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In wanting Mumsnet to help Judi Dench and Joanna Lumley

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GiantBranch · 08/01/2026 18:55

Last week, Israel banned 37 international aid organisations from operating in the strip, including Oxfam, Save the Children and Medicine Sans Frontieres (MSF). MSF delivers one in three of Gaza’s babies, and experts warn that immediate action must be taken to prevent a catastrophe.

It has prompted more than 100 leading members of the arts, including Dames Judi Dench, Imelda Staunton, Joanna Lumley, Sienna Miller, Suranne Jones and singer Paloma Faith, to sign a letter urging popular online platform Mumsnet to join them in demanding urgent government action ensuring maternity care is accessible in Gaza.

www.independent.co.uk/news/world/middle-east/gaza-israel-baby-birth-judi-dench-letter-b2896981.html

International aid groups grapple with what Israel's ban will mean for their work in Gaza

Israel has revoked the licenses of more than three dozen humanitarian organizations, and now those groups are grappling with how that will affect aid operations in Gaza

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/israel-united-nations-norwegian-refugee-council-palestinians-doctors-without-borders-b2894091.html

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Genericfestiveusername · 11/01/2026 13:56

Clementi · 11/01/2026 13:35

But this isn’t a thread about Gaza, it is a thread about people writing a manipulative letter to the head of Mumsnet to try and get her to use the weight of its membership to support a particular cause.

If we are to be used to back up Justine pushing specific causes then we should be entitled to say that if she wants to support maternity services for women then Afghanistan should at the top of the list rather than allow us to be used by Hamas in their mistreatment of women to achieve their political ends.

Except we don't all think it's manipulative, many of think it's a worthy cause. Those who don't can't just say that and go they seem to also want to completely derail with all the others causes they think should be addressed.

suggestionsplease1 · 11/01/2026 13:55

Nyeaccident · 11/01/2026 13:51

Presumably the best approach @whatwouldafeministdo can take is to write an open letter placing the responsibility on a random vaguely public figure who has absolutely no influence over the situation?

Grin

Yes if they want to do that I, and I am sure others, would be interested to read it. It would likely raise awareness of the issues and potentially generate some groundswell momentum to explore ways to help facilitate change.

Nyeaccident · 11/01/2026 13:51

suggestionsplease1 · 11/01/2026 13:47

Can you start up a thread detailing the action you're taking on this issue in Afghanistan and put a link on this thread to it please?

I'm sure a lot of women on this site would get behind the action you're taking.

Presumably the best approach @whatwouldafeministdo can take is to write an open letter placing the responsibility on a random vaguely public figure who has absolutely no influence over the situation?

Grin
suggestionsplease1 · 11/01/2026 13:47

whatwouldafeministdo · 11/01/2026 10:13

I'm not at all sure this is still true. Most of the information on their webpage pre-dates the most restrictive bans on women being HCPs, and receiving care from HCPs.

It's quite worrying actually - the latest post I can find is from Oct 25 talking about how women cannot now access any healthcare unless they wear a burkha. There is very limited information and they do not address the question of whether they are able to provide care to women and girls as well as men now. I could find an article with only men pictured talking about caring for men in 2025 - the lack of women was a bit concerning.

I wish MSF(and other aid agencies who say they're working in Afghanistan) would explicitly address this - there are certainly reports that aid agencies have been denied access to help women in Afghanistan.

The LATEST date on the webpage you've posted is 2024. A lot has changed for women and girls in Afghanistan in the past year.

Can you start up a thread detailing the action you're taking on this issue in Afghanistan and put a link on this thread to it please?

I'm sure a lot of women on this site would get behind the action you're taking.

Clementi · 11/01/2026 13:35

Genericfestiveusername · 11/01/2026 13:11

Why don't you start a thread about it? Everyone can see what you're doing. Everytime someone tries to talk about Gaza people like you detail the thread with multiple posts about all the other things OP should be posting about (as if a thread about every world crisis would even be efficient). You sound really clued up on Afghanistan and Iran.and like you'd be amazing organising a public campaign for support for their maternity care! Maybe you should start a thread and an open letter and post all your resources there? You could contact any public figures you want support from on social media.

