Brother shouted at me to control my child

😂 I missed the bit about "suitable" dinner...

You're feeding chips and ketchup to a 1.5 year old??? And calling it 'bringing a suitable dinner'?? YABVVVVU, obviously.

I'm not sure how to vote... You fed your child on his carpet? With ketchup?
What's wrong eating at a table and chair?

I can't understand why you would tell your child that touching something is "naughty". It's fragile, it can break, the owner doesn't want to... Plenty of valid reason not to touch it.

Your brother is being dramatic about the ornament, and as you said he'll learn soon enough.

Only 14 months till he's cringing himself inside out. Sooner, really.

He sounds a bit snappy but there is no way I would let my 18 month old eat chips and ketchup out of a high chair in someone else’s house. I wouldn’t let my ten year old do it either. I think it’s weird taking lunch to someone else’s house. Go before or after.

Your DB is an arse.

but also possibly sleep deprived.

YANBU

We one time went to a birthday party for a 1 year old at their family member's house. Old school money. Think a bucket of swords by the front door kind of place. Our whole family was requested to attend. We got there and our 2 year old was running around looking at things, picking them up, and generally being inquisitive. The baby's dad asked us to control our child (which we dutifully did), but at the time I remember thinking:

1. I will never go back here with children
2. You will understand in c.6-12 months when your child is mobile. Which they did and the mum joked extensively about it after that time passed.

He will get it with time. In 3-6 months their house will suddenly be babyproofed and everything will be out of reach. You'll know then.

Tbh I wouldn't be giving tomato sauce to a 18 month in someone else's house. However your brother has a baby and not experienced toddler eating yet so this will be him in a years time.

Ugh you’re brother will learn the hard way lol. Has he never been around toddlers? It was unreasonable of him to shout at you, and you were not unreasonable to be offended and leave.

My first guess was a happy meal

So did brother give you the ketchup? In which case he knew what to expect or did you bring your own bottle in your handbag?

If your account is accurate then your brother was being unreasonable.

It sounds like you were quick to take the ornament off your son and not say something weak and "gentle".

It was unwise to give him a messy meal in a carpeted room though. We used to take a foldable "splash mat" everywhere to contain inevitable spillages. Not only saves the carpet but makes it easy to funnel the detritus into a bin afterwards.

Your brother will get it more once his daughter is mobile and into everything. I bet the ornaments will be on the top shelf only! To be a little bit understanding, when you have your first tiny baby, toddlers seem like unwieldy giants in comparison. Then you're baby becomes a toddler and you realise how silly you were.

Your brother needs to learn, quite quickly, what toddlers are like and relax a bit and also baby proof the house by policing his ornaments. But you also handled it badly.
When you’re visiting, why don’t you have a chair harness so you can strap your kid into a normal dining chair to eat? I always had those. And when visiting, why would you take chips and ketchup? And 18 months old really shouldn’t be eating that anyway, but you take finger sandwiches and stuff. Not greasy, messy fast food.

Order something like this and pack cleaning pack lunches.

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Your brother's a dick .
Enjoy the next 2 years watching him controlling his toddler and remember to pick him up about his parenting at every opportunity.

Why was your child not eating in the kitchen? Letting them eat ketchup on a carpet floor is the issue here.

You can supervise but accidents happen with toddlers. He has a younger baby so would be toddler proofing soon enough. It’s more relaxing for any adults to be in a safe environment…

No, you don’t have to move things before a toddler visits. The parents should supervise.

It sounds your brothers house needs toddler proofing. I’d ask him to remove any breakable or dangerous items out of reach before your visit. He will need to do it soon enough for his DD anyway. I would take your Highchair next time if you travel by car. So I think you are both unreasonable but you brother more so as he should have moved breakables items before hosting a toddler.

You both sound overly dramatic and hard work.

Deeply offended, quite embarrassed and left and Control your child. You are both as bad as each other (except OP you are possibly more hyperbolic)

But I have to say, you started it. You should have brought a seat, or those tie things for chairs for toddlers. You shouldn't have allowed your kid have food on a carpet. He reacted badly to a situation (rightly or wrongly) created by your child who you allowing to make a mess and get into things.

Why were you allowing your child to get up and around with a chip that had been dipped in ketchup? Wasn't your son sat on your lap, whilst he was eating? Ketchup wasn't the greatest idea for a toddler to have, in someone else's house.

Did your son get up to get the ornament after he'd finished eating or during? You needed to be behind him, as soon as he got up with eyes on him. Moving him out of the way before he started touching things. Of course tell him No, and he mustn't touch, as well. It's something that needs to be repeated many many times, along with moving him away, before he understands that he's not to touch.

Parenting a toddler is hard work. It's repeating yourself constantly. Moving a child away from things constantly too.

Your brother will learn soon enough that toddlers are hard work, willful and don't always want to cooperate!

Yabu to give a 18 month old chips & ketchup on someone elses carpet when you knew there was no highchair.

Your brothers in for a really big shock as his kid gets older

You were doing your best and your brother is an idiot

Your brother was rude but I’m afraid your parenting does sound a bit lax. Common sense surely not to feed an 18 month old chips and ketchup over someone else’s carpet?

Also you’re right, 18 month olds lack impulse control which is why you need to remove any tempting objects they shouldn’t have instead of assuming they’ll abide by you saying “no”. You should have just moved the ornament out of reach.

18 month year olds are what they are, but you need to restrict his touching.,

I'm too horrified at an 18 MO eating chips with ketchup to bother with the rest!