Need handhold and urgent advice

All the best OP, I do hope we hear from you again, IV antibiotics can work miracles sometimes, but I know when your body is already weak there is only so much they can do. I hope your husband gets the support he needs if the worst happens. I'll keep you in my thoughts tonight. If you need anyone to hold any thoughts for you, I know there's sometimes a thread where people in different timezones do that. I'll try and find it.

Editing to add the thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4363059-Bring-us-your-worries-big-or-small-The-nightshift-will-hold-them-so-you-can-sleep?page=8&reply=147592132

Not been posted on for a while but I have sometimes found it helpful.

Same here, really hope you are ok Op xxx

Been watching this thread all day and hoping that OP is having the treatment she needed and being well looked after. We're all rooting for you.

She doesn't need to share the personal details of her illnesses, we are not entitled to that knowledge, nor is it relevant to the post

Hope you being looked after
Hospital social worker can be contacted to liaise to put emergency package in place pending the longer term solution. Or hospice if space
Your dh can call mh crisis team for home visit and support

She says she has a life-limiting illness, and her DH is having a crisis from being her carer.

Goodness me, I couldn’t read and run. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Have you definitely asked your friend to come? I do think you might need to call 999. I hope things look up for you soon.

I understand he is her carer, she hasn't said what he needs to do for her and the OP has cellulitis - not sure what extra looking after she requires ??

Because he’s a grown man having a mental health crisis.

But also to look after OP when she got home from hospital, so that DH (unwell with mental health crisis) wouldn’t have to.

I am going to be honest, why would you call your mother, your friend who has to get a flight, to look after your husband who is a grown man?? By all means let his brother know, but come on..... he is an adult

Agreed. Thinking of you OP. Get well soon

Any update OP?

Just wanted to say that I am here, rooting for you and hoping that you've got the help that's needed. If a crowd of virtual well-wishers counts, then you aren't alone Xx

If you are hospitalised then you'll be in the best place to be cared for and to get well. Everyone else will have to survive. But hopefully it won't come to that. Contact your GP, send photos of the swelling.

Does DH have any family nearby?

I know he’s struggling but you have a lot going on and I’m wondering if someone else can help care for him to lessen your burden.

Stress weakens your immune system and you need to put yourself first right now.

I agree with others and hope you are getting hospital treatment now.

I know life limiting illness covers a wide range of things but I wonder if you might be able to get hospice support while/when at home, it tends to be more holistic and could be supportive of your dh too.

You have been in an awful situation op. I hope that you are now getting the medical help that you need. I hope that your dh is okay too.

Hope you are in hospital recieving appropriate treatment and care.

@FFSToEverythingSince2020 i’ve only just seen your thread. I really hope you’re getting the treatment you desperately need and that you’re being well looked after, also your DH.

What an awful situation you’ve been in, I really do hope you’re ok.

Cellulitis is serious and as PP say, needs to be seen to urgently if it is worsening.

I have had it in my thumb from a wasp that stung me after it came out of a large bin, and my DM made me get antibiotics for it - it was becoming red and swollen quickly. The GP told me any changes that made it look worse quickly might need IV antibiotics.

Huge hugs to you OP, please protect your own health and your DH's, and various things like cats are low priority. The cat can be looked after by someone else or brought in the car.

Your health is paramount and priority. ❤️❤️❤️

Thinking of you OP, hope you've made it to hospital, it's where you need to be

I hope you are in hospital too, cellulitis is nasty, esp on the face. Friend of mine was scratched by one of the cats she was rescuing, made her leg swell 3 times the normal size and it takes persistent and good treatment at the hospital to get on top of it. At the very least, they should be keeping an eye on you.
Go easy OP, so sorry this has happened on top of everything else, but this has to be up there in needing treatment asap. Wish you a speedy recovery.

Really hope you're in hospital now receiving the meds you need. Hopefully your BIL has come over to stay with your husband, the cat needs much less care than he does!

Ho @FFSToEverythingSince2020 I hoped you've called an ambulance. If you haven't please do it now and then call your BIL (that way round). He can come and take your DH if need be, and I'm sorry you're both so poorly, but you need medical attention.