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In wanting Mumsnet to help Judi Dench and Joanna Lumley

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GiantBranch · 08/01/2026 18:55

Last week, Israel banned 37 international aid organisations from operating in the strip, including Oxfam, Save the Children and Medicine Sans Frontieres (MSF). MSF delivers one in three of Gaza’s babies, and experts warn that immediate action must be taken to prevent a catastrophe.

It has prompted more than 100 leading members of the arts, including Dames Judi Dench, Imelda Staunton, Joanna Lumley, Sienna Miller, Suranne Jones and singer Paloma Faith, to sign a letter urging popular online platform Mumsnet to join them in demanding urgent government action ensuring maternity care is accessible in Gaza.

www.independent.co.uk/news/world/middle-east/gaza-israel-baby-birth-judi-dench-letter-b2896981.html

International aid groups grapple with what Israel's ban will mean for their work in Gaza

Israel has revoked the licenses of more than three dozen humanitarian organizations, and now those groups are grappling with how that will affect aid operations in Gaza

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/israel-united-nations-norwegian-refugee-council-palestinians-doctors-without-borders-b2894091.html

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MillicentFaucet · 09/01/2026 13:04

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:51

Again two things can be done at once

And yet they have chosen this instead of not in addition to a campaign for better UK maternity care. It's completely their choice to make but why handwave away questions about why they chose Gaza not UK, Afghanistan etc?

Upstartled · 09/01/2026 13:02

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:51

Again two things can be done at once

And yet they have neither advocated for the improvement of maternity services in the UK or done anything significant other than demand that somebody else picks up a cause they have put their signature to, have they?

It's not as taxing as say, both going to work and posting continually on a thread nearly every hour for a whole day complaining that other women won't prioritise your cause.

whatwouldafeministdo · 09/01/2026 12:56

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:48

Sorry but no connection to the issue at hand

I remain open-minded on the issue and think Reap raises an interesting question.

Writing to the foreign secretary or anyone in Government seems a more reasonable and logical course of action.

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:51

Again two things can be done at once

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whatwouldafeministdo · 09/01/2026 12:50

There are women in dire need of decent maternity care in the UK too and babies dying here (and women being harmed) unnecessarily. Especially among women less well off than the signatories of this letter.

If women chose to focus on something they can more directly influence, they should not be criticised by those massively better off, as well as less well informed (as far as I can tell), for doing so.

The tone of this letter is we care about this highly political luxury cause and are willing to use less well off women to promote our luxury cause but don't actually care much about these women or any problems they face.

10 minutes on the Relationships board would do them all good and perhaps encourage some humility which they seem to be lacking based on this letter.

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:48

ReapTheWhirlwind · 09/01/2026 12:45

I wonder how many of her illustrious co-signatories supported Amanda Abbington when she was getting a right kicking from the TRAs around the time of her Strictly appearances. She’d said and done nothing wrong. The activist extremists went after her career and her sanity. She found sympathy on MN FWR. But where else? <resounding silence>

The TRAs are after Martin Freeman now, her ExH for (a) supporting free speech, and (b) being connected to her. Fortunately a High Court ruling is now in force around these matters, hopefully being made permanent today.

I cynically have wondered overnight if that’s why this lot are really poking at Justine - her connection to Ian Katz. Hope not. But something’s off here.

Sorry but no connection to the issue at hand

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ReapTheWhirlwind · 09/01/2026 12:45

MrsOvertonsWindow · 09/01/2026 08:13

Well said. It feels as if these very privileged women are trying to piggy back on Justine's reputation and business in order to promote their personal priority political cause.
I suspect that none of these Dames, actors etc are regulars on the Aibu, Style & Beauty or Relationships boards. They've not contributed to any of the Mumsnet campaigns for safer maternity care, women's health, children & social media etc let alone supported Justine & Mumsnet when Justine was swatted or needed to set up Premium membership to counter financial issues.
Yet they decide to publicly target Mumsnet with this odd letter & position Justine as having as navigate a challenging political issue because it suits them and their reputations. No interest at all in who or what Mumsnet is.

Privileged virtue signalling.

I wonder how many of her illustrious co-signatories supported Amanda Abbington when she was getting a right kicking from the TRAs around the time of her Strictly appearances. She’d said and done nothing wrong. The activist extremists went after her career and her sanity. She found sympathy on MN FWR. But where else? <resounding silence>

The TRAs are after Martin Freeman now, her ExH for (a) supporting free speech, and (b) being connected to her. Fortunately a High Court ruling is now in force around these matters, hopefully being made permanent today.

I cynically have wondered overnight if that’s why this lot are really poking at Justine - her connection to Ian Katz. Hope not. But something’s off here.

Binus · 09/01/2026 12:44

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:40

Again it has been discussed why organisations are uncomfortable complying with Israel’s conditions one of which is agreeing not to criticise or testify against Israel in the ICC/ICJ why include that stipulation?

Yet they've still not been willing to provide employee lists at all, to the best of my knowledge. If the charities wanted to pressure Israel, they'd be more effective if they complied with the clearly reasonable part and made it only about the ICC/ICJ.

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:44

They also have concerns for the safety of their staff given the unprecedented amount of aid workers who have been killed in Gaza, that is why the are uncomfortable handing over lists of aid workers to a state which has killed their workers

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inkognitha · 09/01/2026 12:44

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:40

Again it has been discussed why organisations are uncomfortable complying with Israel’s conditions one of which is agreeing not to criticise or testify against Israel in the ICC/ICJ why include that stipulation?

If they re doctors, they should care first about providing medical care, the potential legal ramifications way way down the line should come a solid second, don't you think?

