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To have spent most of the day in tears over trees

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NoMoreTrees · 09/01/2026 16:56

We moved into this house just shy of a year ago and I regretted it almost instantly. I absolutely hate it here, it has pretty much ruined my life and for the last few months my mental health has been in tatters and I’ve had some very, very dark days.

One thing I did like about the house though was that at the end of the garden, on the other side of the fence were some beautiful tall trees. Dozens of trees with hundreds of birds that you can hear singing all year round, an owl, squirrels and other wildlife. The trees ran the entire length of our row of houses and a bit further.

On the other side of the trees is a small field, and while we were having surveys etc done they brought up a planning application for a small development of 9 houses in that field, which had been rejected by the water company.

Well I’m sure you know where this is going… obviously the water company were offered more money changed their minds because before the sun was even up this morning a bunch of men in hi viz and hard hats rocked up with a chainsaw, a bulldozer and a woodchipper and one by one started tearing all the trees down. By the time they had downed tools and fucked off there was only one tree left standing at the end of our garden and one or two surviving further down… for now at least.

I just can’t stop crying. I can’t even bring myself to look out of the windows at the back of the house. All those beautiful trees, all those birds, all that wildlife, gone. It was one of the very, very few things that made living here tolerable, and now instead of trees and birdsong, there is going to be a building site. Just when I thought I couldn’t fucking hate it here more.

To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
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OhDear111 · 09/01/2026 18:58

There are no birds nests now. Plus if you have only been there a year there was definitely pp in the offing for this site. Theres No Way this has got pp in a year and it wasn’t in the local plan! What’s a water company got to do with it? They probably got the pp. Take it as an opportunity to plant your own trees. You do have space but there’s not a chance this development wasn’t known about and you could have tried to have got TPOs for the trees.

Also they have leaves on, so when was before photo taken?

ElizabethsTailor · 09/01/2026 18:54

That must feel very hard OP, but might be an ultimate long term benefit. Even as someone who loves trees, not all trees are good trees.

The conifers they have removed were essentially fast growing weeds that were choking out native trees over time.

They have retained the deciduous trees - difficult to tell from the photos what they are, but there will be a reason they have retained them and it implies they were not just completely clearing the site.

With the conifers gone there is now MUCH more chance of you being able to plant your own native trees that will now thrive, very quickly.

Depending on your budget you could go to your local garden centre or, as others have suggested (and would be my recommendation) Woodland trust have free or cheep packs of saplings. If you get them in the ground in the next 2-3 months they will quickly establish and you’ll be amazed how much they come in in the next year.

Sugargliderwombat · 09/01/2026 18:51

I would be devastated.

Do you have the capacity to take on gardening? If you loved the trees and the wildlife you cna bring it into your own garden again.

I don't feel like I know enough but adding big fast growing trees, a pond, some bird feeders could help? But I would feel absolute grief going out there too so I understand if you don't feel up to taking that on.

AncientMarina · 09/01/2026 18:49

@ThePure You have such a pretty garden.

OP, not replacement trees, but here's what I grew with one 99p packet of wildflower seeds from the supermarket. I just dug up a bit of lawn, dug the soil over, scattered these seeds in spring and by summer I had this. You can turn this around love.

To have spent most of the day in tears over trees
Livingthebestlife · 09/01/2026 18:48

That's absolutely shocking. I'm not in the UK but in Ireland where laws are similar and it's illegal to fell a tree with nests and active wildlife. Trees can't even be trimmed between march and September. The poor birds will have just built their little homes and now they're gone. Is there a wildlife place that you can contact or the council to see why they removed trees with active wildlife. It's recommended not compulsory to plant another tree if you remove one and I think I'd be contacting them about replacing some of those trees, I'd actually ask for a 15+ year tree to be put into your garden.

Pricelessadvice · 09/01/2026 18:43

This is one of the saddest things I’ve read on MN. I would be devastated too OP.
Humans were the worst thing to ever happen to this planet. Their greed is just abhorrent.

All that poor wildlife.

happydappy2 · 09/01/2026 18:41

Now is a great time to hang out lots of bird feeders, the birds will flock to them and you can enjoy seeing them instantly, you don’t need a tree just hang off a washing line or anything! Silver birches look fantastic-create your own amazingly diverse garden-bee friendly, definitely have a pond if you can as that will massively increase diversity of wildlife in yr garden. Catmint is a great plant that has a long flower season. Have a look at Nic Howard garden design for some creative inspiration. Enjoy making your own garden look fantastic!

Plankton89 · 09/01/2026 18:40

That’s so awful Op. I’d be so so so sad about this. Can you not move ?

BrokenSunflowers · 09/01/2026 18:38

Pop to the garden centre and buy some leylandii and within five years you will have a good barrier again (and in 15 years you will be paying someone to cut them down)

PandoraSocks · 09/01/2026 18:36

That is so sad OP. I would be in tears too.

Billyboon · 09/01/2026 18:35

I'm also so so sorry OP. I'd definitely be in tears too, you are absolutely not being unreasonable 💐

AGlessandahalf · 09/01/2026 18:34

Why don’t you check on the planning if the builders have to plant additional trees to make up for the ones they have cut down.

