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Thestormishere · 09/01/2026 06:43

Name change because of possibly very recognisable location.

Live just off one of the most expensive areas in London. Houses between £20 and £40mil.

Go for walks daily.

There’s always a car with someone inside, outside of a specific house. The house is not on the road with the very expensive ones, just off it, so not an ambassador/Middle Eastern royalty one, more like a £5/6mil one.

Lots of private security guards around with high viz jackets and marked cars patrolling by car or on foot.

‘They’, instead, have normal cars with always someone inside looking utterly bored, checking phones, listening to music. Never outside of the car, not even in summer. So cars and people inside change, but car with person inside there day and night, always in front of this house.

From the outside, you can see that inside the house there’s a tv showing cctv camera feeds. It feels like the tv was positioned so as to make it clear to outsiders that there are plenty of cameras in and around the house.

And a man often sitting by the window facing the road in an office/library room. Neither the man nor the room look fancy, but also not a guard.

What’s the deal?

(I know it sounds like the beginning of a badly-written short story, but it’s all real, I’ve been discussing this with my husband and I just can’t understand what’s going on but I pass in front of it every day so it’s hard to not think about it)

OP posts:
ThisIsAGlobalPlayerOriginalPodcast · 09/01/2026 20:24

They sound like the speedboat salesmen in Matilda

Butyourenotastrangermadaleine · 09/01/2026 20:23

Are you this wealthy op? (Soz just being nosey!)

herefortheclicks · 09/01/2026 20:22

Thestormishere · 09/01/2026 11:56

I know! Though no dog unfortunately. And it's starting to piss me off because I am second guessing myself and going out at different times of the day to make sure that they don't think I do it on purpose to pass in front always at the same time!

are you the mrs of your house or the nanny?

herefortheclicks · 09/01/2026 20:20

I am always amazed people pay that amount of money to live in Central London...

Butyourenotastrangermadaleine · 09/01/2026 20:16

This is weird!

HayceeDeeCee · 09/01/2026 20:09

BullshitometerCalibrator · 09/01/2026 19:52

But would the owners then not be alerted that the OP had searched their deeds information?

Anyway OP I'm guessing it's a writer not wanting distractions from the sterile environment.

Nope....you can access the title plan of just about any property in the UK if registered on the Land Registry and the owner or Freeholder will not be alerted.

BullshitometerCalibrator · 09/01/2026 19:52

HayceeDeeCee · 09/01/2026 19:19

Download the the Title plan from the Land Registry, will give details of the who owns Freehold... will cost you 7 quid but they are publicly available documents. My money is on Foreign Royal or Diplomat.

But would the owners then not be alerted that the OP had searched their deeds information?

Anyway OP I'm guessing it's a writer not wanting distractions from the sterile environment.

Thestormishere · 09/01/2026 19:43

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 09/01/2026 18:40

OP, I think you might be the reason they're there

This is hilarious

OP posts:
HayceeDeeCee · 09/01/2026 19:19

Download the the Title plan from the Land Registry, will give details of the who owns Freehold... will cost you 7 quid but they are publicly available documents. My money is on Foreign Royal or Diplomat.

VWT7 · 09/01/2026 19:13

Agapornis · 09/01/2026 12:46

Haha slight cross post, love how we're defined by the lack of (net) curtains.

Lack of net curtains - and don’t forget cacti on the windowsill 😃
(I’ve proudly adopted the same)

mindutopia · 09/01/2026 19:13

It will be private security. Where I used to live in Asia, it was very normal for wealthy people to have a guard in a little security hut at the street at the front of the property. Probably can’t get planning for such a building here! 😂 So they sit in an ordinary sort of car instead. The ones where I lived also spent a lot of time on their phones, chatting with each other, eating and drinking tea. They didn’t look like they’d be massively effective in an actual security situation!

Alternatively, it’s a minder of some sort, someone who is following whoever lives in the house for reasons that they very much want the person in the house to know. Think the daughters of Sheikh Mohammed - they lived freely in London, etc but under watch and were eventually kidnapped back to Dubai. I knew someone who worked in a diplomatic role in China and he had a minder who tailed him everywhere. Different guys, but always the same white car. It was the government keeping an eye on him because he worked in a politically sensitive area. I doubt it would be the UK government, not so conspicuously, but I wouldn’t doubt that other governments might keep an eye on certain people in ways that constantly remind them they are watched.

Agapornis · 09/01/2026 19:06

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 09/01/2026 18:39

I definitely don't define the Netherlands by it's lack of curtains. I love everything it as to offer
But I'll never forget floating serenely on a barge, looking up at the the beautiful architecture in Amsterdam and being able to see everyone just living their lives in their flats, for everyone to just SEE them! Including one guy in a state of undress. I saw bumcheek!
My Dutch friend was like "so? It's just a body, you have one too, don't you?" 😆

I've lived in the UK for nearly two decades, but yes I rarely close the curtains during the day 🙈 If someone catches an eyeful, they should have looked the other way! The neighbour's across always keep theirs closed, I wonder why...