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:40

Binus · 09/01/2026 12:34

Hopefully they'll comply with the request to provide lists of their employees in Gaza then. I wonder why the signatories to the letter aren't trying to persuade them to do that?

Again it has been discussed why organisations are uncomfortable complying with Israel’s conditions one of which is agreeing not to criticise or testify against Israel in the ICC/ICJ why include that stipulation?

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inkognitha · 09/01/2026 12:40

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:31

Am sure humanitarian organisations like MSF could help these women if they have access and there are any more

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If MSF wants to keep helping pregnant women in Gaza, they can.

They are not kicked out by Israel, they simply refuse to abide to rules and prefer to stop working in Gaza. It's their sole choice.

If you only care about pregnant women dying, why aren't you incensed that MSF is actually giving up on these women.

If they cared about women this much, they d stay.

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:37

Most humanitarian organisations have used the term genocide, not really interested in debating whether what is happening is or is not a genocide, fruitless. The reality is there are pregnant women in a dire situation who are at risk of vey bad outcomes and need care

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whatwouldafeministdo · 09/01/2026 12:35

I'm sorry but the MSF blurb on this sounds quite political to me. Which generally they're not, but they use the term 'genocide' against Israel which is very politically loaded and fail to note that Hamas' explicit policy is genocide of the Jews.

I fail to see why demonstrating their staff aren't Hamas terrorists is a difficult ask. However I don't have time to research the details and I can't -and more generally UK women can't - judge the truth of any of their statements or the IDF / Israeli statements we're just not in positions to do so.

It's not our problem to solve.

I have donated to MSF in the past and I would do so again if I won the lottery however these days I mostly donate to UK causes as there is tremendous need here too including people struggling to access healthcare for their children and receiving shit maternity care.

Binus · 09/01/2026 12:34

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:31

Am sure humanitarian organisations like MSF could help these women if they have access and there are any more

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Hopefully they'll comply with the request to provide lists of their employees in Gaza then. I wonder why the signatories to the letter aren't trying to persuade them to do that?

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:31

Binus · 09/01/2026 12:29

Well, there's been one Yazidi slave woman rescued from a Gazan jihadist already, and she'd had children in her forced marriage. Not beyond the realms of possibility there are more.

But you're right, part of activism like this is explaining why you think resources should be focused on one issue in one particular way.

Am sure humanitarian organisations like MSF could help these women if they have access and there are any more

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Binus · 09/01/2026 12:29

StellaAndCrow · 09/01/2026 12:00

Why is there so much focus on Gaza, and so little on the Yazidi women and the women in Afghanistan?

Well, there's been one Yazidi slave woman rescued from a Gazan jihadist already, and she'd had children in her forced marriage. Not beyond the realms of possibility there are more.

But you're right, part of activism like this is explaining why you think resources should be focused on one issue in one particular way.

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:27

EuclidianGeometryFan · 09/01/2026 11:49

Great. I agree.

The situation in Gaza is bad. Indescribably terrible.
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The celebrities made a serious error in publishing an open letter to Justine. Tactically ineffective and also making themselves look like bullies by doing it publicly.

To discuss the second is not to diminish the importance of the first.

Well as we have exhaustively discussed the second can we maybe focus on the campaign

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GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 12:26

unfortunately the issue at hand is that Israel unlike Afghanistan is prohibiting MSF from continuing to do the very valuable work (assisting at 1 out of three births) which it has until now been doing.
The point of the campaign is to be put pressure on the Uk government to in turn put pressure on Israel to reverse it’s decision and allow well respected humanitarian organisations continue their efforts

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whatwouldafeministdo · 09/01/2026 12:25

Still probably a good organisation to donate to. Other frontline organisations exist. I'd always recommend due diligence. Google is your friend.

whatwouldafeministdo · 09/01/2026 12:19

OK, for fear of being sucked back into this thread. A non-political way of providing real support is to donate to a charity like MSF / Doctors without borders. Which the signatories of this letter, who probably earn a lot more than the average MN user, could easily do rather than wasting time on lecturing silly (lower class) mummies.

MSF appear to be very much still active in providing frontline healthcare in both Gaza and Afghanistan (and neighbouring Pakistan where many Afghan refugees have fled).

Afghanistan | Our Work & How to Help | Doctors Without Border

Edited to add: Although actually - sigh - they seem to be refusing to demonstrate their workers aren't Hamas operatives in Gaza and / or the Israelis are unwilling to meet with them to discuss reasonable evidence that won't put their workers at risk. Depending on the source. Either (both?) could be true. I can't possible judge.

StellaAndCrow · 09/01/2026 12:00

Why is there so much focus on Gaza, and so little on the Yazidi women and the women in Afghanistan?

Starch1e · 09/01/2026 11:59

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 10:43

Helping pregnant vulnerable women is a non partisan issue. It is simply basic humanity

This instance is political because the letter writers are asking Justine/Mumsnet to put pressure on UK politicians to talk/pressure Israeli politicians to change their actions/policies in their own country.

A non-partisan humanitarian response is to give monetary or physical support to e.g. Jamaica in response to recent hurricane while making no mention of how Jamaica is governed.

EuclidianGeometryFan · 09/01/2026 11:49

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 10:04

Two things can be bad at the same time

Great. I agree.

The situation in Gaza is bad. Indescribably terrible.
AND
The celebrities made a serious error in publishing an open letter to Justine. Tactically ineffective and also making themselves look like bullies by doing it publicly.

To discuss the second is not to diminish the importance of the first.

LemonyCurd · 09/01/2026 11:43

GiantBranch · 09/01/2026 11:30

I am not sure I am understanding are you suggesting pregnant Palestinians are criminals or did I totally misread your post?and not worthy of support ??

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You totally misread my post, yeah.

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