Nursery teachers snarky comment

Wow, someone has some sensitivities. I commented on your empathy, not your intelligence.

Thank you. I’ll bow out now as I’m clearly too thick to post on this thread 👍

So you don’t have experience of working in a nursery? You don’t have the experience to comment then!

You've never worked in a nursery. You never used a nursery. But "people with no experience of nurseries" doesn't include you?

But you were very quick to defend pp after what she said even in your response to me. If pp says something like that, she is hardly going to get a nice response, is she?

You may have worked in early years but you've been clear you have no experience of relying on paid childcare so that's where you need to educate yourself and develop some empathy in order to contribute constructively to this conversation.

Which doesn’t include me.

Yes! This is so frustrating. If nursery says there hours are 7.30-6.30 and then I should be able to drop off at 7.30 and staff be in and ready to engage with the kids (I..e they've been there 15/30 minutes already setting up etc) and collect at 6.30 and the staff not be tapping their feet to go home!

I’ve never worked in a nursery.

Why not read the post you quoted? There isn’t anything to suggest, from the staff’s response, that the OP had got in a muddle about the time.

Why isn't OP merely allowed to have an opinion about pp? Especially if we're talking about pp who questioned why OP even has a child. Of course that is going to get a response and probably a response that is just as personal and not exactly kind.

With all due respect, if I was OP, I'd take advice from those who use or have used nurseries over those that have no experience at all with them and are always on these types of threads questioning why a mother had children if they were going to use nurseries.

Contact the owner if a private nursery. The manager obviously condones it. I imagine all of the children left at 6 pm are made to sit waiting with coats on ☹️. Not acceptable. They should be enjoying story time right up until last parent arrives.

You worked in Early Years and yet you think its reasonable for parents to be expected to pick up early when they are working? Did you work in the OP’s nursery?

I think it would be weirder to regularly try to charm randoms on the internet TBH!

You may be a slacker, most people are not. I am regularly still working at that time and later.

It frankly doesn’t matter either if the OP was polishing her nails and watching TV - she has paid for a service up until 6.30pm and was early to pick up. If the nursery staff don’t want to work at that time on a Friday then they shouldn’t take customers’ money for it.

OP: I would ask them to clarify their operating hours on Fridays as your daughter was distressed - their behaviour implying you were not where you should be was inappropriate for a small child settling into nursery. I would also point out these are your working hours, if they cannot service those hours on a Friday you are happy to move to Thursday but the hours are the hours you work.

I would also take note next Friday when I turned up at 6.20-30 to collect. If the same problem occurs then take it up with the owner, documenting the issues. The manager is plainly no better than the staff (and may be driving the culture). I would also be looking at alternatives who did not upset my daughter by implying I’d forgotten her on a Friday. Putting a child in their hat and coat and hassling parents for an early pick up so they can skive off early is not the service you are paying for.

Of course its possible if its a chain that the owner doesn’t care and that is where the culture comes from and I know its not always easy to change (in which case I’d definitely look for alternatives) but if they want to skive on a Friday they need to find you space on Thursday or reduce the fees for a shorter day (if you can even do that).

I worked in Early Years for a large part of my career. I won’t be replying to you again, so waste your time replying to me if you like. 🤦‍♀️

Are u sure it was 6.20 and not 6.40 and they wanted to leave at 6.30 their finishing time

I actually don’t have a problem with the OP, apart from her telling another woman she needs therapy and has a sad life merely for having an opinion.

However, it was her daughters first day and I think that, instead of demanding this that and the next thing that people on here are suggesting, she should put it down to teething problems and work it out amicably with the nursery.

Could be crossed wires rather than a slight on her parenting?

It will be hard for the child is they are regularly the last one there and the staff don’t know how reliable you will be yet and you don’t know the nursery norms

After a number of settling in sessions, as is usual. Again, you wouldn’t know so stop passing judgement.

Eh?

Right, well it’s been explained to you now so you can start trying to think beyond your experience. She was earlier than the very end and handover is only a 2 min conversation. Nurseries call during the day if there is anything serious to report and most of apps not to share learning journeys and food/toileting. You’ll say you didn’t know that as you don’t have the experience. Maybe a sign to educate yourself before passing judgement?

Good. You achieved your goal of not charming me. Strange way to behave but it obviously works for you 😱

I mean it is a bit rude to ask though isn’t it? She isn’t implying she can’t handle it at all. No one would bat an eyelid if the child was with family. Nursery should be educational, rewarding, fun, nurturing etc.

I don’t think there’s a bad time to educate yourself and increase your earning potential. More pay, pays more tax, supporting businesses such as this nursery and local businesses when she has more disposable income etc. it’s a win win unless she specifically says she is struggling (maybe I missed that).

and OP was. So what's the problem?