Nursery teachers snarky comment

Not sure if this has been mentioned, but if she is the only child there then why do all the staff need to wait? If they are going down the unofficially closing early route then they can make sure they maintain their ratios and unofficially send the rest of the staff home at 6pm or whatever. Although anything unofficial is on dodgy ground!!!

It all sounds very negative. Not how the relationship should be starting off.

I think the email telling them "I am at work until 6pm every Friday so I need childcare until 6.30pm every week" is the way to go. Cheeky feckers.

I was a sahm to my dc because I wanted to and we could afford it (just). But that was right for me. Doesn't mean it's right/possible for everyone else.

As a former nursery worker I find their behaviour appalling. I would have given your dd all my attention so that she barely noticed the other kids had left. Not only because I am professionnal but also because I've got something called empathy. Apparantly they are neither professionnal nor do they really care about a child's wellbeing.

I would talk to the staff and manager and say (hypocritically) that you don't want to stand in the way of them leaving early on fridays so wouldn't it be better to switch days to thursdays. Because you can not make it earlier than 6:20. See what they say.

So when you start work and your hours are 9-5 you’ll go home for an hour and then pick up at 620 because you’ve paid for it - it’s your right but isn’t really very pleasant.

8.30am till 6.30pm is quite a long day though, even for a child that's almost 3. Especially when you're not actually working?

Well that's on the nursery to pay their staff for 15-30 minutes after the last child has left to give them a buffer. It really isn't the responsibility of the paying customer. It might 'grate' with them but I would be livid if people being paid to care for my toddler were being so unprofessional. Being desperate to leave isn't an excuse to guilt trip a mum and to subtly wind up a 2 year old and give her the impression that her mum doesn't care enough when said mum is picking her up on time

‘Intimidated’?
’seeking revenge’?
Strange way to look at this!

So do you use every minute? I’m genuinely asking.

I’m a teacher and I can leave work at 315, although I generally stay until around 4. I pick DD up at 415; I wouldn’t sit outside in the car until 530 which is when it is paid for.

I suppose I just think the staff don’t earn much, it’s cold, it’s dark, it’s the weekend, it’s a win for everybody if they get to go a bit early. 6pm is still quite late. With a lot of things there’s a difference in what is permissible and what feels comfortable and right to you and this wouldn’t to me.

I think they mean you could do them a favour by not using the childcare time you’ve paid for. Mind boggles.

Regardless of anyone’s opinion on your choices, if the arrangement is she’s there until 6.30, then you are perfectly entitled to pick her up at 6.30. If staff need time to tidy up after the last child has left, the nursery should be paying them for an extra 15 minutes or whatever, that’s not your problem. If they actually want all the children gone by 6.15 then they should say that and you should pay less accordingly.

Sounds like an opportunity to change to your preferred day.

You could do them one, though.

I know many children who have wraparound care because parents do a long commute and can’t get back till 7pm and local nursery closed at 6pm

That may give you good leverage to change it when a space becomes available…

Fridays tend to be less busy days at the nursery - as if people work part time, that’s the day they’re more likely to have off. That’s probably how they can justify just letting you use the free hours vs a core midweek day.

What's the point of this crappy message? Are you trying to make OP feel guilty? She needs the time and it's only two days a week.

6.30 should mean 6.30. OP is already bringing in her DD later than she could, nursery staff are being lazy.

Exactly this.
A degree is full time. English courses have a huge amount of reading too. Reading the texts, reading around the texts, note taking, thinking. essay writing. The contact time is only a tiny fraction of this. Good on you anyway. My dad did his degree when I was a similar age.

i would say if you’d still prefer a Thursday you should speak to the manager about not being comfortable with Friday pick up. The funding situation isn’t fair on nurseries either so possibly they can’t but given they’re rushing you out early on a friday suggest this is a better fit for everyone.

Absolutely outrageous- you’ve paid til 6.30 so you have a right to service til 6.30. And of course she was wanting you if they got her all ready and told her you’d be there soon. Complain to the manager/owner.

Yes a lot of children use wraparound care.

At my school you could use wraparound care from 730am - 630pm if you wanted.

OP please don't listen to the santimonious perfect parents on here. You've paid for dd to be there until 18:30. They shouldn't be calling you unless you're late or there's a problem. I highly doubt that at 2 years old your dd even notices that she's the last there unless the staff are making a massive deal of it. If they were that bothered that she was uncomfortable they would be playing/reading with her not dressed to go and hovering around the door wittling that you aren't there yet... This will reenforce to your dd that it's you being careless and not picking her up in time. I'd be moving her tbh and being explicit about why. They don't want to do their job and they clearly don't give a crap about dd or you.

The same in school?