Nursery teachers snarky comment

It’s a matter of opinion, not legality 🤣
I just know how wrecked toddlers get after a full day and how it impacts on them when the other kids go because most of the time they get fractious and keep looking at the door. If I could avoid that, I would.
Different if it’s OP working hours but with OU it’s optional when you do the work, so if she can get her earlier it would be kinder imo. I say this as someone who has a BA from the OU and did it with 3 babies/toddlers, so I understand the struggles.

That rule is never going to happen so people will continue to send their child to nursery and school when they have colds but are otherwise well because they need to work and can't risk losing their jobs.

Time off from work needs to be kept for when they are actually feeling ill such as vomiting bugs.

You (and lots of others) argued on another thread how it’s necessary to keep older children in childcare while on Mat leave with new baby because nursery places are so hard to get. Make your mind up.

Either way, it’s definitely not worth to have to suddenly work extra hours on a Friday just because of one child.

It’s common and unavoidable for many working families. My children did long days from under 2. If they hadn’t, I couldn’t have got into work on time. Of course, I would have preferred to have been with them but I wasn’t a bad parent for making sure they were somewhere safe, stimulating and caring while I went to work to provide for them.

No they wouldn’t. It wouldn’t take long for the germs to stop spreading if a new rule came in one day about not bringing your child in unless 100% symptomless.

Except they offered her that day because they’re ’quiet’ on that day. If they had people to fill the place they wouldn’t be quiet that day, would they?

Then why did they tell OP to send her on Fridays when she originally requested Thursdays?

I work In a nursery and the parents never see us waiting in our coats and hats. we don’t go and get those until we are ready to walk out

however if this was your daughters first day they’d of been wondering how late you’d of been and then they’ll now always be thinking and communicating that you’re child will more than likely be the last one each day that they are there because it happens as a nursery practitioner you know who’s going to be in every day no matter what you know who’s going to be late collecting you know this because of their patterns and behaviours and they are learning yours. So maybe next Friday when you collect at 6:20 you’ll probably see hats and coats again but they’ll be expecting it to happen.

i personally don’t even like nurseries and i put my daughter into a school nursery rather than a private one from a childminder.

also no one wants to be at work at 20 past 6 you included obviously but needs must for you. Can’t you complete work while your child is in bed?

Ridiculous. If leaving a child in nursery for a full day is too long for children that age, childcare settings wouldn’t be able to offer those hours to children that age in the first place.

Unwell enough to be off of nursery which doesn't always happen when it's a cold. If everyone did it, many people would lose their jobs before the issue would resolve itself.

You would? Does that mean you haven't actually used a nursery?

Yeah because she’s the only one in the nursery to leave her child in there for that long by the sounds of it. I think they would rather lose one customer and be able to go home earlier. Apparently there’s a shortage of nursery places so I don’t think it will take them long to fill the space.

It's a simple misunderstanding. No need to overthink it.

You just need to ask for clarity about finishing times, whether you're paying for unsupported hours, and then it's all clear down the line.

Do you have a job?

It's possible that they just haven't had many. My kids just don't really get colds.

Admittedly now they are school age, school themselves state a runny nose with no temperature is not a reason to be staying off. So if they did start to get them now I wouldn't necessarily keep them off, depending on how they feel in themselves.

You were arguing that it’s not the norm for children to be constantly ill when in nursery so taking time off the few times they do have a cold shouldn’t be too much of a burden? And yes, I would keep my child off nursery/school every time they have a cold. If everyone did that the issue would resolve itself. Colds are so common because selfish people go around spreading them.

And you don't deserve to be judged. You paid for a service and your DD was happy when you collected her on her first day. Wow! That's some mothering and some example you're setting her.

Yours, enviously...

They were very unprofessional however 8.20-6.30 is too long a day in nursery for a 2 year old- especially if she’s new to it.
Ive worked in a nursery and if all the other kids leave, the one left behind often gets really sad. I’d try my best to make the last hour fun but they just want to go home. If you aren’t working I’d pick her up earlier- not for the nursery but for DD

How about 'because we want to go home?' I quite often want to go home before the end of my contracted hours. Bosses and customers seem to be so unreasonable about me doing it though!

Wtaf you're paying till 6.30 and booked in till 6.30.

I'd turn up at 6.40 next time and let them say something. I'd also address it in an email to the manager.

How dare they make you and your daughter feel like that.

Why? Because she picked her child up at 6.20pm when she’d paid until 6.30pm?

Do you really keep your child at home from nursery every time they have a cold, no temp and are well in themselves?

How on earth have you managed to keep your job?

That’s completely out of line - you pay for a service and those are the hours. Manipulating you into feeling guilty for arriving early or on time to collect your child is ridiculous. Have a word with the manager. People need to be pulled up on such behaviour because it is unprofessional and you don’t need to justify why you are using up all of the hours of a service you pay for. Also who cares if your kid is the last one there on a Friday? It’s their job to entertain them! If you prefer to switch to a Thursday that’s of course one thing as it’s usually busier but don’t feel bad xx

I don’t think the nursery would be sad to see OP go so it would be a win win scenario for everyone involved.

Very true. But no one can take time off work every time their child has a minor cold, they would lose their job and no longer be able to provide for their child.

Fuck that. Your daughter should be entertained until 6:30 as that’s her nursery time. Locking down around her and calling you is dog shit, I’d be really annoyed about it. I’d be rethinking the nursery tbh, unprofessional and would make me question the whole operation.