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He threw my beautiful cake tin away!!

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beholdtheidiot · 09/01/2026 22:25

My daughter bought me a gorgeous cake tin for Christmas and so I filled it with stollen and other Christmas treats.

I came home from work earlier, made a cup of tea and went to get a piece of stollen and the tin was no where to be found. Husband came home and I asked him where was the tin - in the bin he said!!

Apparently he thought the tin was a tin that came with the stollen and once empty would go in the bin! So he’d bunged it into the bin where it’s git a bit dented and looks a bit shit as the lid is bent.

Hes remorseful but absolutely thinks that the tin was a single use item. What a fucking Idiot!

He has ordered me a new one as DD told him where she got it from as I was raging but who throws cake tins away!!

AIBU, is it really such an easy mistake to make????

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WinterWooliesBaa · 17/01/2026 13:22

letshearitfortheboy · 11/01/2026 17:37

You were "raging" after this, really. Get a grip. I hate to say it, but shit like this is why some men end up leaving all the tidying to their wives. They do it, get it "wrong" somehow, never hear the end of it, so never do it again.

So she shouldn't be mad at him that he threw away her Christmas present from her daughter?? (Proper tin, not just a cheap tin that came with the stollen)

Get a grip. That's just enabling 'learned jncomoetence'

WinterWooliesBaa · 17/01/2026 10:36

TumbledTussocks · 17/01/2026 09:59

everyone knows not to get excited by the presence of a quality street tin on the shelf means crafts and gibbons. you still get the flutter of optimism. I tricked the kids into thinking the actual chocolate was sewing stuff this year then sent them to get some thread, it was adorable!

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TumbledTussocks · 17/01/2026 09:59

WinterWooliesBaa · 10/01/2026 01:04

Washed in hot dish water. Rinsed in boiling water.

shortbread
other biscuts
cake.
crackers
sweets

sewing stuff
gift tags
ribbon

Growing up, one of the old HUGE Quality Street tins was our 'first aid' tin. 🥰

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everyone knows not to get excited by the presence of a quality street tin on the shelf means crafts and gibbons. you still get the flutter of optimism. I tricked the kids into thinking the actual chocolate was sewing stuff this year then sent them to get some thread, it was adorable!

Bluffinwithmymuffin · 17/01/2026 01:36

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 16/01/2026 23:55

I think some people are missing the fact that the tin, empty, was OPs gift from her DD. Not the stollen, OP put that in there.

It wasn't packaging OP was saving to reuse because it was pretty - her DH has done the equivalent of throwing away the bread bin because he used the last of the loaf!

That’s what I thought when I first read this thread about a week ago. If her DH hadn’t thrown the tin in the first place he wouldn’t have had to buy a replacement. The pointlessness of it, plus the wastefulness, would have annoyed me too.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 16/01/2026 23:55

I think some people are missing the fact that the tin, empty, was OPs gift from her DD. Not the stollen, OP put that in there.

It wasn't packaging OP was saving to reuse because it was pretty - her DH has done the equivalent of throwing away the bread bin because he used the last of the loaf!

Usernamenotav · 14/01/2026 15:36

Can't understand why he didn't know what gift your daughter got you for Christmas, do you not talk?

As for throwing tins, I don't keep biscuit tins etc, if I bought stollen in a tin I'd throw it when done. So I can see why he did it. Still annoying and glad you're getting a replacement

pollymere · 12/01/2026 14:03

Some tins these days are pretty useless once you open the seal. We do recycle those or give them to a charity that uses them for sewing kits! I just bought my husband a tin for shortbread and it's obvious it's thicker with a better seal. Hopefully he won't be that dimwitted about it — i better keep an eye on it!

PensionMention · 11/01/2026 23:12

@FeralWoman similar not grumpy though surely majestic disdain?

smithsgj · 11/01/2026 20:20

If I was your husband I’d have pretended it had been stollen

Jack80 · 11/01/2026 17:47

I feel bad for you, my husband has thrown an envelope away with a bracelet in not checking the envelope all because I left it on the table and he thought it was empty. What is it with men not checking before binning.

