Angry woman on plane, Was we BU?

Your DH was being an obstructive prick.

even more unreasonable then

It was morning.

Cabin lights dimmed = recline

Plane operators should have a lock on recline. Allowing it at set times to avoid the drama.

This was a morning flight. Ds could have put head one parent's lap and feet on other parent's lap.

The DH was/is a dick

No I think your husband was the unreasonable one. I think there's a reason why my husband is unwilling to fly economy!

Nonsense. If their 4 year old child needed to stretch out to sleep then they could have raised their arm rests and let him lie across both their laps. I am sure he would have been very comfortable. Oh, but that would have inconvenienced the OP and her knob head DH rather than the passenger behind.

This!

oh boo hoo.
One night's bad sleep due to a plane journey would not kill him

Why does the seat need to be fully reclined for a 4 year old? I don’t understand. They’re not particularly tall at that age, fully reclining it is just done to piss off the passengers in the back surely, as their body isn’t changing position much by being upright or fully reclined given their short/compressed torso.

I think he’s being a shit dad by dragging his kid into drama and complaints, particularly once he saw the child remained asleep upright and when staff had also made a request. I think he was just using your son as a tool to prove he was right, not because he cared about your son. Total performance parenting.

Oh I’m going against the grain here. I think it was fine to recline the seat for a child who was sleeping.

If your DH had done it for himself, different story, but I’d never complain about a child being made comfortable.

Its horrible sitting behind a reclined seat on a long day flight when stuff is happening. Different after all service is done on a night flight when most of them are reclined and the lights are off.

Your DH sounds like a bloody minded, selfish idiot.

Agreed, it's an unspoken social rule that you just don't recline them because it's horrible for the person sat behind, but actually this is on the airline for providing reclining seats that aren't useable and then having stewards ask people not to use that feature.

Aside from that your dh was being very unreasonable. You could have easily worked round it with no need to recline he was just doubling down.

Where does this insane idea that you should never recliner your seat to be polite to the person behind come from. I couldn't care less if the person in front of me recliner, the tv's tilt and if I need to I recline too. I've never encountered anyone who hasn't put their seat up during mealtimes either.

Are these anti recline people the same ones who refuse to merge in turn?

At this point I am over this argument, having tried to be the better person and not recline even on long haul flights after one too many times stuck behind the person that recline on takeoff and goes right to sleep while I remain upright to be considerate, I now recline when appropriate on night flights. Won’t do it on a short one but fair game otherwise. I try to pick and if necessary pay for seats that avoid this problem but it isn’t always possible

He should at least have waited to recline the seat until after the meal and drinks were finished and it would have been polite to say to the people behind "we've had an early start, DS is tired and he needs a nap, do you mind if we put the seat back for him"

If it's not an overnight flight, you are totally BU to expect to have a seat reclined for the whole flight. Very selfish and inconsiderate.

Going to go against the grain here…

the seats recline so they are there to be reclined. Despite most this thread being full of people who have their own weird etiquette about reclining seats there are no rules, they recline and you can recline them. Doesn’t matter how old your son is he is equally entitled to be comfortable in his seat, which relines, as anyone else.

DH was unreasonable to argue with the hostess though.

Airplane seats have so little room these days. When someone in front of you reclines their seat, it encroaches into what little personal space you have. As a minimum, I think good manners and common sense would suggest asking the person behind if they mind. To just do it without regard for others is selfish and is, I guess, symptomatic of how your husband views other people. The world would be a lot worse if everyone behaved like this. I don't actually have an issue with the language of the woman behind. Would being polite to your rude husband have worked? Someone I doubt it.

This is selfish for the person behind you, they can't use the in-flight entertainment screen if you're reckoned the whole time and they have less space. For a night flight only would this be ok.

If you need to recline constantly then you need to pay for business or first.

I'll have to look out for this flew ba in October didn't see anything. good if it's being implemented

Did you really need to post on here to find out that yes, your husband is indeed a twat. I would have been kicking the fuck out of his seat if I had been sat behind him.

Yes you was BU, very much so.

Yes and it pretty much renders the use of the screen

and with those touchscreens how does it work you can play games on them (chess who wants to be a millionaire etc) and they move a lot when in recline

So rude I hate people who recline seats in economy I honestly just wish they wouldn’t let people - it makes marginal diff to comfort and you always get people like your DH taking the piss.

Most airlines have reduced the pitch of their seats and 2” is now standard. That’s the top of the seat being 2” nearer to the passenger’s face behind. The whole seat doesn’t move, you still have the same legroom.

Neither have I. I’d love to know which airline this is!