We love seeing birds in the garden - do you have a feeder as a start for you before you decide to plant your own trees.
check out the gardening board on here as you will get lots of advice on the right plant/bush for the size of your garden.

Birds Won’t be nesting at this time of year so it isn’t their home as such so please try not to feel as sad.

tinyspiny · 09/01/2026 18:33

Did they not require planning permission to chop them down ? Even with large conifers you need permission .

TonTonMacoute · 09/01/2026 18:33

This is a link to the gardener I mentioned earlier. Judging by the toys you have DCs, so this approach wouldn't work for you but it does show what could be done.

Once you start putting plants and features in your space, add a bit of height a wooden arch to grow honeysuckle and roses over, look out for easy to sow seeds in the supermarket to attract bees and insects put some bird feeders, even a little pond in an old tub, and you will get wildlife back in your garden.

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Silverbirchleaf · 09/01/2026 18:31

I’d be in tears as well. I have woods at the end of my garden, and know planners have their eyes on it.

ThePure · 09/01/2026 18:30

Definitely get your own trees.

I was devastated when my neighbour built a huge two storey ‘garage’ with home office in his garden taking up half the space and overlooking all of my little terraced house garden. He was a local councillor which I am sure had nothing to do with him getting planning permission. All we managed to change was that at least he had to take out the window (a garage with a window huh?) that was staring right into my kitchen diner.

I went to the garden centre, showed them pics and asked for suggestions and now I have a lovely row of pleached trees that block his monstrosity from view and make my tiny enclosed mid terrace garden feel much nicer like a secret garden.

The pic is when they were first planted (can’t find a more recent one) so doesn’t look like much but over time they have grown and joined up and are now quite an effective barrier with flowers and berries in season.

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PollyPlumPeach · 09/01/2026 18:29

They are just trees. More will grow. Birds will find other trees to nest in. It will be ok

Emeraldforest · 09/01/2026 18:26

I'm so sorry, and feel your sadness! I was livid and so upset when half a dozen beautiful old horse chestnut trees were cut down at the back of the car park where I work, supposedly to make space for more cars. It's made next to no difference to the parking space and just .ade a lot of people very upset.

Tryonemoretime · 09/01/2026 18:25

NoMoreTrees · 09/01/2026 17:46

Before it got dark I could see a few birds sitting forlornly in the one tree left at the end of our garden… poor things are probably wondering where their homes have gone 😢 I’m tempted to send DH to the garden centre first thing tomorrow, but neither of us really has a clue when it comes to gardening

When we moved to our current house, we needed to screen an ugly view. I did some research about Eucalyptus trees. Some varieties are slow growing and some romp away. We planted 3and theyare now massive. The Internet is your friend. Google 'fast growing trees'. But check their eventual size...

Wsiw71 · 09/01/2026 18:24

So sorry you have found out the hard way you can only control what is actually in your garden. But:

Go to a plant/tree nursery. Local ones can give you really good advice about what will be good in your garden. Garden centres are really expensive and will just sell you anything you fancy without regard to the conditions in your garden and what birds in your area prefer. Mixed hedging would also encourage wildlife.

Anyahyacinth · 09/01/2026 18:22

TonTonMacoute · 09/01/2026 18:16

That is absolute vandalism OP, I cannot see any reason why the developers needed to cut down those trees, it's not like they are blocking access to the site. It might be worth contacting your local councillor to check that they did have permission to remove them. If not they could be made to make amends.

I always give a hollow laugh when people complain that environmental rules are holding up new building. Developers are perfectly happy to steamroller any nature habitats when it suits them.

Now is a good time to plant hedging, so get yourself over to the Gardening forum on here for some advice. There is lots of good stuff YouTube too, and gardening and being outside is very good for your mental health too. There is a guy on YouTube who started with a garden like yours and bought a cheap rose at the supermarket, he now has a beautiful zen paradise which he has built up over time.

They strip sites so they have no ‘value’ to preserve, no protected wildlife to advocate for …it’s to put the defeat int9 those who want to fight for their area..those trees would have shielded existing residents from noise etc..whilst the land was developed and added something to the new builds ..it’s a horrible shame. Here we had protected trees they put their cabins across their roots to kill them..noted by council officers but no action taken in a TPO area …it’s really grim

Applepe · 09/01/2026 18:21

I hate this. It makes me so sad and despairing. All that wildlife.

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Anyahyacinth · 09/01/2026 18:18

Before the hard hearts arrive…I’ve cried over felled trees here too.

It’s an utter farce our council launching a blue and green strategy (rivers and trees SO important, yeah right) and every scrap of land with a copse of trees being stripped for development in a flood area! You couldn’t make it up. If you own …plant trees now they will surprise you and create the screen you loved

ParmaVioletTea · 09/01/2026 18:17

The thing you really need to sort is living somewhere you hate so viscerally. If you’re buying, no one forces you to buy somewhere you hate.

So move. Or take action: plant your own trees. Make a garden for the birds.

But please, stop moaning your life away. We only get one go at it, and YABU to be so passive and negative.

I’m sure you can make a beautiful garden! And the birds will come back and you’ll increase the value of your house.