Because you do actually really care of course and are taking practical actions yourself to raise awareness and funds and support right, so it sounds like posting in this particular thread about it is the way to get it off the ground.

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But this isn’t a thread about Gaza, it is a thread about people writing a manipulative letter to the head of Mumsnet to try and get her to use the weight of its membership to support a particular cause.

If we are to be used to back up Justine pushing specific causes then we should be entitled to say that if she wants to support maternity services for women then Afghanistan should at the top of the list rather than allow us to be used by Hamas in their mistreatment of women to achieve their political ends.

Genericfestiveusername · 11/01/2026 13:17

inkognitha · 11/01/2026 12:31

And from the same article in the Guardian, 2 interesting quotes:

"Israeli officials said they had given ample warning to aid organisations about the new registration requirements and that about 15% of nongovernmental organisations working in Gaza had not had their permits renewed."

"In its statement on Tuesday, the Israeli ministry alleged that an investigation had found that MSF employed two individuals with links to Palestinian militant groups: an alleged sniper with Hamas and a member of Palestinian Islamic Jihad."

"The pregnant women of Gaza" mantra hides a few inconvenient truths, doesn't it?

OP, you seem very well-intended and full of compassion, but I think you are being played and instrumentalised by people whose motives have nothing to do with helping women and girls.

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Have you even read what the registration requirements are? Giving notice doesn't mean anything, youre and others are being deliberately vague and acting like they just need to give the names of their employees when you know it's not true. And after Israel have murdered hundreds of aid and healthcare workers, many of us don't have much care for Israel "alleging" of anything and we would prefer that the NGOs can continue to do anything they can to support women and children living in hell.

Genericfestiveusername · 11/01/2026 13:11

whatwouldafeministdo · 11/01/2026 10:20

Oh actually, I did just find something else from 2025:

New restrictions limit access to care for women in Herat | MSF

At the Islam Qala border crossing with Iran, humanitarian organisations are witnessing similar challenges while bringing care to returnees who have been expelled from Iran. Out of more than one hundred female staff who previously worked there, only three - a midwife, a doctor, and a nurse - are currently permitted to work, under strict conditions requiring them to wear a burqa at all times.

So it appears that no, the Taliban are not really allowing humanitarian staff to treat women. That's a 97% reduction in female staff who can treat women.

If they're also strictly enforcing the 'no men treating women' rule this leaves Afghan women and girls without care.

I wonder why there's not more media noise about this. Maybe Joanna Lumley and Judi Dench could do a letter?

Why don't you start a thread about it? Everyone can see what you're doing. Everytime someone tries to talk about Gaza people like you detail the thread with multiple posts about all the other things OP should be posting about (as if a thread about every world crisis would even be efficient). You sound really clued up on Afghanistan and Iran.and like you'd be amazing organising a public campaign for support for their maternity care! Maybe you should start a thread and an open letter and post all your resources there? You could contact any public figures you want support from on social media.

Because you do actually really care of course and are taking practical actions yourself to raise awareness and funds and support right, so it sounds like posting in this particular thread about it is the way to get it off the ground.

GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 13:09

inkognitha · 11/01/2026 12:31

And from the same article in the Guardian, 2 interesting quotes:

"Israeli officials said they had given ample warning to aid organisations about the new registration requirements and that about 15% of nongovernmental organisations working in Gaza had not had their permits renewed."

"In its statement on Tuesday, the Israeli ministry alleged that an investigation had found that MSF employed two individuals with links to Palestinian militant groups: an alleged sniper with Hamas and a member of Palestinian Islamic Jihad."

"The pregnant women of Gaza" mantra hides a few inconvenient truths, doesn't it?

OP, you seem very well-intended and full of compassion, but I think you are being played and instrumentalised by people whose motives have nothing to do with helping women and girls.

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I do not think I am being played I understand the situation I just thought perhaps the plight of pregnant Palestinian women would be something the majority of women could support and want to see improved,

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GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 13:05

Clementi · 11/01/2026 12:31

Why isn’t any of your ire aimed at Hamas?

I am not aiming any ire anywhere I have said this thread is not about who did what do who. it is about possibly trying to improve the current situation of pregnant Palestinian women

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Genericfestiveusername · 11/01/2026 12:49

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 10/01/2026 19:53

Coercive control is defined in statutory guidance as "an intentional pattern of behaviour which takes place over time, in order for one individual to exert power, control or coercion over another" (Home Office, 2023).

