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To not want to go to USA?

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DalekStarmer · 08/01/2026 09:05

DH and I used to go to the states every year on holiday. Different places each time - we loved it. This stopped during Covid when our holiday to Montana was cancelled. After Covid we planned to go back but ended up cancelling due to various things. Anyway, DH is keen to get back to our US trips and wanted to go last year. I said I didn’t fancy it due to Trump and the new hostile attitude towards foreigners. I said I’d consider it this year … now I’m even less in favour of it. It just doesn’t feel safe at all. DH is disappointed. AIBU?

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Hotandbothered222 · 08/01/2026 09:18

Not safe? Genuinely, what do you think is going to happen to you, as a tourist?

Sarah2891 · 08/01/2026 09:17

Definitely not. I wouldn't go near there.

Boolabus · 08/01/2026 09:16

I love the States have worked there before and have family there. I was last there in 2024 so not too long ago. I have no interest in going at the moment while Trump is in power. We have family in Seattle and had been planning to visit at some stage next year. We have all agreed it might be nicer to meet just over the border in Canada for a holiday instead.

Zeroninethirty · 08/01/2026 09:15

Yanbu to not want to go there. In general its probably safe for a tourist but just seems so messed up and yiud have to bite your tongue in certain places.. is it wyoming or montana that have the highest trump support per capita? (Albeit capita smaller!) .

My American friends only go back to see family and because in their words "only because we have to"

Go to Canada 🇨🇦 ive always enjoyed trips there.

WhatIsTheCharge · 08/01/2026 09:15

LemonyCurd · 08/01/2026 09:13

Honestly, I think it’s mental. US is perfectly safe. It feels a really performative, social media driven thing atm to say you refuse to go there because you don’t like Trump.

It’s safe if you’re white and have an American accent.

Its categorically not safe in major cities for people who are even slightly brown and/or have a foreign accent with the Gestapo marching around.

LemonyCurd · 08/01/2026 09:13

Honestly, I think it’s mental. US is perfectly safe. It feels a really performative, social media driven thing atm to say you refuse to go there because you don’t like Trump.

ScaredOfFlying · 08/01/2026 09:13

I don’t fear it being unsafe, though have heard that some cities have much more visible drug problems than before. I have had amazing holidays in the past to NY, California, Texas and New England. However we have decided as a family not to go there while Trump remains in office. We know he doesn't give a shit about our meagre tourist dollar but it feels wrong to endorse his regime.

WhatIsTheCharge · 08/01/2026 09:13

I’m married to an American…..we got the hell outta dodge back in December and came back to the U.K.
We won’t be going back for the foreseeable future.

ErrolTheDragon · 08/01/2026 09:12

Not much of a holiday if you’re likely to feel ‘on edge’. There’s so many other places in the world, and as someone else has said, Canada would be an obvious alternative.

DalekStarmer · 08/01/2026 09:12

We’ve been to various places in Italy since the USA trips stopped. I quite fancy trying Sicily this year

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MapleOakPine · 08/01/2026 09:11

There are lots of other places in the world to go to. Isn't your DH keen to visit any of them? I wouldn't want to go to the US right now.

Coffeeishot · 08/01/2026 09:09

I wouldn't go atm i would rather have a "dissapointed" husband than visit the US.

BitOutOfPractice · 08/01/2026 09:09

We went to Massachusetts last year to visit friends. Not even a whiff of trump there. Maybe pick your spot?

Or, here’s a thought, pick somewhere else in the big wide world. Why is your dh so wedded to America?

MinnieCauldwell · 08/01/2026 09:08

I wouldn't want to give the trump regime my money. I have a friend there in a red state but I will never visit again now.

I would love to go to Canada though. I think they would be more welcoming also.

KenAdams · 08/01/2026 09:06

I've decided not to go until after this administration is out. We have family there though.

mindutopia · 08/01/2026 09:06

I’m American and I wouldn’t travel there right now, no. I haven’t been back in 8 years.