StrikeForever · 11/01/2026 17:38

PlainSkyr · 11/01/2026 12:14

That’s super silly!
On the other extreme I regularly find empty biscuit / crisp packs in my cupboards as people in my family have carefully placed them back; too much work throwing them away 🙄

Even when the place they put them is less than 2 feet from the bin. Inches in my husband’s case 🤯

letshearitfortheboy · 11/01/2026 17:37

You were "raging" after this, really. Get a grip. I hate to say it, but shit like this is why some men end up leaving all the tidying to their wives. They do it, get it "wrong" somehow, never hear the end of it, so never do it again.

Madamum18 · 11/01/2026 16:17

Poor bloke is rectifying his mistake. None of us are perfect and we all make stupid mistakes soetimes

CharlotteStreetW1 · 11/01/2026 14:47

Watch today's Money for Nothing. 😲

TwoSaturdays · 11/01/2026 14:33

Probably from the 1950s and kept in the garage where they store drill bits, screws, nails and, in the rice tin, curtain hooks.

He threw my beautiful cake tin away!!
He threw my beautiful cake tin away!!
He threw my beautiful cake tin away!!
Bonkers1966 · 11/01/2026 14:28

Sorry you married an idiot, op. Watch out for your other nice things.

PickledElectricity · 11/01/2026 14:26

notacooldad · 11/01/2026 14:16

I would have put it in recycling once it was finished with.
I cant save every nice looking tin or jar.

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Can you list nice tins on Facebook marketplace? I love nice tins.

notacooldad · 11/01/2026 14:16

I would have put it in recycling once it was finished with.
I cant save every nice looking tin or jar.

PlainSkyr · 11/01/2026 12:14

That’s super silly!
On the other extreme I regularly find empty biscuit / crisp packs in my cupboards as people in my family have carefully placed them back; too much work throwing them away 🙄

SameShitDifferentDate · 11/01/2026 11:41

OldWave · 10/01/2026 00:39

Probably not the best thread to bring this up, but I really dislike tins.
Awkward to open, dubious to clean, and I don't know what to put in them other than sewing kit.

And, usually, not properly airtight.

daffsarethebest · 11/01/2026 11:09

We need to see the tin!

anon666 · 11/01/2026 09:40

OldWave · 10/01/2026 09:04

Do they not rust?

Amd if you put something other than the original advertised treat in there, does it not produce disappointment every time you open it and there is something different inside?

And, how do you remember what is inside? A label? I might give a tin some grace if it had room for a label. Instead there would be ugly tape over the tin. And also, if there were biscuits etc inside, the label would need to be removed for washing.

But mostly I just hate opening tins. They never open easily and I have to brace them against my body to pull them open and biscuits fly everywhere. Is it just me??

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Ive actually bought an old skool Dymo label maker so I can painstakingly press out retro looking labels and stick them on my tins.

I am now fully ready to be a grandma.

anon666 · 11/01/2026 09:33

Poor guy. He thought he was being helpful by throwing away rubbish. Now he's in trouble. 🤣

They just don't get it, do they?

Now I want to know what the tin looks like.

Clafoutie · 11/01/2026 08:53

Purplebunnie · 09/01/2026 23:38

Where did you get the cat tin from? I am looking for a tin to keep cracker biscuits in and for some reason think it should be square or oblong,

Can you keep cracker biscuits in a round tin? Is it just me?

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This is so funny, I know exactly what you mean, and had the same hang up over this just yesterday. No, it must not be round for crackers ( but I’m fine with some things in a round tin, like sweets, and some sorts of cakes, but not all) What is this madness?! Is it something imprinted on us from primitive times? Do crackers in round tins represent a threat?!

user1476613140 · 11/01/2026 07:42

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 09/01/2026 22:26

LTB

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