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Dollyfloss · 08/01/2026 09:27

RedefineAllThoseBlues · 08/01/2026 09:02

This really happened to me with low-carbing. It worked very quickly (three stone off in three months) but was so restrictive and so strict that the rebound was insanely fast. It was like a tension that built up and built up and when the dam burst, I went absolutely crazy on carbs and put four stone on in about eighteen months.

For me personally on WLIs, no food group is off-limits. I know some people struggle to eat certain things due to side effects, but that isn't the case for everyone. I eat three meals a day, I don't calorie count and there is nothing like the restriction and obsession I have had previously. I just eat nourishing, nice food and I exercise. If I came off them, I would absolutely regain but not any differently to how it's gone before for me on every diet and exercise plan I've done in the past thirty-five years. I don't intend or expect to stop taking them, for this reason.

I’m exactly the same and I have also gained weight really fast after other weight loss methods.

Another point I’d like to make is that - surely there is much more data being recorded from people taking WLI’s as it’s the “new” thing and they’re still monitoring it closely.

Who is recording the weight gain of people doing classic calorie counting or slimming world? And how?

When people stop taking WLI’s there’s a date set in stone when they stopped taking it. This can’t be said with other weight loss methods can it? As it’s not taking a drug and then stopping - it’s usually a gradual slipping back into old ways - so what are they even comparing it to?

I don’t really understand how classic dieting can even be compared to WLI’s.

ShawnaMacallister · 08/01/2026 09:27

Passingthrough123 · 08/01/2026 09:21

Why can WLI users have a reasoned debate without getting so prickly and defensive?! It happens every time. We're discussing a story that's headline news today and yes, I have used my own experience. Just like you are in your arguments.

I'm not saying I don't experience food noise either. I'm saying mine is definitely related to body image that triggers me into thinking about food and I simply mooted if that's what people mean by food noise rather than actually thinking about crisps and carbs 24/7.

Why do you think people are defensive when you allege that something stressful and debilitating that it has been really empowering for people to discuss and share experiences of doesn't really exist because you don't experience it?!

I simply mooted if that's what people mean by food noise rather than actually thinking about crisps and carbs 24/7

No you didn't, you said it has been overhyped and said you didn't believe people experience it in the way they say they do because you don't experience it that way.

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 09:27

ShawnaMacallister · 08/01/2026 09:20

Food addiction is completely different to substance addiction and can't be considered in the same way. We need food to live; we don't need alcohol or drugs. Abstinence is possible and desirable for substances but impossible for food. Additionally addictions are often medically treated long term too. Some alcoholics need to stay on Antabuse for years. Some addicts will be on methadone or subutex for the rest of their lives. Medication is often a long term part of recovery, and when the substance is food, medication may be necessary for long term recovery for many people.

Well if that what it takes for some addicts, then yes, medication should be offered it for life!

There are plenty of former alcoholics, drug users and food addicts that do it without medication though and fight through the days and eventually retrain their brain. I suppose it depends on how much you want to stop!

Binus · 08/01/2026 09:26

Passingthrough123 · 08/01/2026 09:24

I think everyone agrees that's the conclusion! It's definitely a lifelong med. The issue now is the cost and whether Big Pharma is prepared to lower it knowing that it will most likely dent their profit margins because the more people on WLI/tablets, the more people will come off other meds for other conditions.

I think you're crediting people with more sense than they deserve! There are frequent posts on here telling people they can't expect to stay on it long term, it's not reasonable or realistic etc.

Agree with the rest of your post though.

dogrilla · 08/01/2026 09:25

i micro dosed MJ last year and got to my goal weight very slowly and stabilised with good habits, but as soon as I came off it I was uncontrollably ravenous - the insane hunger was all I could think about. Don't think I ate especially unhealthily but going back to 3 meals meant I put on more than I lost in the first place. Gutted as I don't want to go back on due to mega hair loss and my eyesight deteriorating

Passingthrough123 · 08/01/2026 09:24

RedefineAllThoseBlues · 08/01/2026 09:17

But everyone in the study, whether on behavioural programs or medications, regained all the weight they lost. It took a bit longer for the behavioural program group, but either way, within four years all of them had put it back on again. So this seems to support staying on medication long-term as the best option for managing obesity.

