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To be frustrated that DD is struggling to find a job in her desired field while her friends on skilled worker visas aren’t

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Andiessock · 08/01/2026 21:58

My DD is in her mid 20s, she graduated with a masters in philosophy over 2 years ago now from a top university in London, she has a BA from a top university as well. Her two closest friends during her masters weren’t British.
DD struggled to find a job directly related to philosophy or even culture in general, she did manage to get a job in the civil service but she doesn’t enjoy it at all.
Her two friends both managed to get jobs in the field they desired originally on graduate visas, now both are sponsored on skilled worker visas.
One works at cultural institute associated with her home country in programme coordination so planning and running events that promote her countries culture etc. specifically in literature and philosophy.
The other works at a non-profit cultural institution in a similar role to her other friend but a little more research heavy less events centred.

First of all I’m not entirely sure how either of these roles fall under “skilled workers”, they must be making around 40k to even qualify and whilst I understand the first friend being preferred over a British national since it’s a cultural institution, I don’t understand why non-Brits are being given roles in an industry Brits are struggling to get a foot in the door at.

Im all for migrants for what it’s worth, this is not intended to be slanderous to migrants, especially in industries which need the talent from abroad; but I don’t see how that applies here and in this case it does feel like “foreigners are stealing British jobs” (not a sentiment I typically agree with or would use any other time). That’s not to mention that I’m not even sure how these roles qualify as skilled workers in the first place.

AIBU to find this incredibly frustrating?

OP posts:
BernardButlersBra · 09/01/2026 10:34

Oriunda · 09/01/2026 07:07

Too busy getting her mum to do her research for her on Mumsnet.

If I was an employer, with a choice between a European candidate who's bilingual (at the very least), who had the gumption to leave her home country to pursue a masters overseas, who lives independently away from her family, or a monolingual Brit who lives at home and complains about her lot whilst doing nothing to improve it, I'd know who I'd choose.

Err this

This thread is a cringey mash up of “them foreigners coming over here and taking our jobs”, with “my daughters relatively niche / impractical qualifications aren’t leading to job offers falling at her feet”.

TempestTost · 09/01/2026 10:32

ParmaVioletTea · 09/01/2026 06:58

What I don’t understand is her other friend is from a Scandinavian country, works at a British cultural/intellectual institution (think like the Royal Society of Arts or Institute of Arts and Ideas), what specialist knowledge would she have that would be useful to them over a Brit?

So why didn’t your DD apply for that job? What is she doing to develop the interests and skills that her friends have?

This and many other posts are totally missing the point.

Immigration for skilled labour should be limited to areas where there is not in fact enough domestic skilled labour available.

Not enough doctors, then you should absolutely be allowing employers to accept good people from abroad.

But if there are plenty of accountants, and indeed maybe too many, you don't allow employers to open up those positions to foreign applicants.

It's not what specific jobs the OPs daughter did or did not apply to, it's a systematic policy issue. Why are there jobs being opened in sectors where there are plenty of good domestic candidates?

ramonaquimby · 09/01/2026 10:31

Andiessock · 08/01/2026 21:58

My DD is in her mid 20s, she graduated with a masters in philosophy over 2 years ago now from a top university in London, she has a BA from a top university as well. Her two closest friends during her masters weren’t British.
DD struggled to find a job directly related to philosophy or even culture in general, she did manage to get a job in the civil service but she doesn’t enjoy it at all.
Her two friends both managed to get jobs in the field they desired originally on graduate visas, now both are sponsored on skilled worker visas.
One works at cultural institute associated with her home country in programme coordination so planning and running events that promote her countries culture etc. specifically in literature and philosophy.
The other works at a non-profit cultural institution in a similar role to her other friend but a little more research heavy less events centred.

First of all I’m not entirely sure how either of these roles fall under “skilled workers”, they must be making around 40k to even qualify and whilst I understand the first friend being preferred over a British national since it’s a cultural institution, I don’t understand why non-Brits are being given roles in an industry Brits are struggling to get a foot in the door at.

Im all for migrants for what it’s worth, this is not intended to be slanderous to migrants, especially in industries which need the talent from abroad; but I don’t see how that applies here and in this case it does feel like “foreigners are stealing British jobs” (not a sentiment I typically agree with or would use any other time). That’s not to mention that I’m not even sure how these roles qualify as skilled workers in the first place.

AIBU to find this incredibly frustrating?

Jesus.
this is your daughter problem. A philosophy degree isn't opening many doors for her. That's the issue, not what a skilled worker is or isn't

ParmaVioletTea · 09/01/2026 10:26

Oriunda · 09/01/2026 07:07

Too busy getting her mum to do her research for her on Mumsnet.

