Nursery teachers snarky comment

Not such thing as a minor cold. Colds are always contagious and caused by a variety of viruses like RSV for example which in some (older) toddlers might present as a “minor cold” but cause serious symptoms in another child.

It was her first day! she'd seen all the other kids picked up -dont you think she was worried you werent coming back? I wouldn't have left her for so long the first time snd certainly not go be the last to be collected. The nursery probably had credited you with a little more common sense and empathy for your own child!

They didn't say anything 'snarky'

Or minor colds with the child otherwise feeling fine, no temps and not needing calpol.

Do you mean practise?

Same, my kids are very very rarely ill. They just don't get coughs and colds. DC2 is in year 2 and went to nursery from 14months old and has been off nursery once for a high temp/ snotty nose etc and once from school for the same. She had chicken pox at 5 months and COVID at 11months

DC1 had d&v age 9 months, chicken pox age 3 and I think was off nursery once for a cold. They just don't get ill.

DH and I also don't get ill though, I was off work with COVID before Christmas and the last time I was ill was with COVID in 2021.

She’s never had one of those!

Are you one of those people that don’t consider a cold with a green snot streaming down their face and a hacking cough an illness? Whenever I see nursery children, half of them are covered in snot and look like they really shouldn’t be there.

This thread is nuts.

It’s simple. She pays until 6:30, so she is covered til 6:30. She wasn’t late. She was early. What she does in the time that her child is in childcare is nobody’s business - we have childcare for a reason and she is using it the way it is intended.

Will the nursery refund her money for the time not used? Obviously not.

They’re cheeky fucking bastards.

Nope, she’s genuinely never ill.
She had chicken pox at 12 months.
She’s had D&V twice
She had suspected tonsillitis once.
She never even got COVID (yes we tested)
Any other illness she’s had (rare) has been during the school holidays so hasn’t required time off because she wasn’t in childcare.
But I don’t get ill often either (the last time I was off work sick (except covid) was over 12 years ago) so obviously she got good genes.

Being ill 5 times or less in 10 years whilst in childcare would be a medical miracle.

Note PP said “not ill enough” which more likely means she was ill but PP didn’t want the inconvenience of keeping her at home to recover.

I’d want to know how long she was sat with her coat on waiting; it’s harsh for them to have her bundled up waiting to go for ages.

The same point still stands though, doesn't it?

Unpaid childcare suggests family etc and that just isn't an option for many people.

CFs! They told you they wanted you to do Fridays and they are being paid for those hours. Speak to the nursery owner about it and don’t turn up until 6.30pm on the dot (even though I’m sure you’d love to be home earlier). Making your daughter wait with her coat on looking out the window for you way early as if she’s been abandoned is actually quite cruel!

Are you able to split your days somehow so she’s there for less time, it’s a really long day at that age

Or simply not all children are constantly ill after first starting nursery.

Mine weren't either.

You do best to ignore them, especially as it has nothing to do with the AIBU anyway. They just don't agree with mothers daring to have ambition and wanting to better themselves.

You need to nip this in the bud and sort it out for what you want. I'm sure Dd did not ask why she was only one left and they could have explained it to her. Ask again for the day you would have chosen. and if not point out thst we alll hsve to compromise sometimes.

Right so you have no clue what you are talking about, you just think the OP should pay for a service but not use it so that the staff can skive off early.
🙄

She was ill 5 times or less in 10
years? Really? You sound like the type of parent who sends their contagious kid to nursery to infect everyone else.

Absolute bullshit!
My daughter has done those hours since she was 8 months old.
Shes now 10 and I can count on 1 hand the number of times she’s been ill enough to need to be off nursery/school in her entire life.
The OP is not leaving her child at home alone.
She’s leaving her somewhere that’s full of toys (that are rotated regularly), with trained care providers who will entertain her all day and where there are other children to play with. That’s more than most children without siblings get at home. Please do explain how that is unfair on the child.
The point at which it becomes unfair is when the care providers are not doing their job properly and stop entertaining the child they are being paid to entertain in favour of waiting to go home.
They are the ones with something to feel guilty about, not the OP.

PAID childcare.

But not in a nursery…

On top of having never used private nursery childcare. Literally no clue.

Feel free not to reply. You’re adding literally nothing to the discussion with your lack of experience of private nursery as either staff or parent.

Not thick, we have no idea of your intelligence levels. You just lack the experience necessary to make a valuable contribution to the thread.