To think British men are almost always nothing like those portrayed in movies and tv series?

Sorry mines taken 😁😁

@Liissey0710 Where do you live, with
all these Jason Statham alike men? Asking for a friend! 😁😂

This is deeply simplistic. Women don't spontaneously 'take pride in their appearance'. Having long been prevented from the same access to workplaces and the possibility of economic independence men have traditionally had, women's appearance has had to be what they trade on, their access to money via marriage. Men have traditionally been able to take little interest in their appearance because they haven't had to. They were a meal ticket via marriage to women who had few other options until recently. Now that things are somewhat more even, and women are outperforming men in education, you have incels complaining they can't bag a woman.

Ha, I often thought this as a young woman. Why were all the TV and film Brits in sharp suits with clipped accents while all the lads in town wore football kits or black loafers with white socks (which dates me)?

Oh dear, 😂 This is actually funny. You seriously thought real life men were like movie men @Sweetsfromheaven ???!

NO man is the same as the men you see portrayed in the movies.. Many men are absolute dickheads at some point in their life. Many are guilty of being lazy when it comes to pulling their weight around the house (and with childcare/domestic duties,) flirty with other women (and more sometimes) and spending family money on his hobbies.... EVEN THE MEN IN THE COUNTRY YOU ORIGINATED FROM! Yes, really! 😆

Not saying ALL men, but yes, some men are lazy, and obnoxious, and check out of family life as often as they can once kids come along because they don't like hard work. Again, many men from your country of origin will be the same!

Not saying women are perfect, before the 'I don't know any men like that' NAMALT brigade appear, but this thread is not about women is it, it's about men!

Oh and colour me shocked, the OP posted this contentious thread about two and a half hours ago, and hasn't returned.

Nothing to see here.

@Dollymylove · Today 08:54

Oh look another British bashing post. Insert any other ethnicity and the racism drum would start beating. Try somewhere like Afghanistan or Qatar for instance. You'll be treated like a queen

This. ^

@Dollymylove · Today 08:54

Oh look another British bashing post. Insert any other ethnicity and the racism drum would start beating. Try somewhere like Afghanistan or Qatar for instance. You'll be treated like a queen

This. ^

Because everyone else is posting about English men.

OP I’m guessing you were hoping for a:

Hugh Grant,Tom Hiddleston, Benedict Cumerbatch, Eddie Redmayne, Daniel Craig mashup… Foreign women often are.

I went to France looking for Jean-Marc Barr but I didn’t find him either. 😄

I'll out myself as a bloke and say I do suddenly see what the OP means. It may be to do with the ongoing cost of living, or the sense that everything good in the UK now has to be paid for. I don't get the sense that blokes take pride in their appearance unless they are in a position to afford gym membership and nice threads, in which case it becomes more a statement of earning capacity than anything else. I think women avoid this trap because they take pride in their appearance, the culture leans that way irrespective of a women's individual earning capacity, we can argue whether it should be like that of course.

Living in the suburbs, I am also not sure where I would go to buy some nice clothes, I mean M&S is just rubbish, almost deliberately churning out crap, alternatives are Tui (I think) at Sainbury's, Next (which is okay) and clothing at ASDA. I know the OP wasn't talking about clothing but I feel it sets the tone. I mean, the run-of-the-mill off the peg clothing is rubbish. To go elsewhere means you are making how you look your hobby, which is fine, but then you're a dandy.

It's as though there's a subtle culture war, well not culture war but culture stand-off among men.

Or to put it another way first post is cringe knee jerk insecure defensive

Brit Bash Bots getting triggered by 60+ million people out of billions. It's some kind of fetish.....

There's lots of nationalities living in the UK. If you've had no luck finding a British man why not marry a superior different nationality? What nationality are you?

Where do you live? What men are you meeting? I married a very nice British man who is lovely. But you wouldn’t find him in the pub or in a club or possibly not even on online dating… sign up to do a masters, join a charity trustee board or volunteer at the homeless work your parish church does for example.

None of the men I know are like that! Where on Earth do you live?

Why?

If you keep looking in the same places, then it's no surprise you keep getting the same "kind" of man. Wasn't it Einstein who said insanity was doing the same thing and expecting different outcomes?

In general terms, the same "kind" of man is on OLD, the same "kind" is in the pubs and clubs trying to pick up women.

Very few "good" men will be out on the pull, either in real life or on OLD - they're already spoken for, so will almost certainly be excluded from the kind of places where the OP is looking for a man, which will be populated mostly by men who aren't taken - often for good reason!

Probably James Bond

And Brassic

What exactly is it about "British men" that you do not like and where are you from?

*Rowan.

Have you been watching the Harlem Coben series

It's really annoying when you move somewhere and expect it to be like the films and all you get when you arrive is reality.

I went to where they filmed Downton Abbey. Firstly, nobody carried my case in and offered me cocktails but FML, the real downer was that it was modern day.

That's the last time I plan my future around fiction.

I assume the OP is talking about English men. “British men” also includes Welsh, Scottish and Northern Irish men.

No idea what you mean. Every British man I know had floppy hair, a crooked grin and is poshly and endearingly inept by day. By night he sits in disused warehouses ordering the execution of rivals to his criminal empire, and emoting about how much he loves his brother in a strong regional accent.