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To have spent most of the day in tears over trees

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NoMoreTrees · 09/01/2026 16:56

We moved into this house just shy of a year ago and I regretted it almost instantly. I absolutely hate it here, it has pretty much ruined my life and for the last few months my mental health has been in tatters and I’ve had some very, very dark days.

One thing I did like about the house though was that at the end of the garden, on the other side of the fence were some beautiful tall trees. Dozens of trees with hundreds of birds that you can hear singing all year round, an owl, squirrels and other wildlife. The trees ran the entire length of our row of houses and a bit further.

On the other side of the trees is a small field, and while we were having surveys etc done they brought up a planning application for a small development of 9 houses in that field, which had been rejected by the water company.

Well I’m sure you know where this is going… obviously the water company were offered more money changed their minds because before the sun was even up this morning a bunch of men in hi viz and hard hats rocked up with a chainsaw, a bulldozer and a woodchipper and one by one started tearing all the trees down. By the time they had downed tools and fucked off there was only one tree left standing at the end of our garden and one or two surviving further down… for now at least.

I just can’t stop crying. I can’t even bring myself to look out of the windows at the back of the house. All those beautiful trees, all those birds, all that wildlife, gone. It was one of the very, very few things that made living here tolerable, and now instead of trees and birdsong, there is going to be a building site. Just when I thought I couldn’t fucking hate it here more.

To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
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ElizabethsTailor · 09/01/2026 19:22

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I’m (genuinely) curious as to what makes you think they are yew? I would lay money on them being a mix of Leyland and Lawson cypress- based on the form, and the crown in particular. In other words - farm “shelterbelt” planting.

venus7 · 09/01/2026 19:22

NoMoreTrees · 09/01/2026 17:46

Before it got dark I could see a few birds sitting forlornly in the one tree left at the end of our garden… poor things are probably wondering where their homes have gone 😢 I’m tempted to send DH to the garden centre first thing tomorrow, but neither of us really has a clue when it comes to gardening

Don't make a hasty decision; find out what will grow well where you are, and always lean toward native species.

Glitchymn1 · 09/01/2026 19:22

Get some conifers in, or if you can afford it trees that are already grown/semi established (I’m not a gardener either!) Go on the gardening board and they’ll help you there.
I’d consider a water feature, bird tables, feed the birds. I have no idea what plants /fruits you could put in to attract birds/wildlife but others will.
I have bird tables and water features, keep them clean and filled and life will return.
I’d be devastated too but you can salvage this.

https://www.wykehammatureplants.co.uk/product-category/screening/evergreen-screening/

Like this ^

AmberStoat · 09/01/2026 19:22

Absolutely 100% NOT unreasonable. What is it you hate about the house? I lived somewhere I hated and managed to find ways to like it before we eventually had to move anyway. I know how you feel though. It's awful when the one place meant to be a sanctuary feels anything but

ChocolateCinderToffee · 09/01/2026 19:22

Can you get preservation orders on the remaining trees?

venus7 · 09/01/2026 19:20

FeliciaFancybottom · 09/01/2026 17:40

Plant some conifers at the end of your garden, they're easy to grow and shoot up quickly.

Not conifers, they don't support wildlife. Plant native trees, if space/time is an issue, consider apple trees, particularly some of the rare species.

Mapleleaf114 · 09/01/2026 19:15

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Every part of yew tree is extrmely toxic- the bark the needles the berries, and the toxin goes through the skin if someone handles branches. Yew trees were used hy the aristocrats back in the day to kill poor peoples horses grazing on their land

Tdcp · 09/01/2026 19:15

It's very rarely I'm moved by posts on here but that is absolutely tragic. I'm so sorry op for you and the wildlife, how awful.

venus7 · 09/01/2026 19:15

ResusciAnnie · 09/01/2026 17:21

Ugh that’s so sad. Why do they even need to cut those boundary trees down to build houses in that field?? The company should be able to come up with a plan to avoid them surely. Stupid!

They would be able to, but lack motivation. They can probably squeeze in one more 'home' if the trees are gone. They sell houses, not 'homes'; manipulative sentimental tripe.
The amount of retrospective planning going on is shocking.

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BloominNora · 09/01/2026 19:12

I feel for you @NoMoreTrees - At our old house, in a town, there were trees between the houses in our street and the next street - right on the boundary. Over the years, more and more were removed, but it didn't affect us too much because of how enclosed the gardens were.

At the top of our garden was a huge mature sycamore - it was on the boundary and due to its position, when we needed to make sure the garden was fully enclosed because of the dog we had to fence in front of it. One day a tree surgeon turned up and asked for access to our garden because it was being cut down - the neighbour wanted it out because it was making a mess of his car 🙄.

I kicked up merry hell, but unfortunately there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. I threatened to just replace it on my side of the fence and the tree surgeon knew I was deadly serious, so ended up convincing the neighbour to just have it pollarded instead - looked awful for a couple of years, but it did grow back quite quickly.

We moved out to a rural area and now have a large area of woodland that we own - we have had to cut down a lot of trees like Leylandii and have a lot of laurel to take out because the woodland hasn't been managed properly for years.

