Nursery teachers snarky comment

Yes, I completely understand that. However OP seems to have flexibility and not be tied to fixed hours work. Ultimately it's the choice of her and her child's father to have their daughter in nursery for an 11 hour day but it does sound as if nursery are not fully on board with that in this case so they may need to find an alternative option.

@itsallgonetomush

maybe next time you’re due to go the dentist or doctors you could skip your appointment to give them a little break? Staff deserve to be treated well after all

I was a manager at an afterschool club for over 20 years. We closed at 6pm. From 5.30pm until we closed there’d be a staff member and myself there. Invariably there’d be one child left. That child had the undivided attention of the play worker. No mention of where was their parent. That child deserved the best until they were collected. Of course staff would like to get away earlier if possible but it’s the nature of the job and you know the hours when you sign your contract. No child should be made to feel worried or guilty and staff putting their coats on is clearly a way to do it.

This is really poor practice. In the first instant I would speak to the manager privately to outline your concerns. If there is no resolution then look at their complaints policy to see where you can go next.

im full of admiration for your work ethic and trying to provide the best future for you and your child. Good luck!

It's because the OP isn't on the breadline and has the audacity to have and pursue aspirations for herself. That's unacceptable apparently, and a man's job.

Long hours in nursery is fine if the OP is struggling financially - the little MN wifies and mumsies can feel pity for them, then and feel super smug about their own financial position; but a mother daring to have ambitions for herself? Fuck no! Terrible mother!

I don’t understand why some posters are being unnecessarily shitty to you @CheekyTealFawn. The nursery staff were rude and unprofessional. Yes, those hours are long for a little one but you know that and can’t really help it.
You were there ten minutes before they closed. If you were ten minutes late then fair enough.
I’d speak to them and say you’re studying until 6pm and you were under the impression that they closed at 6.30pm.
I’d be concerned that if they display this sort of attitude in front of you, what are they like behind closed doors?!
I’ve worked in an infant school and an after school club and we wouldn’t dream of having our coats and hats on BEFORE we actually closed!!!! They could have had a member of staff sat reading to your child while the others tidied away etc, so that they were ready to leave as soon as you had. So unprofessional.

She judges…

What a ridiculous comment.

Could your little one stay with her childminder on a Friday? I know she only does term time but at least that eases the situation a little, you could pick another 2 days at the nursery if you can stretch to the childminders wages in addition.
I’ve worked in a childcare setting and most parents do collect early on a Friday and it’s always hard for the last child on their own especially when smaller.
They shouldn’t have rang you and she shouldn’t have been sat there in her coat. I would look for another setting to be honest.
Do you have any family near by that can help? I know I would rather pick up my nephews/nieces from their setting at 5.30 on a Friday to help out my siblings and so they weren’t the last ones there.
Good luck with the degree, Mum guilt never ends so if it wasn’t this you were giving yourself a hard time over, it would be feeing awful about something else!

going early when you are being paid for the full slot IS taking the piss...if you have finished your allocated tasks, why not sit and have a chat with the older person? Are you rushing through tasks or allowing that older person to be more independent and maintain some skills in some aspects? Tasks aren't just practical in older adult care they are also about social contact and building a relationship. It's not that older persons fault the social care industry is so badly paid and managed, same as it's not the OP's fault regarding the childcare industry....you can still take pride in doing your job well.

OP I would not respond to these idiots.

This would actually put me off the nursery as it's really unprofessional

I used to often be the last to pick up from the childminder - and she would just be giving my son the loveliest time to make sure he didn't notice!

HOWEVER. I would try to see if they need the benefit of the doubt - is this place run with the general rule that most kids are gone by 5?

If so I would really not be keen for my child to be the only one for 90 minutes - not because you are wrong to need the care! but because it's not nice for the child.

I think that’s the problem with this thread. I don’t think anyone actually doesn’t understand that some jobs have fixed shift patterns and that means that you just can’t leave. And even with flexible jobs sometimes stuff happens. But this isn’t what happened here.

And there was extreme weather yesterday as well.

To be fair the poster did ‘start it’ with a snarky comment themselves so I understand why the OP bit back. I would have too.

You can’t understand that people might have their children in nursery until the end time, not because they want to get their money’s worth, but because they can’t get them before then?

Jesus, you don't understand 'finance' jobs then...

It doesn’t matter why you, or anyone else is using a nursery . To be honest you could be doing it so you could go home and back to bed, it’s your choice and doesn’t need to be justified to anyone else.

I agree that the staff have been both rude and unprofessional here. It might be that they are used to leaving earlier on a Friday. It might be they are only paid to 6.30. That’s an issue they need to resolve with whoever is in charge, not you. That person might then get back to you, suggesting another day, or better still paying staff the extra time. The suggesting it was an issue for your DD is particularly unreasonable in my opinion. If she was in fact asking for you, their job is to explain you are on the way, showing the time on the clock if necessary.

I hope you get it sorted, and all the best for your studies.

Op my daughter in until 6pm everyday. Not everyone has 9-5 jobs and dont let pps make you feel disheartened. You are doing your best for her.

I agree. It's snarky and unintelligent.

Absolutely! Anyone who crosses me I destroy!

Nah I’m kidding. I said maybe the word annoying would have been better to use. I forget where I am sometimes.

You are welcome to look over the 2 previous posts where they also became a little overwhelmed by my use of the word revenge 🤣 Won’t happen again. Or it may. I don’t know.

Of course sometimes a 6pm or later pick up is unavoidable and many people have no choice at all about having their children in childcare for very long days. I completely understand that.

However this isn't the case for the OP and her child's father and it seems they have flexibility to make different choices. I can't see why his 'finance' job means he's completely off the hook in this situation.

Sure but IMO in this particular instance it isn’t treating them well, or the DD. I know some don’t like that view but it is what i honestly think.

Because most parents aren’t studying 30hrs a week with only 2 days of childcare covered.

OP didn’t ask for your opinion on her childcare time.

I'm so sorry that happened, I'd be trying to find another nursery ASAP and I would complain to them.

Once I was working New Year's Eve. All the other staff had gone home and I had to stay, as couldn't leave the department unstaffed. When I arrived at the nursery my DC was the last one there, which I feared but there was nothing I could do! The staff certainly weren't waiting there in their coats or made me feel awkward though. So no, they were both unreasonable on two counts - calling you and expecting you to collect earlier than paid for hours and waiting there in coats.

@N4ish

you really can’t understand it? You can’t understand that some parent can’t be done with work and have travelled from work to nursery by 5pm?? Why is this so difficult for you to understand?

Also the whole thing that OP should pick up her daughter spend time with her then in the evening when she’s in bed then write essay - bullshit! OP is a person not a Duracell bunny at some point she is going to get tired, too tired to write an essay. It’s likely by that point she’s not capable of working. Some people might be, some wouldn’t be , OP might be the latter and that’s fine - one of the many reasons why nurseries exist