If I was an employer, with a choice between a European candidate who's bilingual (at the very least), who had the gumption to leave her home country to pursue a masters overseas, who lives independently away from her family, or a monolingual Brit who lives at home and complains about her lot whilst doing nothing to improve it, I'd know who I'd choose.

Indeed!

There's a hint in this thread that the OP's DD is a bit passive ... the tyhing about humanities training is that you then need to use those skills of analytical thinking & research to find a good fit in employment - a modicum of initiative is needed.

titchy · 09/01/2026 10:19

AnnaFrith · 09/01/2026 10:07

This is the problem.

Is it a problem though? Why shouldn’t I employ the brilliant highly experienced candidate who will bring lots of new ideas to my organisation? I’d much rather have them than the candidate who scraped the baseline ‘minimum skill for role’ score in all sections but no more.

AnnaFrith · 09/01/2026 10:15

ChattyCatty25 · 09/01/2026 09:37

You’re getting flamed by politically correct, permanently outraged people but it’s true. British people are at a disadvantage and seen as inferior to foreigners.

I think a lot of the people posting are immigrants. It's a case of the 'anywheres' - people who are happy to move around for work and don't feel any strong geographical ties, feeling superior to the 'somewheres' - people who want to live and work in their own country, and hope their children will too.

Mum27383 · 09/01/2026 10:12

AnnaFrith · 09/01/2026 09:58

I'm really surprised you're not getting more support OP.
I'm 100% with you, if there was a job your daughter was qualified and capable of doing (as it sounds like the second job was), it should never have been open to applications from non British candidates.
It shouldn't matter how 'highly skilled' a job is, only whether or not there are British people who want and are able to do the job.
If there are, then immigrants shouldn't be able to apply. Even if they have more relevant experience/are 'better' qualified than British candidates. If we open up jobs, especially career entry jobs, to the 'best' candidates from the entire world, British people will be disadvantaged as they won't get the opportunities necessary to develop their skills.
This is exactly what has happened in medical training. We have allowed lots of foreign doctors to work here and let them apply for specialty training. Often they are more experienced than British doctors at the same training level which gives them an advantage in the recruitment process. So they get appointed and trained and a British doctor can't get a job. (Even though the majority of British patients would actually prefer a British doctor due to it generally being easier to communicate with a native English speaker with shared cultural understanding).

If everyone did this then Brits would have no opportunities to work abroad either. There’s a lot to be gained for institutions that employ across boarders.

I don’t know about the doctor example - I agree it’s a shame is local doctors are missing opportunities because of doctors employed from abroad - given the cost to train them and the cap on medical students surely this is self-defeating. On the other hand, isn’t employing more experienced doctors at a junior level also a positive for patients?

AnnaFrith · 09/01/2026 10:07

OneNewUser · 09/01/2026 09:30

I’m pretty sure the criteria for employing someone on a skilled worker visa is a) the role is skilled and b) they were the best applicant. There is no requirement on employers to favour U.K. applicants or to ‘prove’ that there’s no qualified U.K. grads at all before they hire someone who needs a visa.

From my own experience we interview & select best candidates & only then look at whether they need a visa.

This is the problem.

AnnaFrith · 09/01/2026 10:05

wineosaurusrex · 08/01/2026 22:41

So your daughter deserves to take their jobs simply because she is British? That's crazy. And you're coming off as racist. HTH.

What's crazy is saying that jobs in Britain, including entry level jobs that will give young graduates the opportunities to build skills and develop careers, should be open to anyone from anywhere.
We have a population of nearly 70million. It's racist to see that we don't have enough talented people to take ALL the jobs, given the right training and opportunities.

AnnaFrith · 09/01/2026 09:58

I'm really surprised you're not getting more support OP.
I'm 100% with you, if there was a job your daughter was qualified and capable of doing (as it sounds like the second job was), it should never have been open to applications from non British candidates.
It shouldn't matter how 'highly skilled' a job is, only whether or not there are British people who want and are able to do the job.
If there are, then immigrants shouldn't be able to apply. Even if they have more relevant experience/are 'better' qualified than British candidates. If we open up jobs, especially career entry jobs, to the 'best' candidates from the entire world, British people will be disadvantaged as they won't get the opportunities necessary to develop their skills.
This is exactly what has happened in medical training. We have allowed lots of foreign doctors to work here and let them apply for specialty training. Often they are more experienced than British doctors at the same training level which gives them an advantage in the recruitment process. So they get appointed and trained and a British doctor can't get a job. (Even though the majority of British patients would actually prefer a British doctor due to it generally being easier to communicate with a native English speaker with shared cultural understanding).