Coercion is where the threat of force is used to bend someone to your will. The force doesn't have to be delivered by the person doing the coercing.

An individual intentionally set about and planned over a period of time to draft, recruit signatories for, and publish this letter, with the intention of securing Justine's cooperation. The intent and the pattern is there.

It is public knowledge that Justine has been swatted in the past by politically-motivated people because she said "no" to them. It is public knowledge that some of the people sympathetic to Palestinians use violence and property damage against those who they percieve as disagreeing with them. It is obvious to anyone who has read this thread that saying "no" to this letter will be interpreted as taking Israel's side and hating babies, despite there being several legitimate reasons to do so. Justine has to say "yes" or "no" in public, because the letter was published; failing to say "yes" is, by exclusion, a "no". The threat of force from third-parties if she says "no" is clearly there. It's coercion.

Thanks for making it even clearer that you're missing the term 😁

inkognitha · 11/01/2026 12:31

And from the same article in the Guardian, 2 interesting quotes:

"Israeli officials said they had given ample warning to aid organisations about the new registration requirements and that about 15% of nongovernmental organisations working in Gaza had not had their permits renewed."

"In its statement on Tuesday, the Israeli ministry alleged that an investigation had found that MSF employed two individuals with links to Palestinian militant groups: an alleged sniper with Hamas and a member of Palestinian Islamic Jihad."

"The pregnant women of Gaza" mantra hides a few inconvenient truths, doesn't it?

OP, you seem very well-intended and full of compassion, but I think you are being played and instrumentalised by people whose motives have nothing to do with helping women and girls.

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Clementi · 11/01/2026 12:31

Why isn’t any of your ire aimed at Hamas?

GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 12:13

“One senior UN official said the ban would “cripple” relief operations. Israeli laws banning Unrwa, the main UN agency dealing with Palestinians, from Gaza had already had a significant impact, they added.

Rayburn said the ban would bring about a “catastrophic collapse of humanitarian services”, and that Israel authorities had been made “fully aware” of potential consequences.

Under the 20-point agreement that allowed a fragile ceasefire to come into effect in October, Israel is obliged to allow “full aid” to be “immediately sent into Gaza”.

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GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 12:12

“Aid organisations said they had been engaging with Israeli officials for many months.
“We have made strenuous efforts to comply even if these demands are made nowhere else. We do extensive vetting ourselves. It would be disastrous for us to have any armed combatants or people linked to armed groups among our staff,” said Athena Rayburn, executive director of the Association of International Development Agencies, which represents more than 100 NGOs operating in Gaza and the occupied West Bank.
“We have such strong measures in place already and have proposed alternatives to the Israeli authorities that would meet this requirement, and they have refused.”

Gaza | The Guardian

Latest news, sport, business, comment, analysis and reviews from the Guardian, the world's leading liberal voice

https://www.theguardian.com/world/gaza

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GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 12:11

“Israel’s new ban on dozens of aid organisations working in Gaza will have “catastrophic” consequences for the delivery of vital services in the devastated territory and will put Palestinian lives “at imminent risk”, diplomats, humanitarian workers and experts say.

Thirty-seven NGOs active in Gaza were told by Israel’s ministry of diaspora affairs on Tuesday that they would have to cease all operations in the territory within 60 days unless they fulfilled stringent new regulations, which include the disclosure of personal details of their staff.

Israel to ban dozens of aid agencies from Gaza as 10 nations warn about suffering

Failure of groups including MSF and ActionAid to hand over staff details means they will not be able to operate in Gaza, say Israeli officials

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/dec/30/israel-to-ban-dozens-of-aid-agencies-from-gaza-as-10-nations-warn-about-suffering

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GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 12:08

Thank you for continuing to engage on this thread and consequently raising it’s profile

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GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 12:02

I do care about Afghani women I have just said so I think the two situations are appalling, I would definitely support a Mumsnet campaign for Afghani women. This thread and my post is about an existing campaign to stop the banning of well respected aid agencies from accessing Gaza and consequent harm of Palestinian women and children who surely we all can agree have already suffered enough

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whatwouldafeministdo · 11/01/2026 11:47

GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 11:41

MSF still have access to the country no?