I think everyone agrees that's the conclusion! It's definitely a lifelong med. The issue now is the cost and whether Big Pharma is prepared to lower it knowing that it will most likely dent their profit margins because the more people on WLI/tablets, the more people will come off other meds for other conditions.

YuleLogsAndEggNog · 08/01/2026 09:24

I've been taking WLI for a year and have lost 4 stones. My loss has been slow and steady and I have used this time to really look at my diet.
My BMI has reduced from 45 to 34......I still have a way to go but its a marathon not a sprint.
I am hopeful that the changes I have made will be embedded by the time I stop the medication.

I know many people taking WLI who have lost a lot of weight quickly by eating tiny amounts but who haven't made any lifestyle changes.....I fear they will regain the weight unless they make changes to their diet.
WLI are an amazing tool to help people regain control and lose the weight ....but its not the magic solution many think it is.
Diet and lifestyle changes are vital.

whyaretheylikethis · 08/01/2026 09:24

I was and lost just over 2 stone, I stopped in August last year and since then I have gained / lost the same 1-3lbs each week so I would say I'm maintaining.

Its manageable if you stick to it but I'll be honest, the food noise is horrific some days and does make me consider going back on.

I'm happy with my weight now but I really liked the food noise being gone, it really does take over some days.

SilenceInside · 08/01/2026 09:23

@darkmatterspacemystery if you’ve worked in this kind of field, what do you think the solution is to obesity?

Binus · 08/01/2026 09:22

darkmatterspacemystery · 08/01/2026 09:19

I strongly disagree having worked in this field.

Which field, obesity or anxiety, and why? I assume you mean with the first paragraph, since the second isn't a matter of opinion.

Passingthrough123 · 08/01/2026 09:21

ShawnaMacallister · 08/01/2026 09:04

Congratulations, you've taken your own experience and extrapolated a conclusion that something doesn't exist because you don't experience it. And no, I'm not saying internal body shaming is the issue at all. I'm saying that internalised shame around the existence of debilitating food noise is harmful and isolating. The fact that people are now talking openly about the existence of this symptom is positive, and it he huge numbers of people sharing that they experience this indicates it's a real and widespread symptom.

Why can WLI users have a reasoned debate without getting so prickly and defensive?! It happens every time. We're discussing a story that's headline news today and yes, I have used my own experience. Just like you are in your arguments.

I'm not saying I don't experience food noise either. I'm saying mine is definitely related to body image that triggers me into thinking about food and I simply mooted if that's what people mean by food noise rather than actually thinking about crisps and carbs 24/7.

ClarafromHR · 08/01/2026 09:20

I’ve been on Mounjaro for over a year now and have lost 25 kilos. I’d like to lose another 5 but am not really bothered if I don’t. I will probably start to down titrate in the spring but expect to be on it for life.
Yes, it’s expensive and even more so for me because I see a private GP - I have a heart condition so want to be monitored closely - but it’s worth it. I feel great and I believe that I have changed some of my habits. I certainly don’t drink anywhere near as much wine as I used to and that’s been good.

TheRealMagic · 08/01/2026 09:20

darkmatterspacemystery · 08/01/2026 09:17

Yes, and lots of people CAN manage their anxiety with CBT, EMDR, mindfulness/lifestyle changes etc. Medication isnt for everyone either- sertraline can have horrendous side effects for some people and it can increase suicidal ideation in certain people.

Right, and some people can control their weight very effectively without WLIs, and others very much struggle to do so. No one thinks people should be taking any medication if they'd be just as fine without it, or that any medication will work for everyone, but why wouldn't we use effective medications to address problems if we have them?

ShawnaMacallister · 08/01/2026 09:20

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 09:17

Yes, but it’s the same for any addiction. Those abusing alcohol and drugs who then stop have to face their demons daily and get through it so that they don’t relapse. It’s no different for obesity. Obese people who have lost weight using these injections have lowered their food intake and are now in recovery just like other addicts. We shouldn’t be saying ‘oh the disease is back, they can’t help it’. The disease is there for all addicts and we should treat them equally.

Obesity doesn’t just destroy the life of the obese people, it leads to multiple health conditions which heavily impacts families just substance abuse does.

Im delighted this medication is available to obese people to kick-start their recovery.

