Nursery teachers snarky comment

I was already going to say this, but you’ve given me the perfect opportunity -
Although we’re strangers, I’m very proud of you. Going to school on top of holding down two jobs and being a mum - it’s hard. It’s a whole lot.
And I know how you feel - you feel like you’re doing a crappy job at all four, right?
You aren’t. You’re kicking ass. Don’t let some stupid day care or strangers on the internet get you down.
I was 10 when my mum went back to university and 12 when she graduated and I don’t think there was a day that went by that she didn’t apologise for having to leave me to make dinner for my dad. Like that was some huge imposition.
Enjoy these days and these times with your daughter and with school. They’ll be over in 15 minutes. Take many photos and videos and make new friends.
You’re gonna be grand. Just breathe.
Sending love from faraway ❤️

Bullshit. As a graduate of the Open University, there is no way you’ve actually finished a degree if you think it’s easy.

Exactly this. Ignore the judgey fuckers who don't get it at all.
You're doing just fine, and they need to provide the care hours you've contracted and paid for, in full.

Really? How many times did you read you it? Do you need some help with the bigger words? 🤨

I work in a Nursery until closing twice a week and at my setting we do our best to entertain the child/ children until they are collected. Sometimes we only have one child in the room for the last hour but play with them or look at books together.
We have had a lot of snow in our area over the last two days and on Thursday our nursery manager did ask that if possible, children could be collected early so staff could make it home safely before the conditions became really bad but that is very rare occurrence. The attitude of the staff that you experienced sounds very unprofessional. I'd definitely raise it with the manager.

In fairness she can probably see she's the last one by the fact there's no other kids to play with for the last 30-60mins 🤷‍♀️ not sure how they'd be able to fake that like "it was the middle of the day".

Find out who the nursery owners are- it would be useful to know anyway.
i personally wouldn’t let this go for another week and I would want to at least have a conversation with a member of the management team to make sure this doesn’t happen again.
You pay until 6.30, so technically you’re not late picking up until 6.31
They should be providing stimulating, high quality care for your child until that time; plonking her in a coat waiting in an entrance area for any length of time definitely falls far short of that.

My daughter attended nursery 2 days a week 8-6 and a half day 8-1 every week from when she was 2.
She absolutely thrived there, it did her confidence the world of good and she settled into school so smoothly as a result of being used to the structure.
I think it’s commendable that you are completing this degree- what a superb and inspirational role model you must be for her!

It's been snowing where I am, most people are wearing hats.

"All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived."

Were they really all wearing hats? Sounds like the 1930s.

So did I until my early 30s and believe me, it didn't do me any favours! I let people walk all over me and disrespect me for fear of confrontation.

There's a difference between being rude and being matter of fact. I don't condone being rude or aggressive while speaking to people, you can absolutely stick up for yourself without being either. The more you do it, the easier it will be - trust me!

Sounds like you and your partner have set up a schedule that works for you all. I, too, could not study if my toddler was home (my DD was very ill until she had surgery when she was 4) hence my ECs were always approved. I would say change your provider. My suggestion wiuld be to do 3 days of 9-3 (you get more child free time to do assignment) and that’d end up costing same as 2 x 7.30 - 6.30. This way your DD also has shorter days. They may even encourage doing 7.30 - 6.30 because they were banking on you dropping more around 8.30-9 and picking up earlier without losing their fee. Tell them if the timings/days are not working for you. Usually they do a U-turn.

Defo they were wrong. They know moms easily feel guilt (just naturally more pre-disposed to it). It won’t be the first time you feel it. But be clear about your boundaries.

Good luck with your degree.

It makes you wonder why they say they’re open until 6.30 on a Friday, if they’re not?

They should not have made the child feel “like the last one”, they should be treating them as if it was the middle of the day, not some drama about being “the last one”.

That’s not normal op. You do need to get there a few mins early - never on the nose, just to get a handover of how she’s been. The nursery should continue to engage with her and make sure she’s happy though. If there’s a lot of staff and most children have gone, they can let some staff go home as long as 2 stay and one can tidy up etc whilst the other plays with you your daughter so they can leave promptly.

I think you should set expectations by letting them know you will be collecting at 6:30/6:25 due to work commitments and that you felt dd struggled being made to wait by the door so please can they not do this again.

They didn't mention that you dropped her off an hour late did they???

Hmm … Muriel Green Nursery also had a nonchalant way of speaking, like they don’t care particularly the room leaders in the same age group 2 +. You’ll know whether to say something, if it carries on.

Neither here nor there what people think of how long the day is for the DD. Plenty of full time working parents have to drop off early and pick up late.

The staff were rude and I'd speak to the manager and let them know you do not appreciate being made to feel that you shouldn't stick to their contractual hours because they want home early on a Friday even though they are getting paid until close (pointing out that you had asked for a Thursday).

But then my children are older and I've dealt with enough arseholes that I couldn't care less if they found it me being matter of fact confrontational. They didn't care about laughing and making you and your daughter feel bad, did they? They should have been distracting/playing with her as is their job - until 6,30!

@CheekyTealFawn you're going to come across people who take the piss if they think they can get away with it. Best learn now not to put up with it.

I didn’t say you felt guilty about going to uni. I pointed out that you yourself said you felt guilty about long days in nursery. The reason I suggested deferring Uni rather quitting your job is because I’m guessing you need to work whereas studying is optional. In any case, it appears you are content with your life choices and we have clarified that if you have a contact for her to be there until 6:30 then she can be there until 6:30 so there’s nothing left to add really.

I meant to add, hang in there OP. It's so tough studying, working and raising little ones at the same time- but it will be so much easier in a few years

I think this thread is worn out with PP trying to further guilt the OP. Like you, for instance, projecting about her motives.

The nursery workers should have been engaging with the OP's child as per usual until she came to get her. Then there should have been a debrief about the child's first day. Twats.

OP, don't worry if your child is the last to be picked up; it's the job of the nursery to keep things positive and jolly for the child.

Ah are you not in uk with funded hours.

yes it’s a Montesorri nursery but strangely it’s normal prices for us. Similar to day nursery. And then there’s funded hours.