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Winterstorms2 · 2026-01-08T16:34:46+00:00

My friend recently got into an argument with her friend. The argument started off as a conversation which quickly turned into an argument, (my friends friend accusing her of things, name calling her etc) in the end my friend was spat at. She was horrified but does not want to do anything about it. My friend’s “friend” is a teacher. AIBU to think my friend should inform the school of this behaviour? Im tempted to do so myself! Our children both attend the school she teaches at. What would you feelings be?

Lightuptheroom · 12/01/2026 08:37

Just to be factual.
As a pp has said, the police can request the other person attends an interview. From that it goes to the CPS who decide whether to charge, whether it's no further action, or a caution may be offered. A 'not in the public interest' outcome indicates that it's basically too expensive to bring the case to court.
A person's profession isn't taken into account at this stage, though an employer can take their own actions (ie suspend the employee pending the investigation) a DBS is only 'affected' if a person is actually charged or cautioned NOT at point of investigation.
The person reporting to the police will be kept updated BY THE POLICE in their own time scale, it is not for the employer to do so.
The fact is anyone can make an allegation against anyone and the threshold for calling a person to interview is very low. Not so with a caution or a charge. In op case she will need to stop discussing this once its been reported and let the law do it's job.

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 12/01/2026 08:24

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CunningLinguist2 · 12/01/2026 08:09

Winterstorms2 · 12/01/2026 08:05

i actually wasnt correcting a typo… I dont bother to correct typo’s as you can see 😉

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I was correcting YOUR typo - then realised it's a MN no-no.
Anyways, good morning and good Monday to you - you still come across exactly as last week. Combative and not my type :D

CherryBlossom321 · 12/01/2026 08:05

AutumnAllTheWay · 12/01/2026 01:13

Are you 4?

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I see - you can dish it out, but you really struggle to take it 🙂

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Winterstorms2 · 12/01/2026 08:05

CunningLinguist2 · 12/01/2026 07:30

edited as correcting typos is a no no :)

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i actually wasnt correcting a typo… I dont bother to correct typo’s as you can see 😉

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Winterstorms2 · 12/01/2026 08:04

HelenaWaiting · 12/01/2026 07:42

Not by a teacher, and the police are unlikely to take a person's profession into account when they decide whether or not to charge. If they do decide to charge, that is when professional standards come into play.

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rainbowsandraspberrygin · 12/01/2026 07:52

In the current case it would be in the public interest due to her role and safeguarding.

I'm not sure what happened with the fractured jaw - maybe that was peer to peer. In which case it doesn’t affect anyone else.

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 12/01/2026 07:50

HelenaWaiting · 12/01/2026 07:42

Not by a teacher, and the police are unlikely to take a person's profession into account when they decide whether or not to charge. If they do decide to charge, that is when professional standards come into play.

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The school will though regardless.

if a teacher at a school I worked in spat on a parent of a child in the school - that would not be ignored.

hopefully it would go on their DBS too.

HelenaWaiting · 12/01/2026 07:42

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 12/01/2026 07:20

By a teacher? Because that’s the point here.

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Not by a teacher, and the police are unlikely to take a person's profession into account when they decide whether or not to charge. If they do decide to charge, that is when professional standards come into play.

CunningLinguist2 · 12/01/2026 07:30

Winterstorms2 · 12/01/2026 00:03

Glad to be of service 😉 btw, I thought your last post as you so dramatically declared was a good few posts back… but your back 😂

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edited as correcting typos is a no no :)

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 12/01/2026 07:21

AutumnAllTheWay · 12/01/2026 01:13

Are you 4?

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I thought you weren’t coming back?!

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 12/01/2026 07:20

HelenaWaiting · 12/01/2026 07:01

You might be bitterly disappointed, OP. CCTV is rarely of the quality that the public seem to believe it is. It is possible that someone spitting won't be detectable on the images. Also, bearing in mind that this is likely to be regarded as common assault - which is a minor crime - the police may well decide to take no action. One of my sons was assaulted - not spat on, his cheekbone was fractured - and there were witnesses. No charges were brought. "Not in the public interest".

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By a teacher? Because that’s the point here.

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Winterstorms2 · 12/01/2026 07:14

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Its always a last resort on these threads when people resort to correct spellings and grammar, you see it time and time again when people are clutching at straws. It goes against talk guidelines btw..

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HelenaWaiting · 12/01/2026 07:05

Winterstorms2 · 09/01/2026 16:04

Let the witch hunt commence mwahaha 🧙‍♀️🧙‍♀️🙈😂😂

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Doesn't seem like much hunting will be required tbf.

HelenaWaiting · 12/01/2026 07:01

Winterstorms2 · 12/01/2026 00:03

Glad to be of service 😉 btw, I thought your last post as you so dramatically declared was a good few posts back… but your back 😂

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You might be bitterly disappointed, OP. CCTV is rarely of the quality that the public seem to believe it is. It is possible that someone spitting won't be detectable on the images. Also, bearing in mind that this is likely to be regarded as common assault - which is a minor crime - the police may well decide to take no action. One of my sons was assaulted - not spat on, his cheekbone was fractured - and there were witnesses. No charges were brought. "Not in the public interest".

X123x321X · 12/01/2026 06:17

Witchcraftandhokum · 11/01/2026 19:54

So you're prepared to ruin her career and possibly her life?

If someone spat at me, I'd report them to the police, and take it from there. If they choose not to act like a civilised person, they deserve everything they get.

AutumnAllTheWay · 12/01/2026 01:13

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Are you 4?

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BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 12/01/2026 00:53

Wait... OP did you once also have a teacher hit on you whilst out clubbing?

You're giving me similar vibes...

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 12/01/2026 00:52

Winterstorms2 · 11/01/2026 22:51

“Good lord. Teachers are people. They are varied, like the rest of the population. Some of them aren't that nice. Some of them get up to all kinds of things outside of school! There already aren't nearly enough teachers. If you're holding out for all teachers to be morally irreproachable, I'm afraid you're being wildly unrealistic.”

please excuse me… but this sounds suspiciously like condoning spitting…

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Except it really doesn't 🤣

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Glad to be of service 😉 btw, I thought your last post as you so dramatically declared was a good few posts back… but your back 😂

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Winterstorms2 · 11/01/2026 23:32

Bushmillsbabe · 11/01/2026 23:24

Yet you stated that prior to this incident you did not dislike this lady, until she spat. Which is it?

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true, the spitting unleashed a severe disgust in me I must admit.

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