Slightyamusedandsilly · 09/01/2026 09:54

Andiessock · 08/01/2026 22:09

That is interesting. Maybe you can help me understand then as I’ll be honest I don’t (I’m not being intentionally ignorant).
Her first friend is French and works at a French institute, went to a prestigious French university for her undergraduate. I can see why they would pick her for this role.
What I don’t understand is her other friend is from a Scandinavian country, works at a British cultural/intellectual institution (think like the Royal Society of Arts or Institute of Arts and Ideas), what specialist knowledge would she have that would be useful to them over a Brit?
I do see the link more in the first friend’s situation but less so in the second.

Did your daughter also apply for the 2nd friend's job? She can't be considered for a position she didn't apply for.

glitterpaperchain · 09/01/2026 09:47

🙄 this just absolutely smacks of ignorance and xenophobia

They may both have a masters in the same subject but within that they will have each done their own thesis on vastly different subjects, so that's how one person might be better suited to a role than another. Plus there are many other skills, soft skills, communication etc that go into getting a job, not just your qualifications.

The fact that you just jump to an immigrant getting a job over your daughter as if there are no other factors, what on earth. You say you're all for migration but clearly not in your back yard eh?

PerpetualStudent · 09/01/2026 09:46

As someone with a parallel study and professional area (the arts) I can tell you networking and connections counts for a lot as time goes on. Those coursemates you are getting sniffy about (and potentially even prompting your daughter to feel similarly) are going to be the ones she may well want to be hitting up for information when a future vacancy comes up in their organisations, or there’s a funding opportunity they have some connection to, or they are looking for collaborators on a new programme of events. When jobs are scarcer, networks mean a lot and it’s a fool’s errand to start burning bridges straight out of your degree through bitterness or any sense of entitlement.

ittakes2 · 09/01/2026 09:38

Sorry but I think you need to give your head a a wobble - you are literally asking a global website to help you understand why one of your daughters friends was given a job because in your opinion since she was not British why did it go to her instead of someone British. Who the hell knows the individual circumstances of this persons employment? And just because your daughter is British doesn’t mean she’s enployable no matter how many degrees she has - she might be missing some obvious people skills or whatever.
My daughter studied philosophy - it’s a subject of passion not a vocation you don’t leave with an obvious career path.

ChattyCatty25 · 09/01/2026 09:37

You’re getting flamed by politically correct, permanently outraged people but it’s true. British people are at a disadvantage and seen as inferior to foreigners.

BarilynBordeaux · 09/01/2026 09:32

OneGreySeal · 09/01/2026 08:33

You and your daughter are far too focused on how other people have got the jobs rather than why your daughter isn’t getting the jobs. Change your perspective so that she can become a better candidate.

Immigrants tend to have a hustler mentality when they’re seeking work. There is so much riding on it. You and DD sound incredibly privileged and clearly have plenty of time to dissect the careers of others, move that energy into getting feedback from places she interviewed to figure out where she can improve.

100% this. Stop focusing on all them greedy forriners and think about why your DD may not have the edge in a very competitive market. Could be anything really. Better qualifications, more global experience/multiple languages, maybe your DD interviews like a wet wipe 🤷‍♀️

OneNewUser · 09/01/2026 09:30

I’m pretty sure the criteria for employing someone on a skilled worker visa is a) the role is skilled and b) they were the best applicant. There is no requirement on employers to favour U.K. applicants or to ‘prove’ that there’s no qualified U.K. grads at all before they hire someone who needs a visa.

From my own experience we interview & select best candidates & only then look at whether they need a visa.

MunterJobHunter · 09/01/2026 09:24

You’re comparing apples and oranges and expecting the same result.

Your daughter did a very specialist subject with limited vocational purpose beyond research and ethics, her friends I assume did degrees relating to their own interests and it turns out their interests and qualifications line them up for jobs relevant to their studies and experience. You can’t get bitter that they got jobs in different fields for which they are very qualified and your daughter didn’t.

The jobs market is ruthless right now for everyone. Celebrate your daughter’s friends being able to get work, many of the young people I graduated with are working part time in hospitality despite being highly educated and skilled. They are both UK citizens and people
here on a post grad visa alike. All depressed at lack of opportunity. I’m older and in the same boat. I have a lifetime of skills experience and qualifications but there’s no point blaming foreign workers because the problem
is governments and corporations destroying economies and opportunities not the staff.

waterrat · 09/01/2026 09:20

Also - we live in a highly multicultural/ high fluidity world op! People who are bright rightly want to choose where they work!

