Nursery teachers snarky comment

The OP got there at 6.20. Plenty of time for a handover before the closing time of 6.30

Ours closes at 6 and remind parents regularly that the doors close at 6, so they need to be there earlier to collect/ have a handover and put on coats etc. it’s not walk in at 559 then expect a 10 minute chat and leisurely dress your child/ get a snack etc.

I can’t speak for that poster but my elder 2 were at school 5 days a week by the time my youngest was born and they bonded beautifully.

You say the manager laughed and explained that they wanted to go home. That sounds like she wasn't being snarky or angry, do maybe you just took it the wrong way? Just explain to them that you can't get there early on a Friday. They can't expect you to do so.

I’m sure there are children there until 6.30 on other days, otherwise the nursery wouldn’t be open until 6.30. If all children left by 6pm (for example) every day, they’d close at 6pm, wouldn’t they.

The nursery closes at 6.30pm.

How did the children bond?

What degree did you study for?? I’ve gotten a STEM degree from a top 10 brick and mortar uni and it definitely took less work than the one I’m currently taking from OU (also STEM but different field), even though I’m now studying part time…

It’s true that it’s flexible but you do still need to put the hours in and those can be hard to find when juggling paid work, housework and kids.

It’s not ideal leaving a child that small in nursery to 630, whether it’s offered or
not. Clearly other parents agree, or the child would not have been the last there. It’s about time management.

She is already doing uni work in the evenings. Did you miss those posts?

If they want a guarantee to leave before 6.30 on Friday, they need to amend their opening times. If they are open until 6.30, then you are well within your rights to collect up to 6.30pm.

Also, dont feel bad about using childcare to do your uni work. You've got to go what you've got to do. Yes, it might be a long day, but its a day you can study without distraction. Dont let anyone make you feel bad for using it while completing your degree. Not everyone has family and friends to rely on for regular childcare (or any childcare at all!)

A you continually snarky? Does it make you feel like you have a good sense of honour to write like this?? Do you want to collect you ‘large circle of friends medal?

Anyway. Yes, I am surprised as generally these friends are choosing to leave their child til 630, it’s not out of necessity, just like OP. She is doing uni work. This can be done in the evening after baby is in bed. She’s not stuck out in her field or tending to the sick.

Why is Friday any different to any other working day? The standard working week is 5 full days. Most of us don’t get the luxury of finishing early on a Friday. I picked mine up
at the same time on a Friday as any other day, because I worked the same hours on a Friday as any other day.

This - I’d be furious… so cheeky of them. You pay until 6.30 and they shouldn’t be doing that.

Another point is, I noticed you said “all the staff” I’m sure they’d still be on ratio if they all went home and only two of them stayed (I know legally they’d be ok 1-1 but I suppose it’s in case there’s incident - but in any event two staying would suffice?)

Also I can’t believe the amount of people judging the OP for using a nursery - firstly her child’s welfare is no concern of yours, she’s entitled to put her there 5 days a week if she wanted to from start to finish! Secondly I can’t believe you’d be so judgemental of anybody’s circumstances, yet again you’ve gone for the women and not suggested Dad could change his whole life to accommodate childcare.

Shame on all you that judged.

Usual perfect MN mums giving their opinion on the length of time the child was at the nursery for …but to answer the question ..you are not being unreasonable to be annoyed at the “hats & coats brigade” waiting for you ! I wouldn’t complain at this stage but say “just for their info “ they should know that you won’t be getting there any earlier than 6.30 and would prefer it if your child wasn’t made in any way to feel you are “late” because that’s the agreed time . If they continue to make you feel bad , then take it further . We all know the Friday feeling but it doesn’t entitle anyone to an early finish. Really unprofessional .

I used to have this as work until 6pm on a Friday. Luckily they never said anything as Id been through them for a short cut.

The amount I was paying I just ducked my guilt down. I did buy lovely Xmas and birthday presents for his carers

Agree! Both my children went to nursery for 10 hours a day once they were 1 so I could work. I see that as no different to studying! Oh and also I left my oldest at nursery whilst I was on maternity leave - the horror that I needed a break with just the newborn baby!

If they close at 6.30 then as long as you pick up before 6.30 it should be fine. I've picked up my kids as close to closing as possible many a time and I've never walked in to everyone in jackets - he might be helping with the last bits of tidying up but it takes a second to put a coat on after they're gone!

They have probably got used to going home early on a Friday op. They were rude and unprofessional.

You are doing an amazing job op. Doing an OU degree alongside working and raising a small child is no mean feat.

Does she have kids? If so, I wonder why she had them if she was going to leave them behind, and perhaps she shouldn’t be a mother…

(obvs I don’t believe that). The hypocrisy is embarrassing.

we’ve had exactly the same conversation but at 6pm, dd has been upset to see all her friends go home

The thing is, the nursery did not behave professionally.

They did not call the OP early in the day to request an early collection, due to staffing, weather, whatever. They called her ten minutes before, to what end? To stress out the OP? They made passive aggressive digs. They potentially made the child anxious about her mum not being there.

Anyone defending this, has zero idea of appropriate behaviour in the workplace. I was surprised to see the teacher saying she should have done them a favour. Wonder how professional they are at work…

Says you who works away two to three night a week.

i wouldnbt adjust your hours ot suit themn theyre being paid and are knocking off early ffs

see if it happens again then tell the owner