Food addiction is completely different to substance addiction and can't be considered in the same way. We need food to live; we don't need alcohol or drugs. Abstinence is possible and desirable for substances but impossible for food. Additionally addictions are often medically treated long term too. Some alcoholics need to stay on Antabuse for years. Some addicts will be on methadone or subutex for the rest of their lives. Medication is often a long term part of recovery, and when the substance is food, medication may be necessary for long term recovery for many people.

darkmatterspacemystery · 08/01/2026 09:19

Binus · 08/01/2026 09:18

No it couldn't, because it's an entirely different condition. The fact that psychological methods exist to treat one problem stemming from evolution is not evidence that such methods must also exist and be helpful for others.

Ultimately, most humans who've ever lived did so in environments where being able to eat lots of high calorie food when opportunity presented was helpful. It's only over the last century or so that the majority of us were no longer in such conditions, and during that period a great many of us were on the effective appetite suppressant drug nicotine. People think there must be a way to change human behaviour to match our environment because they like the idea, but it is nothing but guesswork.

I strongly disagree having worked in this field.

Binus · 08/01/2026 09:18

darkmatterspacemystery · 08/01/2026 09:10

But nobody who makes this argument has ever explained how you think you're going to psychologically support away a trait that was beneficial for most of human history, and is only a problem now that we no longer live in circumstances where starvation is an ever present threat.

The exact same argument could be made for chronic anxiety whereby people going into fight or flight mode was useful for our ancestors facing predators or physical threats but not modern humans going shopping at Tescos. Yet there are plenty of methods to treat anxiety and no-one says it's pointless because you cannot remove the survival part of your brain - the amygdala which is where fight or flight occurs.

No it couldn't, because it's an entirely different condition. The fact that psychological methods exist to treat one problem stemming from evolution is not evidence that such methods must also exist and be helpful for others.

Ultimately, most humans who've ever lived did so in environments where being able to eat lots of high calorie food when opportunity presented was helpful. It's only over the last century or so that the majority of us were no longer in such conditions, and during that period a great many of us were on the effective appetite suppressant drug nicotine. People think there must be a way to change human behaviour to match our environment because they like the idea, but it is nothing but guesswork.

RedefineAllThoseBlues · 08/01/2026 09:17

Passingthrough123 · 08/01/2026 08:55

You want other studies? The Guardian article sets it out! Doesn't seem like poor reporting to me.

The study, led by academics at the University of Oxford and published in the BMJ, included a review of 37 existing studies regarding weight loss medication, involving 9,341 participants. The average duration of weight loss treatment being 39 weeks while the average follow up period was 32 weeks.

On average, weight was regained at a rate of 0.4kg per month for people who had stopped taking the medication, the analysis found, with participants returning to their original weight within an average of 1.7 years after stopping any type of weight loss medication.

Specifically, people on any kind of weight loss medication lost an average of 8.3kg during treatment, but regained 4.8kg within the first year.

The rate at which weight was regained after stopping these medications was almost four times faster compared with behavioural programmes, which may include a specific diet or physical activity plan, regardless of the amount of weight that was lost during treatment.

But everyone in the study, whether on behavioural programs or medications, regained all the weight they lost. It took a bit longer for the behavioural program group, but either way, within four years all of them had put it back on again. So this seems to support staying on medication long-term as the best option for managing obesity.

darkmatterspacemystery · 08/01/2026 09:17

TheRealMagic · 08/01/2026 09:14

But lots of people can only get their anxiety under control with medication - there are other methods but they're not enough for everyone, and indeed many people benefit most from a combination of medication and talk therapy. Despite plenty of (useful and effective) therapy, I think I will take Sertraline for the rest of my life. This seems to attract a lot less outrage and faux concern than if I said I thought I was going to take Mounjaro for the rest of my life.

Yes, and lots of people CAN manage their anxiety with CBT, EMDR, mindfulness/lifestyle changes etc. Medication isnt for everyone either- sertraline can have horrendous side effects for some people and it can increase suicidal ideation in certain people.

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 09:17

Thesofathatwas · 08/01/2026 06:33

In a nutshell and beautifully explained.

Yes, but it’s the same for any addiction. Those abusing alcohol and drugs who then stop have to face their demons daily and get through it so that they don’t relapse. It’s no different for obesity. Obese people who have lost weight using these injections have lowered their food intake and are now in recovery just like other addicts. We shouldn’t be saying ‘oh the disease is back, they can’t help it’. The disease is there for all addicts and we should treat them equally.

