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To have spent most of the day in tears over trees

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NoMoreTrees · 09/01/2026 16:56

We moved into this house just shy of a year ago and I regretted it almost instantly. I absolutely hate it here, it has pretty much ruined my life and for the last few months my mental health has been in tatters and I’ve had some very, very dark days.

One thing I did like about the house though was that at the end of the garden, on the other side of the fence were some beautiful tall trees. Dozens of trees with hundreds of birds that you can hear singing all year round, an owl, squirrels and other wildlife. The trees ran the entire length of our row of houses and a bit further.

On the other side of the trees is a small field, and while we were having surveys etc done they brought up a planning application for a small development of 9 houses in that field, which had been rejected by the water company.

Well I’m sure you know where this is going… obviously the water company were offered more money changed their minds because before the sun was even up this morning a bunch of men in hi viz and hard hats rocked up with a chainsaw, a bulldozer and a woodchipper and one by one started tearing all the trees down. By the time they had downed tools and fucked off there was only one tree left standing at the end of our garden and one or two surviving further down… for now at least.

I just can’t stop crying. I can’t even bring myself to look out of the windows at the back of the house. All those beautiful trees, all those birds, all that wildlife, gone. It was one of the very, very few things that made living here tolerable, and now instead of trees and birdsong, there is going to be a building site. Just when I thought I couldn’t fucking hate it here more.

To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
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BerryTwister · 09/01/2026 19:57

I’m a useless gardener but every year I buy a little Christmas tree in a pot, and after Christmas I plant it in the garden. I’ve got loads now. As long as you water them in the summer they grow really well - tall and fast. That would be a good start. Also can you put a trellis on the back fence and buy some climbers?

esperanza5 · 09/01/2026 19:56

So sorry to read this OP. For now, you could put out some bird food - at least it may help them a bit in these coldest months. I feed the birds, hedgehogs and foxes every night.

Maybe buy some cherry blossom trees for spring? There are different types, but we have slim tall ones (that grow upwards rather than outwards) and the blossom in Spring is stunning. This might cheer you up a bit. Sorry you're feeling so low.

You can't change what has been done sadly, but you can make your own garden wildlife-friendly and beautiful.

These developers are wankers though.

Whosthetabbynow · 09/01/2026 19:56

That’s a fucking monstrosity. I’d be having a breakdown x

Florencesndzebedee · 09/01/2026 19:56

Sorry to hear you feel so down. You can’t change the fact that you’ve moved so you need to think about how you can make it better. I would definitely start by planting some trees at the bottom of your garden. Some grow remarkably quickly and you’ll become invested in the garden. It could be beautiful.

FizzingAda · 09/01/2026 19:55

Have a look at the Woodland trust shop - they have bundles of native tree saplings at very reasonable cost - now is the right time time to plant.
I'm sorry about the trees - on the piece of land next to us every single tree has been cut down - not sorry about the huge leylandii, but the lovely deciduous trees are gone too. Plus a copse just along the land has been removed for housing - it's an old quarry so basically the land is just stones - no-one is interested in building a house there. And all the tawny owls, the bats, a lot of the birds, are gone 😢.

Catlover465 · 09/01/2026 19:55

Really sorry OP. Don’t get mad; organise. I would get planting (this happened to us and O made myself feel better by planting numerous hazel and hawthorn trees in our garden that are really good for wildlife).

Daleksatemyshed · 09/01/2026 19:51

So it's a charming, classic village but now they're spoiling it with God knows how many new expensive houses and no regard for the countryside. Of course he's delighted, think of the profits

Femalemachinest · 09/01/2026 19:51

What about looking at something like this. They send you the design and the plants and you plant them. It says in description that's theres some good plants for bird. Unfortunately won't help with the owl

www.gardenonaroll.com/products/wildlife-border

ElizabethsTailor · 09/01/2026 19:49

NoMoreTrees · 09/01/2026 19:46

We can only do so much with the garden on account of the three small DC… I’ve planted a couple of roses and kept the pre-existing dahlia, roses and honeysuckle (or it might be some kind of jasmine, I’m not sure) alive despite the bindweed’s best efforts…

I didn’t know how miserable I would be here until we were already here, it’s a big change from where we used to live and a few circumstances beyond our control have changed and only made it harder. One of the few pleasures was seeing and hearing all the birds, watching the squirrels, hearing the owl at night.

The housing developer is delighted though… in their own words “We’ve got a big year shaping up already. Work is expected to begin onsite, bringing a brand new collection of homes to one of the county’s most charming villages. It’s always special watching a project come to life from the very first dig, and this one is set to be a highlight”

Can’t say it was very special watching the destruction this morning. And a PP was dead right, starter homes they are not… they’ve done another smaller development on the other side of the village and the cheapest house was £750k.

On the bright side, you might find that in the mid to long term they plant out the boundary with more appropriate trees. It could be really lovely in a couple of years!

venus7 · 09/01/2026 19:47

OhDear111 · 09/01/2026 18:58

There are no birds nests now. Plus if you have only been there a year there was definitely pp in the offing for this site. Theres No Way this has got pp in a year and it wasn’t in the local plan! What’s a water company got to do with it? They probably got the pp. Take it as an opportunity to plant your own trees. You do have space but there’s not a chance this development wasn’t known about and you could have tried to have got TPOs for the trees.

Also they have leaves on, so when was before photo taken?

Conifers are not deciduous, hence leaves.

NoMoreTrees · 09/01/2026 19:46

We can only do so much with the garden on account of the three small DC… I’ve planted a couple of roses and kept the pre-existing dahlia, roses and honeysuckle (or it might be some kind of jasmine, I’m not sure) alive despite the bindweed’s best efforts…

I didn’t know how miserable I would be here until we were already here, it’s a big change from where we used to live and a few circumstances beyond our control have changed and only made it harder. One of the few pleasures was seeing and hearing all the birds, watching the squirrels, hearing the owl at night.

