feel guilty about university it’s so odd

I’m livid, wondering whether to bring it up or just leave it if I’m overreacting.

DD is 2 yrs 9 month old, and just started nursery today. She’ll go 2 days per week, 7.30am-6.30pm.

I work two jobs (one evening and one Saturday per week), as I am studying 30 hours per week for my BA in English, which I do on my childcare days, in nap times, and every free evening I have. So, I could really use every minute of help I can get.

I dropped DD off at 8.30am no problems. When I go to pick her up, I get there at 6.20pm. I see I have two missed calls from the nursery. I ask why they called, worried, and the manager laughed and said “because we want to go home.” I was confused, and said “oh, I’m so sorry, I thought pick up was before 6.30?” And she pulled a face and said “yes, but it’s Friday and your daughter is the last one here, and she has been waiting and asking for you and wondering why she is the only one”

All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived. DD was also sat by the door with her hat and coat on looking out the window waiting for me. it’s made me feel like the worst mum, and extremely embarrassed as I felt like the staff were all looking at and judging me. My daughter loved her first day, seems very happy there, but I don’t know whether to say something to the manager about it?

I understand it’s Friday and of course the staff want to go home, but I didn’t initially want Fridays, but they made me pick that day since it was quieter and we’re only part time, to make room for more full time children on the other days .

i don’t know what I’d say, and I don’t know if mum guilt at leaving my daughter there last is making me more sensitive, but now I’m anxious to leave her there until 6.20, even though I could really use it since I’m constantly playing catch up with my university work because I’m forever lagging behind due to not being able to afford enough childcare.

am I being sensitive? Should I say something? If so, what?

There was one member of staff at DD’s nursery that was like this, made a big drama that DD was usually last. It was a very small setting and we moved her there at 4 years old for her last year at nursery (we moved house-were at a much better setting before but had to
leave and this new one was in the school grounds of the primary she was going to so it made sense to stick it out).

If we’d had more time there I’d have made a fuss but I just ignored it. DD was perfectly happy with it, she knew what time she was picked up and didn’t mind being last. But they always had her coat on and made such a “thing” of it all. They advertised 7.45-17.30 all year but really seemed to think no-one should be there more than 9-3 term time. Frequently in holidays they implied they were doing us such a huge favour by being open. Utter knobhead really that couldn’t run a business if their life depended on it.

The care itself was absolutely fine, DD was happy there. But it was a bit of a car crash of a place in some respects.

I’d have your eye on an alternative setting at @CheekyTealFawn just in case this one won’t work out. I couldn’t have stuck this one out for more than the 9 months we needed.

That’s a ridiculously long day for a child to be in childcare. You say you need it due to work and studying but if that was me, I would have deferred my studies until my child is school age in this situation as it’s not fair on her. She will also be picking up constant bugs for the foreseeable and will probably have to skip a lot of days anyway which will make keeping up with your studies very difficult.

That’s a ridiculously long day for a child to be in childcare. You say you need it due to work and studying but if that was me, I would have deferred my studies until my child is school age in this situation as it’s not fair on her. She will also be picking up constant bugs for the foreseeable and will probably have to skip a lot of days anyway which will make keeping up with your studies very difficult.