Nursery teachers snarky comment

OP - I did Open University on a part-time basis (one module at a time) when I was working full-time and already had an undergraduate and postgraduate degree. This was before I had kids and I can confirm it is HARD WORK! What you are doing is amazing. Ignore anyone here that says otherwise.

I also get the Mum-guilt you feel here. I was always the last mum to pick my kids up from nursery because I am a busy woman and made the most of every minute of childcare that I paid for/was entitled to. It didn't mean that I didn't love spending time with my little ones too. I think having your little one ready to go ten minutes before collection time was unacceptable. As others have said they should have kept her occupied with an activity that was quick to tidy up with her stuff and the remaining staff members stuff ready to pick up and go. As it was she was likely to have experienced stress because she thought you were late.

I'd complain to the nursery manager and explain your intention to regularly pick up at 6.30pm because you need the full allocation of time to cover your work commitments. If they can't accommodate that on a Friday offer to switch to a Thursday because it sounds like that was your first choice anyway. If I was you I'd also be looking around for a different nursery that does offer half days, because I suspect from this incident that there's not a great culture in this nursery. You could always ask to do some settling in sessions with them to see how your little one could handle another transition before you made any firm decisions.

Oh I think you’ve misunderstood, I wasn’t trying to charm you.

Nursery are totally unreasonable!

Next Friday I’d be saying to the staff see you at 6:25! (And then I’d turn up at 6:20 and if they weren’t still playing with my child and had already sat her by the door I’d be making a complaint.

If pickup is until 6:30 then there should be no phone calls or anything else until 6:30pm - 2 phone calls at 6:19 and 6:20 is outrageous, and the fact all the staff had their coats on before 6:30 is ridiculous - they seem pretty lazy staff - I’d be looking to change nursery tbh.

I agree I was.

Child was there for 9hrs 50mins this day though and they were trying to make it even less. Believe me, some LAs do care about every minute.
OP needs to find out which hour is paid for if they want to keep pulling this trick.

Thank you. Such a charmer.

How fortunate you were.

Plus it was her first day.

Which makes your replies all the more ridiculous TBH.

I didn’t use paid child care.

The haters are really out in force on this thread. OP tune all the crazy criticism and misogyny out. Good on you for getting your degree. You sound like a super mum, employee and student. Stick it to the nursery manager for sure, utterly inappropriate.

As the OP was.

I don’t as I have no experience of it. But if I had, I would make sure I was there in time to ask the staff how my child’s day had been.

Sounds like they used to all finish early on a friday when all the kids had gone and now they are pissed they have to stay till close. A bit tough really as its their job!

Thanks. Think it’s peri menopause, I can’t retain information for some reason 😂. Hopefully OP gets the gist.

Were you ever called 11 mins before pick up time to be reminded that they wanted you to be there 10 mins before pick up time?? Never happened to me!

OP, I am so sorry you are getting some of these awful comments about putting your child in nursery.

You are not unreasonable...I'd be furious that they were pushing their wants and needs onto your child. They could have been playing with her and distracting her, as is their job! They clearly just wanted an early clock off.

I would write a complaint or a query to the overall manager, questioning the hours, asking again to change the Friday to a Thursday if they will struggle to stay open until 6.30pm

Also, I am the Mum of teens who went to nursery for 2-3 long days (one went for 2, one went for 3) and they loved it, they thrived and even if they were sometimes the last ones collected, they were never made to feel like they were left alone and were playing happily until the end. I work in education so I couldn't leave meetings early.

All my children adjusted well to school, are confident interacting with others, great relationships with their friends and teachers and at home we are a team, tightly knit, we have open communication and a great relationship.

Please don't listen to the rubbish about how your child won't bond and all the ridiculous pearl clutching. You are forging a better life for your child to provide for her as she grows. You are getting a balance and showing her what it means to be a strong independent woman.

Please take it from someone who is over a decade on in this scenario.

I hope you get this resolved. If they are open until 6.30pm then they should expect to be there until then, at the earliest.

Yes I did as you can see from my post which said many nurseries want pick up 10 minutes before closing and that maybe they called 11 minutes before to remind her.

Come on! You must understand the difference. You pay for the full day. You choose when to drop off and collect. You can collect up until closing and it is unreasonable to be treated as though you can’t by the people offering the service.

And was OU where you learned to be so nasty?

She did pick her up 10 mins before the doors closed. She was there at 6.20pm. Is anyone reading the OP’s posts?

I dont think this makes any difference in this case. They can't claim all of the hours anyway can they- its a max of 10 per day.

Fair enough. 😊

Does it matter? If she’s ok with putting her in an hour late, why the angst at having to pick her up 10 minutes before the doors shut?