Nursery teachers snarky comment

Like I said it’s off topic (as these threads often go) so no way related to your childcare issue just to be clear. I was replying to the other OU’er hence my quote.
Different learners have different styles and lifestyles. Lots of people in my study group were more conscientious, some of us were very haphazard (with mixed results)
I actually got a first and went on the do my MA with the OU successfully- so it obviously worked ok for me👌I wouldn’t actually recommend the OU for the MA but that’s another story

Ok so I’m confused- I suggested you pick her up earlier if you could. You said you couldn’t- fair enough. Then I suggested a change of setting if the vibe was them making her sit and wait on her own.
Nowhere did I say you should have predicted the situation.

The thing is, there is a lot of pressure with the OU. I was planning to study today and this morning skidded in my car on black ice and ended up in a ditch with the fire service having to free me (Im ok, just bruised and tearful). While I was trapped in the car (hysterical) i was also genuinely worrying about how this would impact my studying today. I dont think its fair to berate the OP on using childcare to enable her studies.

People who are happy and content generally don’t make cruel comments. I remember that when I read comments from those kinds of posters, whilst assuming they are unhappy in their lives and worried about their choices. Often unfulfilled in some way. There are a lot on this thread!

Off topic but I used to read the assignment question first, skim any of the other course material and just read what I needed to for the TMA. The tutorials were so shit I think I did one the whole time I was studying.
I probably blagged far more than I should but I had to do what I did tbh

OP I like your style and know you will
be a brilliant role model for your daughter. Carry on doing your best, and have a serious word with nursery if they pull this passive aggressive unprofessional nonsense again.

Having bright and educated women in the workplace is a fabulous thing.

Not really ridiculous to suggest you pick your child up half an hour early if you can, especially if she’s at a nursery where they are going to let her sit with her coat on while they’re all waiting at the door and no other kids there .
Like I said, I did OU myself and I know I could’ve found half an hour if I needed to. It’s meant to be flexible. If you can’t find that half an hour and the nursery expect the earlier pick up then I’d find another setting and ensure they offer the childcare until the minute you’ve booked it.

You’re within your rights to pick her up at 6:20 so just continue doing that if it doesn’t brother you that they make her feel like she overstayed her welcome. If it bothers you then your other option is to stop sending her there. I don’t think complaining will get you anywhere. There’s abuse etc happening in nurseries that needs dealing with, I don’t think anyone would waste their time looking into such a non-issue/petty argument between you and the staff.

You dropped off and picked up DD within the stated nursery times. The nursery workers are totally out of order and I'd be making a complaint to the management and expecting the staff to be at least talked to about having DD ready to go and making her feel like she should have already left. That's rude and rubbish caring.

However I also feel sorry for your little girl having such a long day. It was her first day, she's under 3 and made to have an 11 hour day in a new environment, being the last one to be collected. Personally, unless you were on an unavoidable long shift somewhere, I think that's pretty harsh for your daughter. While the staff getting ready to go won't have helped, I suspect she had been exhausted, over stimulated and desperate to go home for some hours. Ending around 3-4 would be much more appropriate.

I did about 2-3 hours' a week study with the OU for my BA...got myself a Desmond (TuTu).

Yes this is the key point. They are taking money for a service and then not providing that service in an appropriate manner. They are not obliged to sell the service level they do but having contracted for those hours, they are required to honour them.

Indeed, children vary greatly. Two of mine scarcely had a day off from preschool care through to A levels. One had a few incidences, maybe a dozen across that time. One had a phase of a year-eighteen months where they caught every bug going (turned out to be an underlying issue).

I’m sure the OP has set up her week to be as kind to her child as possible with all the other things that have to be considered and planned for their family. Speculating otherwise is unkind.

No one said you were a bad parent.
I said as the OP hasn’t got set working hours it would be kinder. I also used a nursery as a working parent, but if I could have avoided doing the full session I would, because IMO it’s not ideal having sent from the other side .

Sorry I can’t see if you’ve answered this, do you have a job?