I think yes there should definitely be more attention given to the dire situation of Afghan women particularly in relation to education and maternity care. There should definitely be a campaign and I am looking forward to seeing and supporting anything that comes from the deep concerns expressed on here

I would just think the same concern should be extended to Palestinian women through the existing campaign
it is possible to care and campaign for multiple things at once,

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Not for women or maternity care, no they don't. Why don't you care about these women?

Compare the maths 97% fewer HCPs that can treat women in Afghanistan in Herat. And those that remain have to wear a burqa.

Only 15% of NGOs are refusing to provide the evidence that would allow them access to Gaza.

Gazans still have far more NGOs that can provide care TO WOMEN than Afghanistan.

GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 11:41

MSF still have access to the country no?

I think yes there should definitely be more attention given to the dire situation of Afghan women particularly in relation to education and maternity care. There should definitely be a campaign and I am looking forward to seeing and supporting anything that comes from the deep concerns expressed on here

I would just think the same concern should be extended to Palestinian women through the existing campaign
it is possible to care and campaign for multiple things at once,

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whatwouldafeministdo · 11/01/2026 10:22

For the 3 remaining female HCPs at the end of 2025, I'd imagine trying to do any kind of complicated medical care WHILST WEARING A BURQA would be a) very difficult and b) quite unhygienic.

whatwouldafeministdo · 11/01/2026 10:20

Oh actually, I did just find something else from 2025:

New restrictions limit access to care for women in Herat | MSF

At the Islam Qala border crossing with Iran, humanitarian organisations are witnessing similar challenges while bringing care to returnees who have been expelled from Iran. Out of more than one hundred female staff who previously worked there, only three - a midwife, a doctor, and a nurse - are currently permitted to work, under strict conditions requiring them to wear a burqa at all times.

So it appears that no, the Taliban are not really allowing humanitarian staff to treat women. That's a 97% reduction in female staff who can treat women.

If they're also strictly enforcing the 'no men treating women' rule this leaves Afghan women and girls without care.

I wonder why there's not more media noise about this. Maybe Joanna Lumley and Judi Dench could do a letter?

whatwouldafeministdo · 11/01/2026 10:14

I mean since women wearing the burkha is to prevent men seeing their bodies and there is now a ban on females working as HCPs it raises the question of whether there is anyone to treat them even if they do turn up in the hospital in a burkha. And what happens to any HCPs who might provide this care.

whatwouldafeministdo · 11/01/2026 10:13

GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 09:53

The Taliban allow aid agencies like MSF access to Afghani women and children

https://www.msf.org/afghanistan

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I'm not at all sure this is still true. Most of the information on their webpage pre-dates the most restrictive bans on women being HCPs, and receiving care from HCPs.

It's quite worrying actually - the latest post I can find is from Oct 25 talking about how women cannot now access any healthcare unless they wear a burkha. There is very limited information and they do not address the question of whether they are able to provide care to women and girls as well as men now. I could find an article with only men pictured talking about caring for men in 2025 - the lack of women was a bit concerning.

I wish MSF(and other aid agencies who say they're working in Afghanistan) would explicitly address this - there are certainly reports that aid agencies have been denied access to help women in Afghanistan.

The LATEST date on the webpage you've posted is 2024. A lot has changed for women and girls in Afghanistan in the past year.

GiantBranch · 11/01/2026 09:53

Clementi · 11/01/2026 08:53

And if it were about women being denied maternity and health care then they would also be campaigning for Afghan women. But this is not about women at all - they are just pawns and the people signing this letter are supporting the actions of Hamas whether intentionally or not.

The Taliban allow aid agencies like MSF access to Afghani women and children

https://www.msf.org/afghanistan

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Nyeaccident · 11/01/2026 09:51

BIossomtoes · 11/01/2026 08:16

That’s a ridiculous comment. Everyone chooses where they choose to focus their energy.

It's baffling though that out of all the ways they've chosen to focus their energy they've chosen to focus it on exerting pressure uniquely on Justine

Strange for women who must have a network of publicists and media types at their fingertips to feel that they needed to single out an individual to run this campaign for them rather than just getting on doing it themselves

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