Look around Europe - you will see people who cross borders frequently for work - that was the complete norm when we were part of the EU and it made us a wealthier happier nation.

I also really agree with other posters who pointed out how impressive it is to employers when someone speaks multiple languages to a very high level.

You could be working class and point out that people who speak nicely and have private school backgrounds get more jobs in the UK (and you would be right) - you could point out that southern accents are treated with more respect - a young black man from hackney is going to find it harder to get a job than a young white woman from the home counties with a grammar school educatino- even though he might be just as intelligent and hard working.

there are SO many inequalities in this world

your daughter needs to focus on what she wants her life to look like - I can tell you nobody cares that she has an MA in philosophy - it's one of those niche academic subjects that has no interest to most people.

waterrat · 09/01/2026 08:58

I have a degree in philosophy and I work in the media /journalism. (It's a common degree among journalists)

I think your mistake is thinking academic success has much to do with getting a job

Think how many incredibly bright graduates there are.....a lot !

Life isn't always fair snd people get jobs first so many various reasons.

Being bitter and comparing yourself to others never ends well

Your daughter needs to work out her passion and follow it.

Ive never thought of my degree being in the slightest bit interesting to employers tbh !

NiceCupOfChai · 09/01/2026 08:56

TempestTost · 09/01/2026 01:31

I don't know why you are getting so much trouble, OP.

There is not a lack of graduates in the humanities for these sorts of jobs, on the contrary, they are like hen's teeth.

They shouldn't be giving work permits to non-citizens for them. It makes no sense. And lots of those other countries wouldn't do so either.

As an aside, “Like hens’ teeth” means something is very rare because hens don’t have teeth. I think you used the wrong analogy as you likened an abundance of home graduates to hens’ teeth. Not being snarky, just letting you know.

LeonMccogh · 09/01/2026 08:56

“I’m all for migrants… so long as they don’t outdo my daughter…”
🤭

Mum27383 · 09/01/2026 08:54

Haruka · 09/01/2026 08:36

Foreign-born people already have a foot up on native-born people by sheer willpower and determination. It takes a lot to migrate - I have done it twice.

Moving countries takes a lot of organisational and communicative skills, which, alone, will have first generation immigrants stand out. The added ability to communicate in a second language to masters levels is not simply a desirable skill, it also demonstrates a good work ethic (because learning languages to that level is hard work and takes an awful lot of perseverance). So, before even counting in work experience and additional cultural experience, anyone who manages to pull off a masters-equivalent degree in any foreign country has demonstarted a range of soft skills, which instantly make them more employable.

Add to that the necessary financial aspects (both for gaining a degree as an overseas student here and for the move itself), often taken care of by working as a school student and then again during university and likely networking skills (because socially, emigrating is very isolating) and you can easily see why migrants are desirable employees. They're harder to employ (due to, e.g., immigration status checks, which are a legal requirement for all employers), but more desirable.

Native-born people fresh out of university have a lot to compete with. It used to be mostly locals, then a more nationwide net, now it's a whole world full of capable people. It's what I keep trying to tell youngsters, but it's so much easier to simply ignore the added abilities migrants demonstrate and blame other employer motives instead.

Agree with all this. You need a lot of self motivation and perseverance to move countries to work. Those qualities show in all aspects of life, education and employment, not just in the practicalities of moving and they often have stand out CVs. Living and working abroad is eye catching and you get a variety of experiences that you don’t get staying in your home country - I’d always recommend to students to do a year abroad to give yourself an edge.

Fulmine · 09/01/2026 08:50

Andiessock · 08/01/2026 22:46

I think DD would much rather be financially impoverished than intellectually under-stimulated. She isn’t fussed about earning loads and would never touch law or consulting. Obviously I’d be less worried if she were willing to pursue a high earning career but she isn’t interested.

Why wouldn't she touch law, as a matter of interest? It's hardly under-stimulating intellectually, and covers a very wide range.

Dweetfidilove · 09/01/2026 08:49

GotStrands · 08/01/2026 22:31

Maybe they interviewed better than she did? It happens.

I remember an employer telling me as well that he enjoyed interviews with young people who have travelled - students who have travelled on a gap year or such; or people who lived/worked overseas... Apparently the international experience/diverse perspective/independence etc offered more innovative ideas and greater competition.
All industries are global now too, so it makes sense.