I was gutted this morning when the snow brought down a lovely mature variegated holly :-(

Ironically I can't stand bloody sycamore now - they are incredibly invasive and cause all sorts of problems for trees with much more amenity value due to the speed that they grow.

The only thing I would say from your pictures is it looks like they have mostly removed conifers and maybe sycamores - neither of which are particularly great for most wildlife.

You have two options really - if the view is what bothers you most and you want something that is fast growing and will obscure the houses beyond, you need to put in something like laurel and bamboo (clumping only), although neither of these are great for wildlife.

If you really want to encourage wildlife, look at planting something like cherry and apple / crab apple trees which are relatively fast growing, evergreen honeysuckle and jasmine to climb through that trellis and native hedge row plants like Hawthorne, Dog Rose, Willow, Hazel and Holly.

Get plenty of bird feeders and bird boxes to encourage birds to visit and nest in your garden and create 'wild flower' beds to bring in colour.

ShiftingSand · 09/01/2026 19:12

I moved onto a fairly new estate and one of the things I liked about the house was that there were four mature trees in front of the property. So glad the developers worked around them and left them be. It sounds insane that the trees adjoining your property were felled and I’m sorry this has happened, but as others have said, you could plant some your side of the boundary. Bare root trees are fairly inexpensive and can be planted in the Spring.

Eenameenadeeka · 09/01/2026 19:11

Oh dear, id feel sad too. I agree with the others though, get out there and plant a garden. We decided to plant lots of fruit trees, it's only been a few years and they have grown a lot and our children have lots to eat in the garden. We also grow lots of flowers, just because they make us happy.

venus7 · 09/01/2026 19:10

Who is stating you're unreasonable? They're trees! We wouldn't be here without them, nor would any living creature.
It doesn't really help, but if you can afford it, join both The Woodland Trust.......they do wonderful work....and Population Matters.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 09/01/2026 19:10

So sorry to hear this OP, it's heartbreaking. The lesson to be learnt here for others is to apply for Tree Preservation Orders to be placed on any trees you value.
Get yourself to a local tree specialist and ask for their advice as to what to plant in your own garden

eatreadsleeprepeat · 09/01/2026 19:09

NoMoreTrees · 09/01/2026 17:46

Before it got dark I could see a few birds sitting forlornly in the one tree left at the end of our garden… poor things are probably wondering where their homes have gone 😢 I’m tempted to send DH to the garden centre first thing tomorrow, but neither of us really has a clue when it comes to gardening

That is such a sad thing to happen and I understand why you are upset. Rather than just heading to the nearest garden centre find one which specialises in trees and has people that know what they are doing. Go for native and deciduous as then you get the joy of watching the tree through different seasons. Silver birch, rowan and apple trees are good. Maybe think of getting a gardener (one that really believes in plants not just hard landscaping) to plant them for you. They really are an investment so worth doing properly.

Oldandcobwebby · 09/01/2026 19:08

The absolute bastards.

mydogisanidiott · 09/01/2026 19:06

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Alexandra2001 · 09/01/2026 19:06

Very sad about the trees, seems odd, has permission been granted or have the trees been felled for other reasons?

But i think you ve a bigger issue and thats your MH and why you re so unhappy there.

Have you considered any form of counselling etc the next few months will happen, you can live as you have been or at least attempt to try and improve matters.

TerrysNeapolitan · 09/01/2026 19:05

Heartbreaking. Same is happening where I live, so called Green Belt in three places here are set for development. There is a pond and habitat round the corner earmarked for 6 houses. We have the fastest disappearing rate of plants, birds and animals in Europe.

Itwasallyellow2 · 09/01/2026 19:03

Some really lovely responses on here which have restored my faith in human nature this evening.

I would be the same OP. There are several very tall trees behind where we live and it will only be a matter of time before the space is wanted for yet another housing estate despite the fact that we have several new housing estates locally (which no-one can afford to live on because the starting price for even a 2 bedroom property is out of reach for most).

I would be gutted but other posters have given some good advice as to how you can bring wildlife into your garden. Not the same as your trees, I know, but flowers and birds can really lift our spirits.

I’m so sorry to read this.

whoputallofthatthere · 09/01/2026 19:02

I'm so sorry you're so unhappy there, OP. No advice but I know how you feel about the trees - I cannot stand how quickly and easily we just destroy trees and natural habitats, like they don't even matter. It's 'just a tree', it's in our way so let's cut it down. Then people complain that wildlife encroaches on human spaces, well where do we expect them to go?
Perhaps you can plant something really lovely in your garden, I know it won't replace the trees but it might make you feel a bit better about the outside space.

MusicCuresAll · 09/01/2026 19:01

So sad, I'd be in tears too. How about turning your garden into a wildlife haven? Lots of trees, shrubs, wildflowers, bird feeders, etc? It could be a really lovely project for you to learn about and focus on, which might also help with your general sadness at the moment. I hope you can find some happiness moving forward x

TenderChicken · 09/01/2026 18:59

I have worked for farms that have had to cut down trees, and neighbours do get very upset, you aren't alone in mourning treesby any means x

I will say, as someone currently training to be a gardener, your garden is very bare, and maybe some variety would lift your spirits a bit?

waterrat · 09/01/2026 18:58

god i'd be devastated. Sorry OP

humans are disgusting.