MadinMarch · 09/01/2026 18:56

Salman Rushdie? Or a politician maybe as they all have security?

Happyjoe · 09/01/2026 18:55

Thestormishere · 09/01/2026 06:43

Name change because of possibly very recognisable location.

Live just off one of the most expensive areas in London. Houses between £20 and £40mil.

Go for walks daily.

There’s always a car with someone inside, outside of a specific house. The house is not on the road with the very expensive ones, just off it, so not an ambassador/Middle Eastern royalty one, more like a £5/6mil one.

Lots of private security guards around with high viz jackets and marked cars patrolling by car or on foot.

‘They’, instead, have normal cars with always someone inside looking utterly bored, checking phones, listening to music. Never outside of the car, not even in summer. So cars and people inside change, but car with person inside there day and night, always in front of this house.

From the outside, you can see that inside the house there’s a tv showing cctv camera feeds. It feels like the tv was positioned so as to make it clear to outsiders that there are plenty of cameras in and around the house.

And a man often sitting by the window facing the road in an office/library room. Neither the man nor the room look fancy, but also not a guard.

What’s the deal?

(I know it sounds like the beginning of a badly-written short story, but it’s all real, I’ve been discussing this with my husband and I just can’t understand what’s going on but I pass in front of it every day so it’s hard to not think about it)

Going from someone who worked in this industry, be either press or a private detective. Probably the former.

User7565364 · 09/01/2026 18:54

High ranking diplomat. Not that unusual at all and not necessarily connected to how dangerous a country is. Above a certain level, many homes have 24hr security, paid for by the embassy or international organisation. It rarely means the person or their family is actually at risk of being kidnapped but it's the norm that comes with the job. Security can be extremely discreet, in some cases children in the family are never actually aware that they are under protection. Some parents understandably, don't like the idea of letting their kids grow up like that when there is zero immediate risk. So it makes sense that agents would sit outside in a car instead of wandering around in the house.

Edit: Not all ambassadors or diplomats live in fancy areas. Some prefer low key homes or being close to their kids schools or place of work. Some just aren't picky so they find a random home and stick with it, and their security just has to follow.

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 09/01/2026 18:42

luckylavender · 09/01/2026 15:27

The oldest one is doing A levels this year.

So he's 18. He could have moved out

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 09/01/2026 18:40

HarbourClankCat · 09/01/2026 18:31

Just seen you have no dog!

There’s some guys that sit in cars every day that have a group WhatsApp that says:

She’s gone past again
Different time again
What is she doing?
I can’t work it out
She did the same yesterday. Just walked past looking purposeful

OP, I think you might be the reason they're there

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 09/01/2026 18:39

Agapornis · 09/01/2026 12:46

Haha slight cross post, love how we're defined by the lack of (net) curtains.

I definitely don't define the Netherlands by it's lack of curtains. I love everything it as to offer
But I'll never forget floating serenely on a barge, looking up at the the beautiful architecture in Amsterdam and being able to see everyone just living their lives in their flats, for everyone to just SEE them! Including one guy in a state of undress. I saw bumcheek!
My Dutch friend was like "so? It's just a body, you have one too, don't you?" 😆

Laurmolonlabe · 09/01/2026 18:39

Likely someone very rich thinks there is a kidnapping threat, usually they over estimate how dangerous London is.

HarbourClankCat · 09/01/2026 18:31

Just seen you have no dog!

There’s some guys that sit in cars every day that have a group WhatsApp that says:

She’s gone past again
Different time again
What is she doing?
I can’t work it out
She did the same yesterday. Just walked past looking purposeful

HarbourClankCat · 09/01/2026 18:26

Thestormishere · 09/01/2026 11:56

I know! Though no dog unfortunately. And it's starting to piss me off because I am second guessing myself and going out at different times of the day to make sure that they don't think I do it on purpose to pass in front always at the same time!

That makes you look suspicious. Normal dog walkers tend to walk the same route around the same times.

Are you sure you are not planning a heist?

tommyhoundmum · 09/01/2026 18:04

Say hello politely and ask.

igglu · 09/01/2026 16:35

Could be someone who is CEO of an oil or energy company, something along those lines where they could be targeted by protestors so need security.

socialdilemmawhattodo · 09/01/2026 15:44

TiredTrainLady · 09/01/2026 14:52

Become an Avon rep and knock on their door(or ding dong ring the bell)

Yeah they'd love that! It's an embassy from a country where women usually wear full face coverings.

luckylavender · 09/01/2026 15:27

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 09/01/2026 12:42

Ooh yes, could be one of the PM's kids. We don't know anything about them but they are teenage, aren't they? So one of them could have grown up and moved out?

The oldest one is doing A levels this year.

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