Obesity doesn’t just destroy the life of the obese people, it leads to multiple health conditions which heavily impacts families just substance abuse does.

Im delighted this medication is available to obese people to kick-start their recovery.

Dollyfloss · 08/01/2026 09:16

reluctantbrit · 08/01/2026 08:45

That will depend why you ate in the first place.

I ate carbs and sugar to "reward" and feel good when shit hit the fan due to a variety of reasons.

I can't eat carbs a lot anymore, my stomach hates anything processed. I have to re-learn to sort out my issues without food as the go-to solution and have started over the last 6 months finding ways to do this.

Will I crave things? Yes, I am pretty sure. But for me the jabs are more than just loosing the weight, they are a tool letting me revamp my life and I find it far more satisfying being able to walk 3 miles without getting out of breath and needing a sugar fix because my blood sugar plumbed.

Absolutely - I’m just responding to a pp saying that WLI’s make you gain weight much faster when you stop, more so than any other weight loss method.

There will also be a lot of people who just gain the weight at a normal rate - but the media doesn’t report those as it won’t get as many clicks!

Some people really seem to want to believe that WLI’s = bad for whatever reason. I think they’d be best looking internally at the reasons why this is and being completely honest with themselves.

itsthetea · 08/01/2026 09:15

Given that most diets have a temporary effect it’s hardly a surprise that people regain if they come off the drugs

some people will manage to keep the weight mostly off but the drugs don’t change anything permanently so unless you change something you go back

I don’t think this is the first study to find this - most find the long term diets are slightly more effective possibly because with a diet you have to consciously change what you eat and that might stick a little

the drugs can help but are not a miracle solution

I would have thought that you would be more likely to keep weight off long term if you were aware of the pitfalls

Springswallow · 08/01/2026 09:15

But also ...every diet I've ever done ,the weight has gone back on and more .
I'm not honestly expecting it to stay of this time either
I'm aware it will be a constant battle and I'm prepared for that

IreneFromSkibbereen · 08/01/2026 09:14

PersephonePomegranate · 08/01/2026 06:29

This is why its imperative that weightloss is treated psychologically as well as physically. I've said this before and I always get shouted down by those posters screeching 'it's not my fault, my metabolism is screwed' then citing a list of junk and high sugar foods that have done the damage 'the science says....'

Yes, your metabolism is screwed by eating the wrong things, but why are you eating them? Of course it's true that some foods are addictive and do change your metabolism over a long time of over consumption, no question - many of us are affected and have cravings, but what it is that makes some people continue to eat or drink them beyond reason and at the cost of their health? That's the nub of the problem.

Edited

Agree but this still leaves a physical problem to be solved: why do some people eat when they are hungry, but stop immediately they have had enough, while others simply don’t seem to have that natural braking system - they go on and on, until they are too full. Or they feel compelled to snack throughout the day?

It seems there are quite dramatic natural differences between individuals, maybe genetic?

TheRealMagic · 08/01/2026 09:14

darkmatterspacemystery · 08/01/2026 09:10

But nobody who makes this argument has ever explained how you think you're going to psychologically support away a trait that was beneficial for most of human history, and is only a problem now that we no longer live in circumstances where starvation is an ever present threat.

The exact same argument could be made for chronic anxiety whereby people going into fight or flight mode was useful for our ancestors facing predators or physical threats but not modern humans going shopping at Tescos. Yet there are plenty of methods to treat anxiety and no-one says it's pointless because you cannot remove the survival part of your brain - the amygdala which is where fight or flight occurs.

But lots of people can only get their anxiety under control with medication - there are other methods but they're not enough for everyone, and indeed many people benefit most from a combination of medication and talk therapy. Despite plenty of (useful and effective) therapy, I think I will take Sertraline for the rest of my life. This seems to attract a lot less outrage and faux concern than if I said I thought I was going to take Mounjaro for the rest of my life.

Springswallow · 08/01/2026 09:12

I've lost 10 stone on them ,and have another 4 to go.
I plan to come of them in the summer this year
But if weight goes back on ,I will go back on the jabs at the earliest opportunity
I do believe there are alternatives in the pipeline for maintenance tablets rather than jabbing ,which I'm keeping my eye out for