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How unreasonable am I being? (Funeral related)

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Bizn · 09/01/2026 22:36

DH’s aunt died a few weeks ago and her funeral is on Monday. DH told me 2 weeks ago the date and time of the funeral. I met her once but obviously he wants me to go with him.

Since the funeral date was given to me we’ve had Christmas and various other things - this morning I was asked if I could pick my grandson up from school Monday evening. I completely forgot about the funeral and agreed as well as arranging to take grandson for a treat after school which he’s looking forward to. My daughter has now committed to an appointment Monday evening.

I’ve mentioned to DH twice that I’m picking him up from school Monday - he’s not mentioned the funeral once so clearly he hasn’t twigged on either.

I’ve just seen the scribbled note with the funeral details on. I really don’t know what to do! I suffer with social anxiety and I’m autistic so naturally, I’d prefer not to go at all. I don’t know his family other than his mum and sisters - I’ve now committed to DD and DGS and on top of this I literally have nothing to wear for a funeral.

DH still hasn’t mentioned it!

How unreasonable am I being to tell him I can no longer go?

OP posts:
KarmenPQZ · 09/01/2026 22:40

You just need to get on top of it now. ‘Oh no i just realised it’s aunts funeral on Monday but I’ve committed to look after grandson and I can’t give back word because daughter has committed to…. I did ok it with you but you must have forgotten. I’m so sorry but you’ll be ok with your mum and sister there right’

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/01/2026 22:38

I assume funeral then pickup isn't an option?

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