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Would you inform the school?

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Winterstorms2 · 08/01/2026 16:34

My friend recently got into an argument with her friend. The argument started off as a conversation which quickly turned into an argument, (my friends friend accusing her of things, name calling her etc) in the end my friend was spat at. She was horrified but does not want to do anything about it. My friend’s “friend” is a teacher. AIBU to think my friend should inform the school of this behaviour? Im tempted to do so myself! Our children both attend the school she teaches at. What would you feelings be?

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PevenseygirlQQ · 08/01/2026 16:41

If your friend doesn’t want to report anything then I suggest you just mind your business

CheddarCheeseAndCrispSandwich · 08/01/2026 16:40

Did this happen in the school or school grounds? If yes, then report it. If no, and this was a ‘private argument’ then of course not! That would be absurd! People fall out, argue, even spit (god awful behaviour, but it happens 😫). We don’t go round reporting these arguments to everyone’s employer do we ffs? 🤦‍♀️

Hankunamatata · 08/01/2026 16:39

Unless this was actually in school with another member of staff then no should not report it to the school.

That would just be massive s#it stirring

cantkeepawayforever · 08/01/2026 16:38

(I have assumed this was not at school, and not while she was acting in her professional capacity. Obviously if it was during a parent-teacher meeting on the school premises, the situation is different)

Spirallingdownwards · 08/01/2026 16:38

"Your friend" should not inform her friend's employer. What on earth makes "your friend" think a personal argument (however badly either of them behaved) is anything to do with them?

Bonsaibaby · 08/01/2026 16:38

Spitting is classed as assault I believe so she should tell the police rather than school if she wants to report it!

surreygirly · 08/01/2026 16:38

Jesus wept
Mind your own business you snake busybidy

Frostynoman · 08/01/2026 16:37

What provocation did your friend give? Are you trying to be petty and get revenge or are you genuinely worried about the students welfare?

cantkeepawayforever · 08/01/2026 16:37

If you would report her to her employer, regardless of who employs her, then the fact that she is a teacher should not put you off.

If you would only report a teacher for this behaviour, why? If you would not report her to any other employer, don’t.

Blushingm · 08/01/2026 16:37

Did it happen at school

Did you witness it?

Jellybunny56 · 08/01/2026 16:37

Teachers are also humans, they do lots of things in their personal lives that they don’t do in school. Unless she did this on school grounds or infront of her class I don’t see how this is relevant info.

FuzzyWolf · 08/01/2026 16:36

Was this during her working time, at school and witnessed first hand by you?

Martymcfly24 · 08/01/2026 16:36

Did it happen on school property or in view of her class?

VickyEadieofThigh · 08/01/2026 16:35

Were you there to witness the incident?

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/01/2026 16:35

Was this in school?