Nursery teachers snarky comment

Came back here because for the people who asked for an update, I have one! DD had her second day at nursery yesterday, which she loved and came home with the biggest smile on her face, and which she has spoken about all day today! And is excited about going again tomorrow.

I spoke with the manager, and I framed it as though I was worried I had done something wrong (I need to keep a good relationship with them and I was worried to get their backs up). She clarified she said it as a joke, but she appreciates that it was inappropriate since she hasn’t known me long enough for me to understand her sense of humour. I asked her about the phone calls, she said they were worried I was going to be late and wanted to check I knew what time to pick her up (which of course, I did). The coats thing I haven’t mentioned, as when I went to pick her up yesterday, she was happily playing. I’m going to see if it is different on Friday again, as obviously I think the fact it’s a Friday might be the problem! If so, I’m going to ask about the possibility of changing to Thursday, since I think it happening twice in a row gives me abit more of “bargaining power” (for lack of a better term).

thanks everyone again for your advice!

Came back here because for the people who asked for an update, I have one! DD had her second day at nursery yesterday, which she loved and came home with the biggest smile on her face, and which she has spoken about all day today! And is excited about going again tomorrow.

I spoke with the manager, and I framed it as though I was worried I had done something wrong (I need to keep a good relationship with them and I was worried to get their backs up). She clarified she said it as a joke, but she appreciates that it was inappropriate since she hasn’t known me long enough for me to understand her sense of humour. I asked her about the phone calls, she said they were worried I was going to be late and wanted to check I knew what time to pick her up (which of course, I did). The coats thing I haven’t mentioned, as when I went to pick her up yesterday, she was happily playing. I’m going to see if it is different on Friday again, as obviously I think the fact it’s a Friday might be the problem! If so, I’m going to ask about the possibility of changing to Thursday, since I think it happening twice in a row gives me abit more of “bargaining power” (for lack of a better term).

thanks everyone again for your advice!

Thank you I feel a little better now! And thank you for sticking up for me while I’ve been away!!

agree, some jealous people on here.

Hi I've not commented on this before but have read the comments. Some of the comments are disgusting and I think made out of envy.
FWIW I just want to tell you that I also sent my DD to nursery for long hours whilst I was at university.That was 30 years ago. We all survived and my DD now has a fabulous career of her own and a baby on the way.
Hope you resolve the issue with the nursery or find one that suits you both better.
Good Luck with your studies. X

Hi I've not commented on this before but have read the comments. Some of the comments are disgusting and I think made out of envy.
FWIW I just want to tell you that I also sent my DD to nursery for long hours whilst I was at university.That was 30 years ago. We all survived and my DD now has a fabulous career of her own and a baby on the way.
Hope you resolve the issue with the nursery or find one that suits you both better.
Good Luck with your studies. X

What an unusual definition of 'gently'.

Thank you for all of the very kind messages! I’ve read all of them and I truly appreciate it ❤️ and thank you to those of you who offered your advice and opinion on what I actually asked about in the original post. I’m going to stop looking at this thread now because I’m getting really tired of seeing the same negative comments passing judgement on why I need childcare, what I use it for, etc.

thank you again to all of the kind people!☺️

A few posters gently suggested that but apparently that make us nasty.

Thank you so much for this, this is so kind and was something I definitely needed to hear 🥰 I also am old enough to remember when my mum went back to university and I just remember my pride when she graduated, the only part of her studying and being away long hours I remember is seeing her study notes stuck all over the kitchen so she could revise while cooking. Now I’m a mum myself I look back on that with even more pride because I think my mum was and is incredible

@SouthLondonMum22

I think it's a bit different when the child is older and more able to cope with being away from their mum. 2 year olds are not ready for that for extended periods of time IMO.

Awful isn't it. Mums now needing to apologise for mumsing in the way they choose. Meanwhile Dad's get to pursue their career aspirations without a seconds thought.

As an ex-childcare worker I used to get frustrated when parents were late in picking their children up especially on Fridays as some staff had far to travel etc, but the staff in your child's nursery are being unreasonable about this as you were well within the time frame to pick up your daughter. Is complain about this to someone higher up. As staff we wouldn't put on our jackets etc until last child had gone.

Fuck me we don't need the patriarchy to bring us down do we. We've got mumsnet.