Nursery teachers snarky comment

I would be fuming, too! As someone who has worked as a teacher, including in a nursery, closing time means 'pick up' time for parents, not leaving time for staff! Them being by the door, with their full gear on, is beyond rude! The comment is down right nasty! You say you got there at 6:20, and time paid is up to 6:30, so that is plenty of time for a meaningful handover! I would explain, like others have said, that Friday was not your choice, tbey made you take it; therefore, they can leave early on a Thursday instead, because, as hard as you try, you cannot make it to the nursery before 6:20 on a Friday! Good luck! X

I saw my dad more but as a girl would have needed a close relationship with my mum. But she had an important career.

As a sahm you can actively help your children with their learning so that they can have careers. But I will tell them to think twice about having children themselves if they plan not to see them very often.

How is this helpful?! This mum is doing her best, she works, she studies, she is raising a child! All, as far as I can gather, with no other hell than that nursery! Where her daughter only goes for two days. They made her change the days she needed, so they can make more money from full-time kids. Also, closing times for parents should not be the same as closing/leaving time for staff! This poor mum feels guilty enough as it is, without comments like yours making it worse!

Awful humans are out in force on this thread I see. Be a bloody long day having to spend it with some of the people on this thread, that’s for sure.

Don’t be so judgmental. How is that helpful or relevant to unprofessional nursery workers?

Wow that’s a LONG day for a little one to be with strangers. Poor kid.

There will always be outliers but it is true that girls with mothers who have careers are more likely to have them as well. Just as it is true that girls who have mothers who are SAHM's are more likely to be SAHM's themselves but it doesn't mean that every single girl with a SAHM will grow up and be a SAHM.

Did you see your dad then? Or only suffer from hardly seeing your mum?

Please stop. The OP is doing what she needs to do to work 2 jobs while studying. There are lots of children who go to nursery for long hours.

You must lead a very limited and shelter life if you don’t know anyone who works past 6pm on a Friday.

Do you Dad shame too or is your misogyny limited to Mum shaming?

You’ve paid for a service. I’d be changing nurseries - this simply isn’t on

very unprofessional

You defo need to complain - she doubled down on it so she has no shame and if you let it slide she will think this is an acceptable attitude moving forward.

A "bit of structured play" is great for children 2+. In my book "a bit" doesn't equal 11 hours.

"Girls who see their mum have careers are more likely to have one"
That totally depends on how much time is left for the child. I hardly saw my mum and suffered from it which made me become a sahm. So inversed.

You are continually surprised that there are people with a different working pattern to you?

Do you have a wide circle of friends? Do you read, do you get out and experience the world? In my circle of friends I have everything from doctors to farmers to secretaries to business owners. They all have very different working pattern, hours and commitments. I wouldn’t be surprised if their children are in nursery in 6:30? Why are you surprised? And continually surprised??

You are able to finished work before 5. Thats your work pattern. Lots of people will work to five (or later) and then have to commute. It’s not surprising at all that children would be picked up later than five - and six thirty will be a challenge for some parents depending on their job and commute.

i think you need to broaden your horizons☺️

Would it be because of snow where you are? It may be they were wanting to send staff/children home for safety in bad weather, if that applies. Otherwise they are extremely rude, yes. I think it would be reasonable to remind the Manager that you will collect your daughter by 6:30pm, you are working and prefer no phone calls unless your daughter is unwell or there is some other essential reason to contact you.

The 1950s are calling and want to welcome you back to the dark ages

those are the hours the nursery are open and offer childcare - not everyone has the luxury of working part time or not working at all.

Chasing you with multiple phone calls BEFORE the time the care was due to end is absolutely outrageous. They are treating you you’re late and an inconvenience for taking the hours that you’ve been offered. I absolutely would be saying something. If the staff are unhappy with their opening and closing hours they need to change them, not hassle people using the service at those times.

This would make me feel so crap too, sorry this happened OP.

To the people berating her for leaving her kid to do an 11 hour day she’s clearly trying her best to manage multiple commitments including educating herself, which will ultimately lead to more job opportunities and financial security for her kid so berating her for how long her kid was at nursery is mean imo, mothers of young kids beat themselves up enough with mum guilt so don’t worry you really don’t need to!

I would absolutely say something to the nursery manager, the fact they called you as if it was some kind of emergency when in fact you were ten mins EARLY to collect your kid is also a massive red flag, the whole thing is passive aggressive and just plain unnecessary. I used to work in restaurants and when people came in ten mins before close to order, yes it’s extremely annoying but you don’t say that to them!!! You smile and get on with it because it’s your job and you’re still on the clock. Same applies here.

turn up at 6:29 every Friday even if you could get there earlier? Learn in the car outside the nursery where they can't see you, if necessary. (I studied on the OU, i get it, you need every second)

It's 2 days a week. Many children go to nursery 5 days a week.

@TTCJJBeven if I’m still working And how do you suggest people with no help, do such a thing? Magic? Cloning?

This is outrageous of the nursery. If your DD was “waiting and wondering why she was the last one” it’s because of the situation they created, putting her hat and coat on and all standing by the door even though you had not yet arrived, what an anxiety-inducing situation to create for her just to try and emotionally blackmail you. Why weren’t they playing with her, reading to her etc

i would also be furious and ask directly for clarification on what time they are open to, and advise that they share that information with all their staff because sticking a two year old in front of a window inside with their hat and coat on is not childcare

I don’t mean this nastily and I’m 100% with you on the nursery’s abhorrent behaviour btw - just awful! - but, from your reply to this comment, it sounds to me like you’ve taken too much on and your DD is having to pay the price here. 11 hours is way too long for any child, let alone a 2 year old. Take this as a sign that your timing for this is not right. I’d postpone your course a year or 2.

I feel like a lot of nurseries operate like this - The having hat and coat on waiting by the door is bang out of order but most children are picked up well before the official end of the day. I feel such guilt about my child being one of the remaining children left at the end of the day that I ensure he's picked up by half 4, even if I'm still working.

First of all - amazing! You are a rockstar and never let anyone tear you down!

secondly, I wonder do the dads get this guilt - I doubt it! Would a nursery worker suggest a suited and booted man gives up his job in the city and take a job in Tesco to be closer to his child! I would be shocked if that was the case.