The housing developer is delighted though… in their own words “We’ve got a big year shaping up already. Work is expected to begin onsite, bringing a brand new collection of homes to one of the county’s most charming villages. It’s always special watching a project come to life from the very first dig, and this one is set to be a highlight”

Can’t say it was very special watching the destruction this morning. And a PP was dead right, starter homes they are not… they’ve done another smaller development on the other side of the village and the cheapest house was £750k.

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connie26 · 09/01/2026 19:46

Oh, I'm sorry. I would be so upset too. Was there not a TPO on them do you know? Not that it matters now and they just do want they want anyway. It's all about money.

Elboob · 09/01/2026 19:45

Im so sorry. I would be devastated too.
I had similar at rhe end of our garden with the railway embankment being stripped. I was sad for months.

RJ2023 · 09/01/2026 19:43

I've had the same happen in the past and I know exactly how you feel.

I live on a housing estate in Ipswich with a public footpath adjacent to my back garden that used to be lined with trees. So many birds, squirrels etc. lived in them. I loved it.

I woke up one morning to see the council randomly removing all of them. No warning, no opportunity to push back, nothing.

It wasn't just removing them that upset me - it was the violence that the council staff did it, with their massive wood chipper, and the brutal mess they left of what remains of the trees in the ground.

I hope one day those council staff experience the same thing as the birds and the squirrels when they return home to a house that has been demolished.

TheUsualChaos · 09/01/2026 19:43

I'd be devastated. What they've done is awful and I'd be in tears too. As well as furious.

But agree with PP, get planting! We planted a native hedge from whips about 4 years ago and some of them are now about 4m high and the birds absolutely love it.

canuckup · 09/01/2026 19:42

Yanbu

It happened near my parents too, not within immediate sight of their house thankfully, but just five minutes away.

You used to have a panoramic view of an important landmark.... Now it's just detached brick monstrosities.

venus7 · 09/01/2026 19:42

BrokenSunflowers · 09/01/2026 18:38

Pop to the garden centre and buy some leylandii and within five years you will have a good barrier again (and in 15 years you will be paying someone to cut them down)

Not Leylandii; they are sterile. It seems a barrier is not the main issue.....op talks about wildlife. Tears are for loss of habitat.

Uhghg · 09/01/2026 19:41

YANBU go feel upset over it.
I would be so upset too!

What are the other reasons you hate it there?

There must be some positives about the home or area?

LemaxObsessive · 09/01/2026 19:41

tarheelbaby · 09/01/2026 17:18

Hugs to you. That sounds awful. If you can, plant some trees on your side of the fence so that the lovely birds will have a new home.

Don't feel bad for grieving - unexpected things can hit really hard. Our village shop changed hands. The new people are very rude brusque and not seeing the usual shopkeepers has been strangely tough.

Going through something similar except with DD’s primary headteacher. The last one was like a mum to every pupil and their parents, she was wonderful, warm & caring. Well, she retired and now we have the very antithesis of her who refuses to acknowledge an autism diagnosis without an EHCP and has a total, cold, uncaring attitude. Just awful. We’re all grieving for what was.

BeagleHound1 · 09/01/2026 19:40

There is a small wooded area between my village and the one next door. 100s of mature tall evergreen trees . I walked my dogs though it at least once a day for the last 10 years then 3 years ago the council pulled out 50% of the trees. It was devastating . It was such a lovely walk and the trees that are left are pitiful by comparison to what was there. I complained and got a pathetic response - evergreens are a crop plants out in to make out props for the mines and to promote biodiversity (deciduous wooodland top trumps none native trees). The machinery they used literally pulled them out a tree every few minutes. There was nothing we could do but watch. For months there was silt on the main road and the drains flooded as a result. Many arseholes fly tipped and dumped rubbish in the massive gaps that were left. There was a footpath that went through that is impassable . The machinery left massive holes in the ground due to its size and the hollows left where the tree roots were literally plucked out. They did this in winter so these were filled with water then in summer they baked dry. I am upset just thinking about it now. I loved those trees and nothing was improved. I am sure as well as the cost of felling the trees it must have cost 1000s to sort out the drains. What sure of idiots allow this ?

OhDear111 · 09/01/2026 19:39

Sycamores are not garden trees. They are field trees and thugs. Only an idiot would plant leylandii! Plant deciduous English trees. These trees could have been unsafe of course but no tpo and they can be cut down.

KeepPumping · 09/01/2026 19:37

5MinuteArgument · 09/01/2026 17:07

This is happening everywhere as more and more developments are built to cater for our expanding population. We're already one of the most nature depleted countries in the world. It's very sad.

Can"t see the population expanding much more TBH, the political winds have changed big time, the expansion is from immigration not births, sales of new-build houses are down 60% already. I had a recent experience of a patch of natural land and trees being cut back and it feels like a loss, I think in this case though it will be allowed to grow back, there is no development planned, so sorry OP that you feel bad about this, just move if you can and the area is making you sad.

venus7 · 09/01/2026 19:35

PollyPlumPeach · 09/01/2026 18:29

They are just trees. More will grow. Birds will find other trees to nest in. It will be ok

Just trees? Really? Do you know how much wildlife lives in trees? Just trees.........I despair.

ElizabethsTailor · 09/01/2026 19:25

ChocolateCinderToffee · 09/01/2026 19:22

Can you get preservation orders on the remaining trees?

Given that they have felled the (low bio-diversity value) fast growing conifers, and retained the (presumably native, high bio-diversity value) deciduous trees, I suspect that’s not needed.